Is this lady overreacting in her healthy eating habits?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2013
Is this lady overreacting in her healthy eating habits?
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Tue, 03-25-2014 - 1:51pm

There is a lady who works in a company who is located next to where I work (we are no coworkers though but we do know each other and talk) , who is 28yrs old, she is married no kids. She is always taking care of her body; she goes to the gym everyday before coming to work in the morning. She has an nice very body,, flat abs, curvy hips but overall she has a nice body. But she does not enjoy the art of eating and enjoying the food, cause she is always thinking in calories, calories here, calories there or that food may you gain weight or not if I eat this or that and I mean she has an awesome body any girl will like to have her body. I was told that for lunch she hardly eats substantial lunch is more like sandwiches, or pita with lettuce, tomato, avocado and tuna and a beverage and an apple, that kind of lunch or similar meals she eats it like 4 days a week during work days.  She hardly eats pasta, brown rice, steamed vegetables. For mid snacks each day she always have low fat yogurt.  For breakfast I have been told that she only eats cereal and fruits. I do not know how she eats during the weekend though as I do not live with her. I have heard that her husband is total the opposite, he likes to eat meat and good food but not to the extreme and with moderation.

 

From time to time during week days she eats lunch outside the office and I heard that when she eats outside with other coworkers she eats the same thing as if she will eat inside the office while the other coworkers eat normal.

 

The thing is that last year when the company she works for had their Christmas annual party, weeks before that I offered here a small slice of banana cake that I baked and she turn it down  she did not say the exact reason why she only told  me: I’m in sweet  abstinence  for a month. I do know she hardly eats sweet but she has baked in the past cakes that she has offered me and her coworkers and she always tell us she made it herself. Anyway she told me she could not accept my banana cake because she was in abstinence for a month. Then I was told that she was in abstinence cause she wanted to look in a bikini for the office party that was going to take place at the beach that is why she was not eating sweets for a month, any kind of sweet not even a small tiny anything of anything. I was like what?? She already has an amazing body, all ladies at her work envy her body, she goes to the gym each day for 2 hrs to each their own of course but she over reacts. But then for lunch she eats so little because she assumes other foods are weight gainers. Today I offered her a small piece of lemon cake that I baked over the weekend and again she turned it down. I was surprised, as I thought she does eat sweet but rarely and I thought that the sweet abstinence was only for last year in order to fit in a bikini but today I found out that this time she is in Easter abstinence. I was like what?? Easter abstinence,, what is that I never heard that before. I thought that she was in abstinence due to the Holy week in mid April as according to  the Catholic religion people should not eat meat from cows or chicken we can only eat sea food during those days of  Holy Thursday and Good Friday but then I found out that she is in sweet abstinence cause she is traveling to Europe for Holy Week and she knows that once in Europe she cant refuse not to eat and she will take advantage of all the good food Europe has to offer her and she knows she will eat and more there so she is in abstinence now and working out more in order not to gain that  much weight when she has to travel to Europe in mid April.

 

I believe that once she gets pregnant and if she sees that gaining weight during pregnancy is part of life and it is NORMAL, I hope she won’t freak out or that during pregnancy she has to eat all food groups in moderation she wont freak out as well.

 

If this lady only knew the meals high endurance athletes consume in order to working out and keep themselves in good condition she will faint Im sure

 

Is this lady over reacting about the way she believes is the good way to eat in order to stay fit?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008

I normally don't "hang out" at this forum but this post was on the "headline".  All I can say is she is extremely considerate and polite that she keeps her eating habits to herself and does not preach.  What she does or does not eat is really none of your business - please stop analyzing and making conjectures.  Everybody has different physiology and apparently what she does works for her. 

I have to constantly refuse various food offering at the office.  It gets old when people would not just take "No, thank you" for an answer.  Besides, I come to the office to do my work, not to socialize to share food.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2013

You do not go to lunch with your co workers from time to time outside the office? Or do you eat by yourself during lunch time and do not speak to anyone in the office cafeteria cause you are  not there to speak to ur coworkes cause that is socializing? You do not speak to your coworkes at work hours sometimes (not all the time) things not realted to work, maybe talk about your family or your children?

You are a grinch!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2013

I just wanted to read different opinions about it and read what you have to say about the issue.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002

I am with Demonstespan on this one.  We all have different attitudes about food, some live to eat, others eat to live. It sounds like she eats to live and as long as she doesn't criticize you that you don't choose her lifestyle and health, I don't think what she's doing is wrong.  She enjoys what she wants to enjoy, as she does bake, as you say. It does sound like she's making healthy choices as her meals you describe go and we have no idea what she does at home. As for abstinence goes, she might just be making excuses so she doesn't hurt your feelings about not eating your food?  Socializing for some people is only about food and for others, not so. I'd say 80-90% of my socailzing isn't based on food and I love to eat.






iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008

"You do not go to lunch with your co workers from time to time outside the office? Or do you eat by yourself during lunch time and do not speak to anyone in the office cafeteria cause you are  not there to speak to ur coworkes cause that is socializing? You do not speak to your coworkes at work hours sometimes (not all the time) things not realted to work, maybe talk about your family or your children?

