how to help

Avatar for ltlfredom
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Registered: 01-21-2011
how to help
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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 12:47am

how does one really help someone who is having very hard time keeping themself together. my bf daughter took and over dose and is feeling like she wants to do it again but yet she is making all kinds of new plans for her home, like remodeling. we are all very worried that she will crash again and want to kill herself. maybe there's not much we can do cause she will always do what she wants and really is not a good listener when ppl try to help her. her family is going to try and do an intervention next week, we'll see how that goes. i wonder if someone can keep there home and car if they file bankrucy mostly from cradit cards.

i need to express when i go on the help site i feel like no one cares for me like other gets from one another. thats really how i feel so i just don't come here much. i use to have a case manager and therapist but i don't anymore cause the truth is i was told i am doing better. it's true i am but i can still have my moments. i think a few years ago when the format was better than it is now there were a lot more ppl and then i felt ppl heard me but now a lot of ppl left. theres not much for support.  any ways that how i feel

Avatar for cmkarla
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Registered: 01-03-2001
In reply to: ltlfredom
Mon, 04-29-2013 - 11:23am

Hi there!

I am so sorry to hear about what is happening in your life. I do want you to know that we do care about you so please keep checking in with us. iVillage has had some technical issues which have affected many people but we are working to get them cleared up so you can get the support you are looking for here.

Let us know how the intervention goes,

Karla
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Avatar for sunset5000
Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
In reply to: ltlfredom
Thu, 05-02-2013 - 2:54pm

Hey Suzy,

You know I am still here and I support you!!  Big hug.

I recently got my new CPAP machine as I had been diagnosed with sleep apnea months ago.  It is taking some getting use too and I heard that I may feel a bit worse before better, as my body gets use to going into, "deep, stage 3" sleep again.

Please text me and I can call you and chat when you are available, ok?

Love,

 

Avatar for ltlfredom
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2011
In reply to: ltlfredom
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 8:20am

hi karla  my computer has a virus and been giving me lots of problems. im very surprise i can post this...the intervention went well but one sister told her she was very upset at her for wanting to kill herself... she's been crying about what her sister said. she is not doing well.. she has filed for a divorse and he her husband did receive them. my bf and i are very concern that she might be drinking again.. he goes to see her every week but this week she was no where to be found.

for myself i have been having fun doing something different, we have several selling and buying groups in my state and so i've been doing the groups... there all on fb. i belong to 25 groups. i made some good money like 600.00 in just a months time.. i was able to put half of the money in my car for a sticker.. and some for my daughters b-day i got her a soda stream since she loves mine..   had a bone density test 2 days ago and the results says i don't have osteopenia anymore.. the wierd thing about this is i never took any meds to improve it cause my insurance would not pay for it...but i did become a vegiterian a year ago...this is good news...thank u for saying u do care i need to hear this cause i get so low at times and i really hate how very little ppl are on these groups now.... its a beautiful sunny day today..but cold.  thank u again

Avatar for ltlfredom
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Registered: 01-21-2011
In reply to: ltlfredom
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 8:33am

hi heidi,  thank u for caring. i hope your able to sleep better... i saw your health is not well, but if u did less salt, and was to loss weight, and ate more healthy foods i know u would be able to turn all this around and all of these health problems would disapear...i know it's not easy but it can be done, and it wouldn't take that long and once u get to where u need to be, u can from time to time go ahead and give herself a treat like a hot fudge sunday...u just need to focus on it... u will feel much better in the long run......thanks for being here.... really hope my computer will work cause i have a virus for 4 weeks now and trying to find someone to fix it for free...  take care and hugs to u....  love suzy