ongoing pain

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Registered: 08-18-2012
ongoing pain
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Tue, 03-05-2013 - 9:09am

Hello everyone,

Its been awhile since I was on here, been a bit down.  I stll feel such pain for my buddy Sue, I miss her all the time and our talks, I would do anything to talk to her one last ime, but I know its nots possible.  My brother who also has cancer is not so good, see him going down and down, its all so overwhelming at times.  Both these people were such anchors in my  life.  To top it off my husband could not be less sensitive or caring, its like his life has not been interupted so its not his problem, I am to the point, with his cold heartness, I think I need to leave, he could not be less supportive and its actually making things so much worse for me.  You sure find out who you true friends are in times of trouble........

 

I hope you feel better Promise, we do miss you

 

Hugs to all

Kathy

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 03-17-2013 - 10:26pm

~hugs~

Since moving here actually to a new city I have experienced so much "LOSS"...

I know with the Depression it's not good for me to isolate myself...:(...

Kathy this is someplace I can come and everyone understands...

New friends never replace your old ones...

I get up everyday and carry on in her honour...

And others I have "LOST' along the way...

Nightangel
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Registered: 08-18-2012
In reply to: okeakc01
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 2:26pm
Hey Lorie, I am so glad you are moving a bit forward, happy you like your new surroundings, and making new friends, they never replace the goods ones we have lost, ever, but you don't feel so isolated, I think its almost normal to isolate yourself after you lose someone, I know for me, the pain of just explaining things got to much, and no one really got it (other than here), it was just so frustrating, so it was easier to isolate. Maybe a new start, new place, will be just what you needed it sounds like it has been a positive move so far........ Hugs Kathy
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 7:32pm

Absolutely Awesome!

Thanks Heidi...:)

You have helped me so much more than words can say.

Since moving here to this new city I have made many new friends which is great but one in particular and I have become very close.

Sometimes it's ALL about no judgement.

She is my friend for Life!

I believe we were meant to be Friends...:)...

She and I are like Sisters...:)...

It's like we ALREADY know when the other one is "Hurtin"...kwim?

You are such a wonderful friend Heidi and have been an "Inspiration" to me to carry on even when I don't feel much like it...

<3

Lorie

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 5:58pm

Lorie - that is actually my latest research topic, who are your true friends?  I am learning who mine are as well.

I am a true friend to you, 24/7.

Hug

 

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 10:46pm

~hugs~

Kathy...

<3

Lorie

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 10:43pm

I have met a friend since moving here and she has been a Rock to me...

Since the very first day we met she became a friend.

We had a tea the other day at her new place...:)...

I am so very happy for her.

It's true you really do know who your true friends are, they are the ones that are there for you.

No matter what!

Kind of a whole lot like the ones I have LOST...:(...

Nightangel
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Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 10:38pm

~hugs~

Hi Kathy, same here you have helped me so much because you got it...

Recently lost another friend and I shared that with Heidi.

My dd is having trouble and is worried about me.

I love my new home and have been exploring my new city...:)...

It's been hard but good for my ds and myself to...:)...

We are looking forward to warmer weather.

It was sunny but cold here today.

We still have a fair amount of snow but I feel like Spring is in the air, I am hoping...;)...

I have made new friends here and I go to a support centre for those dealing with mental health issues, I have Depression, but it doesn't have me...;)...

I try to get out and about every day, it is good for me I know.

For some reason today I have been a bit teary but I think it's just coping/dealing with so much LOSS and change but I don't regret moving except for missing my dd and some friends.

It was definitely a time for "Change" and a Positive one.

We are adjusting...just taking it one day at a time...

I am very proud of myself for having the Courage to do it finally...:)...

<3

Lorie

Nightangel
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Registered: 08-18-2012
In reply to: okeakc01
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 3:48pm

Hey Heidi,

Thank you for the reply, no unfortunately I dont know the quote, or maybe I have heard it but cannot recall.  Its tough to put yourself in someone shoes, I know that, but I always try, maybe because I work in the health care field, not sure, but some people are cold, if things do not effect them they dont care, I cant be like that, I guess in a sense I am glad I am like that, I can be empathetic to ones problems, and feel for them.  I hope I never become hardened to the problems of others

Hugs

Kathy

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Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: okeakc01
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 12:08pm

Hi Kathy,

I am sorry for all you are currently going through.  Lorie is correct, you are not alone.

I so so much agree with what you wrote:   "You sure find out who you true friends are in times of trouble........"

Oh I could go on and on about that because I am still figuring out who my true friends are!!  I had seen some quote on facebook that I will try to find the exact wording .... something about .... if a friend has to check their schedule or watch to let you know if they are there for you, then not a true friend, or something like that?  Do you know the quote?

 

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Registered: 08-18-2012
In reply to: okeakc01
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 11:48am

Hey Lorie,

Thank  you my friend, I do feel not so alone when we talk, it helps like you wouldnt believe.  I know you have lost so many as well, and your sorrow is just as much. 

How are you doing lately? Are you enjoying your new house, or adjusting?

Hugs

Kathy

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