Understanding your grief

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Understanding your grief
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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 5:40am

Hi, we are having a 10 week grief group at church and using the book Understanding your grief by Alan D Wolfelt.

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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 3:04pm

Hey Josie,

the grief pathway is a long one, isn't it.



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Mon, 10-10-2011 - 4:35pm

Thanks Promise, hubby use to kid me he wanted me to get a dog after he left (which I did) and that he saw me on those bus trips like all the other little ole ladies that you see on the tour buses.

We use to travel so much and I haven't even been out of the state this year, I use puppy as the excuse but I am too attached to clinging to his pillow over night.

I guess the days go by, hour by hour and weeks turn into months.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 12:37am
Hugs Josie. I agree with Promise you have come a long way, but still long ways to go. You say you cling to his pillow at night so don't go out of state. Why not stay in a nearby hotel and bring his pillow and see how you do. If you do ok, make it a longer trip (an hour or two, or maybe even 4!) so if you need can still come home. If you don't do ok, that's ok too. I still have meltdowns about James (the other night learned of another that died similar to James' situation) and it messed me up. Just keep plugging along. As long as you do find some happy moments along the way you are doing ok. Life isn't all sunshine and roses, but when those moments come it is nice to be able to smile again.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 5:17am

HI and thanks Katie.

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Tue, 10-11-2011 - 1:54pm

Yes, I do have a partner now but he isn't Luke .:-(

I think Katie's suggestion is a good one so maybe worth trying?

Love

Promise



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Wed, 10-12-2011 - 1:00am
Sometimes its nice to have a change of scenery. It can be scary alone in a hotel, but really not that bad. I traveled to DC and El Paso alone and stayed by myself. And one of which I was pregnant and did ok. Just make sure to lock your door behind you and keep stuff to distract you. Puppy would be good for that I'm sure lol Hugs!

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Thank you Dedi and Kelly for my
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Sat, 10-15-2011 - 2:07pm

I guess the best thing we need to do as widows it not to tackle big things but to take real baby steps and let our confidence grow gradually.



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Sun, 10-16-2011 - 6:31am

Today marks 11 months of sadness and grief and a loneliness that will never go away.

There was a table of 8 of us last night, 1 divorced and the other 7 widowed at a dinner theater.

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Sun, 10-16-2011 - 11:41am

Josie, sweetie, just sending you an enormous ~HUG~

Love

Promise