Is It Normal To....

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Registered: 12-29-2010
Is It Normal To....
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Tue, 11-08-2011 - 1:14pm

Feel worse as time goes by instead of better? I think I must have been in some kind of shell shock fo rthe first year after my husband's death. I thought I was coping well and just getting thru it all. But lately I found myself reminded of him and others who have died recently. Everywhere I go are memories--stores, places,food and even tv shows--its so sharp and hurtful to think they will never be there again or see this again! Maybe its just sinking in now that they are really gone--permanetly.

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:13pm

Hey Lisas,

welcome to the board.



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Registered: 10-28-2011
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:21pm

My personal experience has been that feeling and coming to terms with the full nature of loss and grief takes a long time, kind of like your brain is sifting through the rubble of your life, and it's out of your control.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:54pm

Hi.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 2:57pm
Well said Barbara.
We did a grief book at church and they called it: grief bursts and compared this journey to being in the wilderness and trying to find your way out.
I find I lose my temper at my puppy, and how ridiculous I must look outside yanking a 14# on her leash saying the bad words as she won't pee on command. Later when I cool down I feel awful and silly. But I know I am trying to have power over puppy since I didn't have any power on him dying in that crash.
Josie
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Registered: 12-29-2010
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 3:48pm

Thanks for answering my question all those above. I am releived to hear that this is somewhat normal.....

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Registered: 10-28-2011
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 4:49pm

I feel so bad for you Josie... and everyone here.