Quality of life

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-26-2001
Quality of life
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 11:08am

My mom was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer this past September. She's decided she can't take the chemo, so we're basically looking at palliative care from now on. She has very little energy and can't eat much since she's had the Whipple surgery, so I'm looking for suggestions that would improve her quality of life. Specifically things we can do inside the house that don't require a lot of activity. I know the standard advice is "Just be there", but that's really not enough at this point, and she doesn't want to talk about her feelings. So....anyone?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 1:06pm

My prayers and well wishes are with you .. Only thing I would say is to give her fresh veggie and fruit jucies but I mean juicing in a real juicing machine.. The enzymes and vitamins and minerals will most likely help. Heck. it cant hurt... but dont know what her doctor would say... I dont know what whipple surgery is nor how old your mom is...

I would also try accupressure.. There are tons of Utube videos about this and also about how to juice organic veggies and fruits..

Also can someone like home care or visiting nurse or a companion come in and visit her and they can juice together or do crafts; read books, puzzles, yoga...

I also think there is nothing I can do about things but then when I really brainstorm there is alot more I can do than not do...

wishing you well and recovery for the whole family...


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2013
Mon, 02-04-2013 - 12:13pm

I'm so sorry for you and your family. You are going through a very difficult time and I wish you all the best.  Have you called Hospice? They are absolutely wonderful about counseling family and care givers and will be able to help you with ideas most people don't think of.

My mother was very sick during the last few months of her life and basically we made sure someone was always with her and we kept her surroundings as cheerful and clean as possible. We burned her favorite candles, kept soft music on and let her eat whatever she wanted.

Good luck!


Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Wed, 02-06-2013 - 12:24pm

I am very sorry to hear about your mother.  Freeatlast2008's post is pretty spot on, I would also suggest as much as possible to keep her near a window where she can get whateve sunlight possible, the natural vitamin D will also help.