How do I help my child

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2013
How do I help my child
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 11:03pm

My son is 20 years old, and tonight he sits in an emergency room under suicide watch.  The ER doctor and his regular doctor PEC'ed him.  Its been 10 hours since we arrived at the hospital, and 6 hours since they made me leave him, alone and scared not knowing where they will be sending him.  This process is awful.  He is sitting there on a cot, staring at 4 concrete walls in a hospital gown with no clothes, no phone no nothing to call for me.  I feel so utterly helpless.

What worries me the most is that this will make matters worse, not better.   

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 1:07pm

I am so glad you found iVillage and posted on our board.  My apologies for not replying to your post sooner.  I somehow put a virus on our computer and my husband had to fix it.

I know you posted the other night.  I am wondering how your son is doing today and since you posted, feel free to share more of what happened at the hospital and yesterday.

I have been the Community Leader for this message board for years and can honestly say I had no idea of the long process in the ER that occurs when someone goes there who may be suicidal.  I understand what you went through that night because a few months ago, I took my cousin to the ER and as you mentioned, it was a very long wait.  They also took all his belonings, phone, which made he more upset.  They had a security gaurd sitting outside the room and we had to keep the door open.  After a few hours, the security guard left to go somewhere else in the hospital.  I think maybe they realized I was with him and had it under control, as he would only listen to me.  Yes, the process was long.  Why didn't they let you stay in the room with him until a moble crisis counselor arrived to evaluate him and determine where he would go next?

I am a strong advocate of suicide prevention and helping others who may be feeling suicidal.  I wish our society had better ways of handling someone who is suicidal.  I don't have the answers, but I believe the person really wants someone to sit with them and talk to them, not leave them alone in a room!!!!!!!! 

The night I took my cousin was emotionally draining because of the process he went through.  I understand all you wrote and please know I am here for you if you would like to post again.  If you want to private message me, if details are too personal, please do so, I am here and I care.

My thoughts are with you and your son.  Please let me know how he is doing.

Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 10-22-2013 - 3:07pm

I was wondering how your son is doing?

How are you doing?