For those who are grieving

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For those who are grieving
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Thu, 06-05-2014 - 10:07am

Where do you find comfort if you find any at all right now?

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Registered: 10-30-2011
Fri, 06-06-2014 - 10:57am

We are lucky enough to see a Grief Counsellor-a Social Worker who helps us talk about Adam & work things through. And we are lucky to have a very secure marriage-when Adam began to go downhill, I told Mike that in my job as a Pediatrics Nurse, I'd seen couples go both ways when their child died. Some would separate in their grief, others draw closer to one another. He scoffed at me-but it got him thinking. We'd already raised 3 kids-gone through lots with them, but this was different & even more stressful. So having him here & being able to talk about what I was feeling-& listening to what he was feeling definitely helped. And even more than most husbands-Mike kept things to himself, but I think he realized he has to share this time. Cool & Macho be darned-he has to get things out & he has to listen. (he always listened-he didn't always share).

Nora