Is it physical abuse, mental abuse or am I overdramatic
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|Fri, 07-04-2014 - 4:59pm|
Hi there, I need to talk.
I am really second guessing myself. I finally left my husband but now I feel crazy.
He would get really mad-which grew closer and closer together as the years we by. I think that calling me a f'ing b, cunt, idiot, and screaming at me was verbal. I think that's right. But can you help me with some other stuff.
He put a few holes in the wall, cracked the coffee table, and even hurt my dog a few times. He used the belt on my daughter a few times, he would take her where I couldn't get to her, into bedroom and locked door. My dad used belt on me and I never wanted her to get that. Some people say belt is normal so I don't know, but I know we fought on that. It threw me when one day he jumped up, grabbed the belt and took her into the bedroom.
There were a few times I guess I got comfortable and we were playing and I play hit him on his shoulder. Very light during laughing. I see my friends do it to their husbands. He immediatly punched me back in the shoulder really hard with his fists. No bruise or anything it just hurt. He said if I hit him, he's hitting me back. Was I wrong to do that? And was it OK that he did that back. that was only time he actually 'hit' me. But not sure can say that. I am so confused.
Also, sometimes he would get so mad he would stand over me with his fists up yelling at me to 'shut the f up before I beat the shit out of you', 'I wanna f'in catch you on fire', nasty things like that. If I was on the bed when he was mad he would shake and hit it.
Was any of that physical abuse, or mental or what??? Am I being over dramatic. I am having hard time with this.