It isn't getting any easier

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2006
It isn't getting any easier
Mon, 04-16-2012 - 9:19pm

June will be 3 years since my mom died and it isn't getting any easier.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 5:32am

HI and I am sorry that you lost your Mom, this May 15th will be 2 years since my Mom died and May 16th will be 1.5 years since my husband suddenly died so I know that ongoing feelings of loss and sadness.

Have you seen a professional counselor?

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 2:24pm

I am real sorry for your loss. Moms are special people.

Josie has already mentioned talking therapy but I am also wondering if there is apossibility you may have slid into depression without realizing it ? I gather that menopause can have this effect on us women and that, combined with your bereavement, might be adding to your distress?

People are good at making those pointless comments about our loved ones being in a better place. Don't they know we want them here with us and their remarks, though meant well I am sure, just pile on even more pain.

We don't have all the answers but I hope you will feel comfortable talking with us and I hope having somewhere to share your thoughts and emotions will enable you to heal a bit.