Scared or not

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2002
Scared or not
Thu, 01-09-2014 - 12:45pm

After meeting with my oncologist on Monday, I was overwhelmed and scared.  Luckily, just I was getting home and pulling into my driveway, my sister called.  I burst into tears when we started talking and she listened to me.  Her sympathy was exactly what I needed at that moment and her perspective gave me a clearer view of my circumstances and my right to be afraid.  The next day I went to see my therapist and discussed my fears, my diagnosis, the revelation about my sister's abuse at my father's hands, and when we were done, I felt better.  Finally I called my mom to update her on my appointments/schedules for chemo and talking to her gave me a sense of security and hope.  

I'm not scared anymore.  I'm ready to face whatever comes.  Had I done nothing, I would have almost certainly faced death at a relatively young age.  I'm facing all of this head on and hopefully all will turn out well in the end.  To be afraid all the time will accomplish nothing.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2013
Thu, 01-09-2014 - 12:55pm

You are so right, you can't live in fear. I have found facing bad situations with my head up and armed with information, I can brace myself and get through. I am so glad to hear you have family support. Stay strong! :-)

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 8:44pm



My cousin is facing this and her sister my cousin to is taking it very hard.

This Board is helping me so very much.