A friend just diagnosed with Cancer

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Registered: 09-10-2012
A friend just diagnosed with Cancer
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 12:55pm

I am so upset. One of my friend's husband was just diagnosed with lung cancer and they are devastated. I don't know what to say to her or how to help. Please help.

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Registered: 02-10-2011
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 1:09pm

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry! I'm struggling through much of the same right now, trying to figure out how to help a loved on deal. All I can suggest is that you let her know you're there for her in any way she needs. Just a hug can be so supportive, especially when so many people hang back because they're unsure of what to do. Doing something... no matter how small or simple it may seem, is usually way better than doing nothing. {{hugs}}

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Registered: 10-31-2001
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 1:43pm

I would encourage you to reach out, in person, if possible and let them know that you're there for them. You'll feel less helpless if you just remember that the smallest things can be the greatest comfort in times of need. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

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Registered: 06-15-2012
Tue, 01-15-2013 - 2:37pm

Like the other posters said, reaching out to them and offering yourself is the best first step. Knowing the people they can count on as time goes on is going to be important to them. Positive thoughts and prayers to all. 

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 01-17-2013 - 8:36pm

Jaynedo 100,

Just be there to listen when she needs you. Dinner out to talk would also be helpful. If you see a need, then don't be afraid to jump in--just be ready to be a friend.