Not sure if sexual assault

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2013
Not sure if sexual assault
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 1:54pm

I have a friend who is dating this guy and the other night he was drunk and she kept trying to make him go home. He refused to go home and he got mean and forced her to have sex with him. She is very scared and upset now because this has never happened before with them. I know they have been dating and had sex before but she said this was different and now she is afraid of him. We were just wondering if this was sexual assault and do you think it could happen again. He was drunk.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2008
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 6:05pm

"he got mean and forced her to have sex with him" 

From my perspective, I would say that yes it was a sexual assault.

When a sexual assault or rape occurs in the context of a relationship it can be a very confusing thing.  

The fact she is afraid of him now is understandable. 

As to whether it could happen again, that is difficult to know for certain.  

I'm sorry your friends is having to go through this.  It's good that she was able to reach out and talk to you about it.  Some people end up with these traumatic experiences and keep it bottled up not wanting to talk to anyone about it.    Although it is good she reached out, supporters can also end up with a lot of feelings they have to deal with as well so please reach out  for help yourself if you need to.