What do you girls think about this? Have any of you done anything similar?

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Registered: 08-04-2011
What do you girls think about this? Have any of you done anything similar?
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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 4:28pm

I had an ab this last summer and while I do believe it was the right choice, I still have my moments when I wish I hadn't done it. My estimated due date was april 3rd, and its fast approaching, I feel like all this just happened yesterday. The day of the ab I wanted to buy a teddy from the hospital gift shop before I left, to kind of remember my baby. Well when I was done I was a big crying mess, I was horribly upset and the last thing on my mind was a teddy bear, I wanted to just go cry somewhere and be held by my bf. Well later I remembered the teddy bear, and was a bit upset that I didn't get it

...so Ive since decided (kind of, still debating it) to go get a build-a-bear on april 3rd. Good or bad idea? I don't think my bf will like the idea of it. While he was extremely supportive and never tried to sway me decision one way or the other, he has a mentality of "forget about it, get over it," he doesn't like talking about it, "whats done is done." I don't think he'll like me having this reminder since I can get a little sad once in a while with random baby related stuff. Should I take his opinion into consideration here? I've thought about just getting it on my own and not letting him know till he sees it, he hardly ever comes over to my house.

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Registered: 05-30-2011

Honestly, I think that's a lovely way to remember your baby, and there's no reason at all the boyfriend needs to know about it.

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Registered: 08-04-2011

I think im pretty set on doing this, and rainbows will definitely be incorporated into my teddy :)

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Registered: 07-16-2007
It sounds like a great idea. Everyone grieves and remembers differently. I'm glad you found something so meaningful for you!