Someone please... Help me :(

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Someone please... Help me :(
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Tue, 09-18-2012 - 8:12pm
Hello Everyone. I'm asking for some help. I feel like Boone understand me at this point. I'm 21. I work full time. I live alone. I'm just getting out of a relationship where the man I was with was very abusive physically and verbally. He still lives with his parents. Whenever I came across a situation with him his mother always had an input and always had something to say. We broke up and i cut all communication with him and hos family because they caused me so much pain and harm. Anyway, on Friday I found out I am 6 weeks pregnant. I was very shocked because it was unexpected. I didn't want to tell anyone because my parents are very strict and raw. At the time I felt very scared and confused sothe first person I told was the father of my child. He immediately rushed over to help me because I am terribly sick from the pregnancy but soon after being around him again I remember why I left him in this first place. He started calling me bitches again. He started abondoning me again and making me feel worthless. When I called him we both agreed that we were ready for a child so abortion was our first option. He agreed. 3 days later I finally told my sister and my mother. They are really disappointed in me and I can't seem to find the support I need from them, only criticism. My ex boyfriend stayed with my for the past 3 days and in the 3rd day we got into a very big argument. He stormed out and called me a bitch an started to become less supportive about abortion. 5 mins later his mother called me and said I was a horrible person, she said that I am going to keep the banyan that she will raise it. In my mind, I'm thinking I will die before I let any of my children be around you people. His mother knew he was beating me but constantly brushed it off and told me I was a liar. I haven't told anyone else bout this. But I am getting an abortion next week an I'm so ready to get it over with. I already love my baby so much and I would never let my child witness anything like this. I want to protect my baby from this horrible situation and I promise my baby that I will be a better person and make better decisions. I wish god could forgive me. I feel so heartbroken. I just want to die. Please tell me I am making the right decision for my baby. Pleas help me :smileysad:
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 09-18-2012 - 8:41pm

:smileysad:

~hugs~

My heart goes out to you at this difficult time.

I cannot tell you if the decision you make is right or wrong because bottom line it is yours to make...your choice.

Whatever you chose to do it is your choice.

I wish you had support from your family and friends.

Bottom line you have to do whatever is best for you.

Have you talked to anyone?

Someone who you trust and value their opinion.

It is not an easy decision to make.

Possibly talk to someone who is familiar with dv...

I am not too sure where you live but I posted a few Links...

<3

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100360001

http://www.wcsap.org/intimate-partner-sexual-violence

I wish I could be of more help.

I am hoping someone else might be of assistance.

This is such a personal decision...

 

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 09-18-2012 - 10:07pm

~hugs~

You are Welcome!

 

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Tue, 09-18-2012 - 10:08pm

:smileywink:...No problem!

How are you doing?

<3

Nightangel
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2007
Sat, 09-29-2012 - 11:43pm

As I said in another thread, sometimes you have to love something enough to let it go. It sounds like you are keeping this baby safe in the best way you know how. Give yourself a break - you are coming out of hell - and doing the best you can.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2007
Wed, 10-03-2012 - 1:19am

The hurts and the shock of it should get better with the passage of time. If it isn't getting better, don't hesitate to let us know or to contact one of the post-abortion counseling places such as Exhale ( http://exhaleprovoice.org/ ) or Project Rachel ( http://hopeafterabortion.com/ ).  I think both are non-judgmental and may be able to help you.

I know it's hard, but please forgive yourself for being in that situation. Feeling guilty and regretting that it's happened won't change it, and they're not something you can keep up in the long run. You did the best you could. You made a tough choice, but you made it with love and for unselfish reasons.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2012
Sun, 10-14-2012 - 7:11pm
It was the best for you. You are alive to enjoy another day.