So Lonely & Scared.. Abortion Pill Scheduled for tomorrow =(

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Registered: 01-22-2012
So Lonely & Scared.. Abortion Pill Scheduled for tomorrow =(
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Sun, 01-22-2012 - 6:32pm

Ok.. so in a nutshell. I have an amazing 6 year old princess from a previous relationship.. Current boyfriend of 4 years lives in Dallas.. My daughter & I moved to dallas last year with him.. He was great with her. We were a happy family. She had to spend the summer with her dad in El Paso.. He did everyrhing he could to fight custody.. He failed, but he did accomplish my daughter not be able to leave

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Registered: 12-16-2011

I am so sorry for all you're going through.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2012
I rescheduled yet again.. its so difficult! =(
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Registered: 05-30-2011

Crystal,

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Registered: 07-16-2007

That's the first thing I thought of too - why couldn't your boyfriend move to El Paso so you could have your family there? Of course I realize sometimes it isn't that simple - if there's something about your boyfriend individually that makes it so your daughter shouldn't go around him period, perhaps. Then I can see the problem.

How far along are you? Is there any other way for you to be able to have the family you want other than an abortion? If you're hurting over this and so is he, maybe there's a way to make it work?

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Registered: 07-16-2007

That's the first thing I thought of too - why couldn't your boyfriend move so you could have your family there? Of course I realize sometimes it isn't that simple - if there's something about your boyfriend individually that makes it so your daughter shouldn't go around him period, perhaps. Then I can see the problem.

How far along are you? Is there any other way for you to be able to have the family you want other than an abortion? If you're hurting over this and so is he, maybe there's a way to make it work?

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Registered: 01-22-2012

Sorry for delay ladies. I just saw your replies.

My childs father place many allegations in place to fight custody and help him in his battle.. saying we did drugs, amde my daughter do drugs, beat her, showered her once a week, never fed her, and BIGGEST one.. saying that my bf sexually abused my daughter :( which i know in my heart and by what my daughter has said is not true. We are good people and justwanted to be happy and have our family.

So my bf is pending a trail for 25 to life in prision... He has court feb 28 =(

he has a business in el paso and is not finacially set to just drop all that and move over here.. I tried everything.

So I am now ten weeks =( I waited so long and now i have a surgical appt scheduled on friday the 24. It hurts like crazy but i know its best and we are on no situation to have a bby.

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Registered: 07-16-2007

Wow, that does sound like you've got a lot on your plate. Allegations of sexual abuse and neglect are quite serious indeed! If the allegations are false, one would assume they would have been abe to figure that out prior to this stage. I would assume that she would have been forensically interviewed by child protective services, etc. and probably had a medical exam.

I'm sorry that you're going through all of this, and that you are stuck having a sugical abortion on the 28th. My abortion was surgical, which in some ways was nice. It was a one shot deal, then recovery. That worked out well with a child in the home to have to take care of.

Good luck with everything!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2012

Yes, sure is

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2007

I think I was actually 10 or possibly 11 weeks by the time it was said and done. Closer to 11 if I recall correctly. I had originally intended to keep the baby, but the closer I got to the 12 week mark the more I realized I could not do it, because it put my current child at risk.

That' super good that there were findings of coaching and the exam was negative. Hopefully the truth comes out.

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Registered: 01-22-2012
I think I am somewhere around the same. I also planned on keeping baby, but I feel like its between my current princess And that breaks me =(

I hope all goes well... Only time will tell

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