Visitation etiquette?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012
Visitation etiquette?
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 2:00pm

The mother of one of my good friends at work died and I feel like I need to attend the visitation. I am just wondering what is an acceptable amount of time to stay. I haven't been to one of these that isn't one of my family members so I am not sure if I can just drop in, pay my respects and then leave. Is it okay if I take flowers or do I need to have them sent?

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Wed, 04-17-2013 - 5:45pm

I think that is a great idea to attend in support of your friend!  In my opinion, I personally don't think it matter if you send flowers or bring them, whatever is easier for you.  I think most people have them sent ahead of time, though.  But, I am sure it would be ok to bring them.

It sounds fine to drop in, pay your respects, and then leave.  Any of what you wrote sounds fine.

I am not sure if what I think is the right things to do, but that is what I would do.

Please come back and let us know how it goes.  You sound like a great friend!!


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Registered: 01-03-2001
Wed, 04-17-2013 - 11:36am

Hi! I am not sure if this will help but I found a website with some information about visitation etiquette for you:

Your friend at work will probably be very happy to see you at such a difficult time in her life.