loss of my Dad

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Registered: 07-26-2007
loss of my Dad
Sun, 12-09-2012 - 10:06am

My Dad passed away on tuesday. It was very unexpected and sudden. My Dad was 64 and I am 28. I know when someone losses someone it is always horrible but the experience we went through was terrible.; I wont tell the whole story just let you know my dad went in the hospital for chest pains. They were doing a test on him and the doctor admited he messed up and one of his arteries ruptured.; That happened at 1pm we waited all day and they kept telling us different things. Like we have hope he is responsive and we are going to monitor him and wait. To telling us he is not going to make it. Back and forth all day. Til 11pm one nurse told us we had to do a dnr because he would not make it and we should say our goodbyes. It was so sad and emotional I was crying saying I wasnt ready to day goodbye. The doctor had to hold me and tell me to let my heart out tell my dad how I felt. I wake up today still so sad. I can't believe this is my life now all i can think about it that day my Dad died and the future with out him. I know my Dad was not perfect but he was a really good guy. He raised my sister who was my moms child from a previous marraige and he also helped raise my nephew who is 11 because my sister is not capable. I am so sad that my nephew who spend so much time with my dad because they lived together and my dad was retired so he was with him all day. I just dont want my nephew to forget him. I know everyone will lose their parents at some time I just never thought I would only be 28. I wanted to do so much more, get married have kids and not he wont be here for any of that. I'm just not ready and don't know how to cope.

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 12-09-2012 - 3:10pm


I am so sorry for your loss...:(...

My heart goes out to you and your family.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Mon, 12-10-2012 - 1:05pm


I am real sorry for your loss. It is such a sad story and my heart goes out to you. Losing someone is never easy but we also lose our dreams when we have to say goodbye to those we love. The time we have with them is never long enough, is it.

Grief has so many stages and you are still in shock at what has happened. Like you say, you never expected to lose your dad while you were so young. It must be so hard for your nephew as well. I think he will never forget your dad because you will keep his memory alive by passing on stories about him, having his picture about and just talking about him. Those we love are never completely lost to us when we keep their memories close to us.



iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2012
Tue, 12-11-2012 - 1:33pm

I am very sorry for you sudden loss.