New here and sad..

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Registered: 02-03-2011
New here and sad..
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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 3:32pm

Hi there, my name is Melissa and i just had some significant losses lately.

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Registered: 08-07-2007
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 4:07pm
(((((Melissa)))))

I am so very sorry for all of the losses you've sustained recently, especially the loss of your dad, which is still so recent and fresh. I'm sorry to for the time you feel you've missed with him, and I wish we could get it back for you, give you a do-over. :( It sounds like your being there was enough for him and that he knew how much you love him and while those last moments are painful to think about, remember that you were able to be there for him, sharing your love with him and knowing that he loved you so much.

I do want to say, you've come to the right message board. The members here have all been through so much and have been able to be such a great source of support to eachother. I hope you'll let them work through this with you.

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Registered: 02-03-2011
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 4:29pm
Thankyou so much for your reply. I hope to find some strength and healing here and maybe be able to comfort someone else. I will be around...
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Fri, 02-25-2011 - 8:00pm
Hugs to you! I'm sorry for your losses. I think sometimes we must stand up for ourselves and that is super hard to do, but would you you want to compromise who you are for everyone? After a death, even one we were close to and had a good relationship with, we still often have guilt. My husband died 21 months ago and I went through some guilt over it. One thing though, the coulda/shoulda/woulda's will eat you up if you let them, so don't. The important thing is that he knew how you felt about him and you were able to be you still. Death hits us at our core and is so hard when its someone close and especially several together! Are you seeking any grief counseling or support groups? If not you might want to check into one. Hugs to you!!

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Sat, 02-26-2011 - 6:51am

HI Melissa:

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Sat, 02-26-2011 - 8:56am

Honey, I just wanted to wrap my arms around you in a hug after reading your post.