pets?

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Registered: 10-25-2002
pets?
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Tue, 12-03-2013 - 5:24pm

I was wondering if it is common for those having been sexually abused to not want a certain sex of a pet? For example, would it trigger someone to not want a male dog due to seeing penis or would this not typically bother someone that has been sexually abused?

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Registered: 06-02-2008
In reply to: bluepen23
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 9:11pm

Hi Bluepen 23, 

Each person has their own distinct triggers so for some poeple it could be an issue.   I have only been around female dogs but that is what my parents had and I never really had the experience of being around male dogs on any regular basis.  So I don't know if it would bother me or not.

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Registered: 05-09-2010
In reply to: bluepen23
Fri, 12-06-2013 - 10:17am

While I consider some men to be dogs, I don't consider dogs to be men so I'm not bothered by the gender of a pet. I have a male and female cat and love them both the same.

Nancy
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Registered: 10-25-2002
In reply to: bluepen23
Fri, 12-06-2013 - 2:39pm
Thank you both. I don't know why then I get uncomfortable around male dogs. I've always had female dogs too growing up. Just uncomfortable around seeing penis of male dogs when it comes out...
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Registered: 06-02-2008
Fri, 12-06-2013 - 7:42pm

If it acts as a reminder of your experience it doesn't have to be logical.   I

POSSIBLE TRIGGER -- When I'm washing dishes and a bunch of soap suds splash on my shirt, for a few seconds I"m taken back to my rape because in that instant I'm not seeing soap suds flying at me --    END OF TRIGGER

I say the above to show how sometimes reminders can take on forms you don't expect.   I'm sorry you have to experience this and  I'm glad you were able to share your struggle.