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|Mon, 12-20-2010 - 3:38pm|
I don't know where I'm supposed to turn next but something bad is going to happen... if it's not already happening. My sister is best friends with a man that has been giving my mom and me both really bad vibes since we met him. After discovering how close he is to my 6-year-old niece, we started calling around to find out WHO this guy is. And, he's bad. Really bad. He served 190 days in another state for sexual misconduct with a minor under 14. What exactly that entailed, I don't know. There have been other suspicions in other states but nothing stuck. Scared victims is what his sister said. She was hurt by both him and his father when she was a child. And their father is currently serving in Texas for 3 child rapes with 4 more pending.
He's on probation right now. He's in his 2nd year of a 5 year probation sentence but we've been talking to someone in the county AND with his probation officer and for some reason, it isn't listed that he cannot be around a minor so there's nothing they can do to help us. They told us to keep digging... to give them something they can use. Because, he has hit on every red flag they have.
He even told his brother-in-law (who in turn, told my mother when she found his number and called for info about him)... that my sister and her husband aren't doing well and he's going to move into the picture and be my niece's new daddy. He'll have access to her. But this is hearsay and cannot do anything to help her, we were told.
I don't know where to go next. I feel like we're digging up a bunch of NOTHING right now and my sister is taking HIS side. She even took my niece away from the rest of our family. She already lost custody of her 2 oldest and my mom's raising them but for some reason, the county didn't take my niece away too. I'm really panicking now and thought that turning to a board with ladies who may have been where my niece is before might help. Am I missing a step somewhere?
I can't sleep at night thinking my niece will come to me someday and know I knew she was going to get hurt and couldn't stop it! My 14yo nephew told my mom that this man already slept in my niece's room once because they all slept over and there was nowhere else to sleep. He said he was going to protect her. But we can't prove anything happened.
I know this isn't the right board to be on but I need help. I really need help. PLEASE if you have any idea who I can turn to next, let me know. We live in Minnesota. We've already spoken with the sexual offense social worker in our county, his probation officer, and now our town police are running a nationwide search but again, his probation doesn't limit his contact with children so what will that help? Where else can I go to protect my niece?