A friend just had a miscarriage

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-25-2008
A friend just had a miscarriage
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 10:00am

I have a friend who was pregnant with a late in life baby (she's 46) and she suffered a miscarriage last night. I'm a little shocked at the comments people have made to her concerning her age and the possibility of having a baby but I've been giving them some thought. She really wanted another child. She says she is going to try again and I wouldn't say it to her but I'm very concerned for her. Should she take this as some sort of sign that she's too old?


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 10:19am

Oh gosh, that must be so devestating for her. I don't understand why people think making comments to her about her age is appropriate; that's not what she needs to hear right now. Just be supportive and consoling of her loss; rendering judgement is ridiculous! I do understand you're being concerned for her, but right now, all you can really do is be there for her. Let her talk when she needs to, be her sounding board and when you can, suggest that she have a heart to heart with her doctor. Good luck to the both of you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-18-2013
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 12:24pm

I don't think you should be concerned just because of her age. If she is in reasonably good health then good luck to her. Since her chances of conceiving are not that great anyways, more power to her if she does. I'm sure her doctor will keep an extra eye on her because of her age if she should conceive again so please try not to worry.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sat, 03-02-2013 - 11:08pm

I am so sorry for your friend's loss.


Just be supportive, that what she really needs right now.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2013
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 10:59am

My aunt had her first baby at 48 years old. She had spent more than 20 years as a Catholic nun, met a man (a Priest) got married and decided to have children. She and her grown children are perfectly fine.