What does motivate you?

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
What does motivate you?
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Thu, 02-20-2014 - 7:44am

This is one of my shortcomings as a trainer so I'd love to hear what works for people.  At one of my jobs, I give advice mostly.  Some people look to me to give them willpower to work out, resist foods, etc.  I can give them strategies but sometimes it's not enough. One person hates vegetables but wants to eat better.  Another wants to give up diet soda but won't drink water.  Diabetics won't give up sugar/carbs. There are many cases like that. To me, you're an adult, you just do it.  Sometimes we just can't do everything we want to do and have to do things we don't.  We all know the platitudes that it makes you feel better, healthier but that's not immediate enough.  What makes you decide to make a change when you'd rather do something else? How do you develop will power?

For me, long term results work. I can give up short term pleasures if I know there is a pay off.  I think of it as medicine and eventually it becomes part of your life and you don't even notice it, like my mom needed glaucoma drops twice a day. I hate eye drops but sure I'd do it if I needed to maintain eye pressure and not go blind.  






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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 03-05-2014 - 7:03am

"I was winded walking up 5 flights of stairs to work..."  Ok, aren't most people?!  lol.  You are being too hard on yourself!  I am winded after two flights of stairs.  Still, I empathize with you.,  I want to look good in my clothes, too.  :P  And thanks for reminding me about water.  I have been slacking off, as I have to constantly remind myself to drink water!  I like the lemon.  :)

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 9:55am

I think part of it also is that we as a society have gotten into a very "i need it now" mindset.  Most people (not to stereotype) are not used to delayed gratification, able to put the thought into the long term benefits over short term gains.  I will admit, I LOVE chocolate, I know what it does to me, but having the willpower to put it off, or to eat only a cery small amount is definitely harder.  Just like saving money for a large purchase, so many people are just used to pulling out the credit card and paying for it later. 

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 4:01pm

Health is a great motivator. What would you say to motivate someone who wants to get healtier but won't eat more and any fruits and vegetables, give up junk food or work out?  That's where I struggle w/ getting people to do it.  To me, it's a no brainer but they look to me to provide some magic answer. There isn't one.  I feel like some people are just good at getting people to buy into things. 






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Registered: 01-15-2014
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 11:12am

Being healthy is most people's motivation these days. Do you know healthy eating is the simplest yet the hardest step in becoming healthy and stunning. Lots of people don't understand it that what they eat is what their health and their bodies reflect. If you want to use health as a motivation to accomplish lasting beauty, try eating a well-balanced diet by loading up on fruits, vegetables and water each day.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 6:41pm

And even better, we're setting a good example for our kids.  Moving is fun, not a chore!






Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 4:45pm
Part of it is also setting an example. I'll admit my ODD has, or has had, very horrible health habits because she learned them from me growing up. I have made a complete 180 turn around and she spent the first year rolling her eyes at me and refusing to eat anything "healthy" I cooked. Now that she's off to college, she gets it more than before. But my little ones, its natural to them because most of what they remember is how we eat now. They don't blink or protest when I hand them a glass of water with dinner, in fact the middle one asks for water more than she asks for anything else. Kambucha, we go to the farmers market almost every weekend and they both get their own glass jar to pick out their own flavor for the week, its just natural to them and I am glad that I am setting a better example for them than i did the first time around, at least in terms of food. Activity wise, the oldest is much more active because of example, we were always outside kicking around the ball, playing tennis, riding bikes, etc. I was a single mom, but I worked and commuted less and was home more with her. The little ones, we live in Texas and the heat still kills me after 8 years and its hard for me to get out and active in the summer, I work and commute longer hours so we aren't as active as I would like us to be.
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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 4:40pm
I completely agree and when people comment to me about "why do you work out, your thin", while I do try and educate them by saying that just because I am thin does not mean I am healthy, or I will say that I am not exercising to lose weight, I am exercising to stay healthy, people still look at me weird and eventually I stop bothering to explain. I have to say it, but so many people are programed to think that thin means healthy and vice versus that its ridiculous at times. Now I usually just smile and say I like to exercise, its easier.
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 4:36pm

There's definitely something to taking care of your health for people around you, too.  That's one problem w/ naturally being thin is that people equate that w/ healthy. My SILs are all thin and overfat.  They don't work out or watch what they eat.  Was it here that someone posted a link to a show that had two women, same weight and height but one was overfat and unhealthy.  It's all about lifestyle, not weight.  






Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 9:58am

Mine was purely a health crisis that started things off.  I always said before then, I was blessed with good genes and a good metabolism.  I was always slim and could eat anything I wanted, but after 2 pregnancies in 4 years and a host of health problems afterwards, it really pushed me to get on track.  Its funny you mentioned the water thing, my mom has taken on weight especially in her stomach and thighs and last time she was down to visit she was complaining about it, her and my dad both bring a gallon bag full of pills with them each time they visit and my dad was diagnosed with diabetes a year ago.  My mom has MRSA and I mentioned to her that drinking water would help her tremendously and her response was "I don't like water".  Well, I don't like water either, but I know how important it is now and make sure that I am drinking enough, weather i have to flavor it with lemon or whatever, I make sure to drink it every day. 

But my two biggest motivators are 1, my kids.  I got to the point where i hated that at 36 years old, I couldn't keep up with them, I was winded walking up 5 flights of stairs to work.  I feel so much better now in general, I sleep better, my hot flashes are gone, I feel better in general and love it.  And 2, I'll admit, I am vain at times and i love wearing cute skinny clothes and really want to get back to wear i can put my belly button ring back in.  I am not there yet, but its definitely motivating to be slim, but still have a muffin top poking over your jeans.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 02-21-2014 - 9:53am
"Ego sitting." I love that and am stealing it. :)

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