my mom has breast cancer
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|Fri, 03-29-2013 - 10:10pm|
My mom was recently diagnosed with breast cancer (in February) and had the mass removed last Thursday. Apparently it was a stage 1 cancer, but the lymph node biopsy showed that 2 of the 3 lymph nodes had cancer too, moving it to stage 2. They'll do further testing (petscan) to see if it spread further, doctors advised another surgery (to remove more lymph nodes) and she'll undergo chemo, radiation, etc.
On top of it all, she's struggling with a language barrier. Her english is poor, and I translate for her. I won't always be able to go with her though (have school and work). Doctor did mention a translating service over the phone, which will definetely help.
I just came from a long day at the hospital. My mom seems like she's in denial about it, and hasn't fully processed the information. She says she would have been better off not having a mammogram - that way she can live in peace without knowing and be happy. My mom is 59 and hasn't had a mammogram for 10 years prior to this recent one. Although it's upsetting she didn't get herself tested for this long, there's no reason to mention it now. Obviously she knows and already feels bad about it.
It's a start of a long journey. I don't know who to share this with. My mom doesn't want me telling others about it. Or at least not in much detail. I talk to my sister about it. She lives in another state, but we talk on the phone.
Anyone else out there with similar situation? Any feedback/comments/suggestions/etc will be greatly appreciated.