You are a grinch!!!"

You have been posting every few weeks or so on the "Women at Work" forum complaining various non issues at your work place.  Whenever people try to tell you the office is a place for work, no socializing, you call them a grinch.  Call me names if you like, but if being a grinch gets me to where I am today instead of being a receptionist ignored and excluded by others at work, I am happy to be labeled as a grinch.

Yes, I do socialize with SOME co-workers OUTSIDE the office but I do not FORCE myself upon others and cry foul when not being inlcuded in office functions.  Also, Jean put it very well that not all socializing has to be centered around food.  Sometimes I go for a walk with co-workers during our lunch break.  When I travel for work, I have also known to meet co-workers at the hotel gym.

P.S. What makes you think everyone eats at an office cafeteria?  (Or assume that every workplace has a cafeteria)?


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-13-2005
Honestly, what she eats and how much she exercises is truly none of your business. Not everyone gets a lot of pleasure from eating sweets/fatty foods and she sounds like someone who just embraces a healthy lifestyle. As far as her getting pregnant--that is also none of your business--how do you know that she won't be okay with gaining the baby weight? It sounds to me like you are speculating way too much and are just being plain nosy. I think you need to mind your own business on this one--what she eats doesn't affect you in any way, shape or form.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2013

First of al this is only the first time I offered her something to eat cause in the past she has offered me several times I just want to retribute her for being so polite with me. And when I meant socializing I did not mean speak about food the whole time. . I do not work with her in the same company anyway  but sorry but I found that being abstinent to eat a certain type  food just cause you are going to cheat your healthy eating habits diet 1 week later is just dumb. And I jsut think she over reacts too much out of  nothing, she can still be healthy and look good by eating everything in moderation just I read and heard from many nutritionists not skip meals. I have a friend who is a fitness competitor and a nutritionist at the same time and she eats everything in moderation, she sure eats less fat and less sugary foods, she tries to avoid them or eat in the less quantity of course and she works out everyday  and she has an amazing body and if she has to eat out in restaurants or with friends she eats in moderation and as healthy as possible, but she is not like eat pita sandwich everyday  or a tuna sandwich everyday or eat pasta the size of a 3 spoons  But she never tries to skip meals or eat less of a certain food group just cause it is more healthy.  My point was that I believe she is overreacting and sorry I found that a little dumb

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998

Her supposed breakfast of cereal and fruit; and typical lunch of a sandwich or pita with veggies and tuna, and an apple; and a low fat yogurt for snack sound like appropriate meals and snack for somebody who is sitting at a desk all day. That she chooses to eat something similar when she goes out to eat with coworkers is fine, why would anybody care? You say that her body looks good, not overly thin, so evidently she has found the right balance of exercise and food (calories consumed vs calories burned) to maintain her figure and energy level. Since she is into fitness she probably does know how endurance athletes eat...and knows that she is not an endurance athlete and cannot eat like that!

As for her abstaining from sweets or desserts, why is that a problem? That is my basic routine, I try to eat dessert or a sweet only once a week. So I choose that treat carefully for when there's something really good or when I really want something sweet. Some weeks I have sweets more than once but its not an issue that I'm going to "cheat" because this is a choice that I make for myself, and I am the only one who will be affected by my choice.

So no, I don't think she is "overreacting" or overdoing it with her food choices; and I don't think her choices are "abnormal". Maybe most of the people at your workplace eat unhealthy and so this woman's choices are different than the norm at your job, but not abnormal compared to people who strive to eat well or control their weight. Maybe the term you wanted was "rigid"? To that I would say that some people do better with a more rigid routine and some do well with more flexibility but neither is right or wrong because we are all unique.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002

Exactly! I think the problem is too many Americans eat like endurance athletes but aren't, hence the obesity problem.  The woman's diet sounds very much like mine, actually.  And, I'm picky about sweets/splurge foods. I put on weight very quickly and if I weren't so careful, I'd easily be overweight.






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003

My question to you is, "why are you so focused on this woman at work?"  The tone of your words is very judgemental, in a negative way, towards this woman.  I find that when I am hyperfocused on another person's behavior, that there is something that I am wrestling with in my own psyche.

I think it is very thoughtful of you to bake for the office.  Are your feelings hurt that she won't eat your desserts?  There is a growing population of people who are avoiding and/or limiting their intake of sugar and gluten, for health reasons.  With the growing incidence of diabetes and heart disease, this country is looking for solutions for better health.  Although I, too, agree with eating foods in moderation, there are others who choose to completely eliminate certain items.  That is a choice we each have.  I tend to respect other people's choices when they are within healthy limits.  Even if they are not within healthy limits, it is out of my control, as each individual has free will to make their own choices.  That is what is so wonderful about this country.