Are we double posting Thursday

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Are we double posting Thursday
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Thu, 05-08-2014 - 8:00am

It's been kind of crazy this week w/ posting at the same time/double posting... I'm going to rant that my husband is on his (what I call) Mother's day golf vacation. I don't mind his going away like this because I do it and he deserves it. But, this trip is always right before Mother's Day and my son has to get back from college w/ his year long supplies, plus my daughter is in the school play so there's a lot of shuffling around for me.  His timing could be better!  I'm teaching my fitness class today.  I'm a lame duck since the class is going away and I can't get motivated to come up w/ something that outside the box. I have a couple of advice clients after but I really need a nap and it's just 8am!






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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 8:23am

I need a nap, too!  I was at my girlfriend's house until 12 midnight last night!  We were just chatting away and dancing all evening after a nice sushi dinner.  I have to admit that my memory is fading and I have a hard time finding the words for the steps - I can't tell if that is from hormones, stress, and/or early onset dementia.  Call me neurotic, but after attending the Alzheimer's meeting, you just never know - the youngest Alzheimers case is in their 20's.

Anyways, dh came home early from work to make sure he "caught me" before I went out dancing, and presented me with a Mother's Day card and flowers.  I think that was his way of apologizing and letting me know that he knew that he said some things in anger/hurt that should not have been said.  I saw a side of him that I surely do not care for, and after learning from my first marriage, I know that I will never NEED a man in my life again, but I certainly can WANT one.  I have gained a certain sense of independence where I know that I can get along just fine on my own.  I didn't feel that way during my first marriage.

Aaaahhhh...work today, possible lunch with a girlfriend (I lost her home phone number...dumb-dumb-me,) massage tonight, and maybe dogtraining, or maybe I chill out with dh since I leave for the weekend to see my mom for Mother's Day.  Also, I may (or may not) have to come back early on Sunday to meeting with my new lawyer to go over my case.  I am coming to understand that lawyers, if they are high in demand, are continuously juggling several cases at one time, and I am going ot have to make sure that my lawyer is on top of all of my issues!  At the prices I am paying, I certainly do hope so, at least!

Make it a great day, everyone!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 9:00am

Jean, that is definitely unfortunate timing.  Maybe though he had to do a bit of the same while you were skiing this winter?  Wink

SJ, wonderful memories of your mom.  Thanks for sharing.  

FSN, if DH doesn't know "you need counseling" is a trigger for you, you must tell him and explain why.  Unless he's a soul-less beast, he will make an effort to stop saying that.  Re: counseling and being "the big person" - look at it from an empowerment stance.  Therapy will help YOU deal with frustrations at home and that may or may not carry over into your marriage.  Look at therapy in a completely selfish way - not that you are an ineffective partner/person but simply that you are learning more effective coping and communication skills.  You've been doing more things for yourself lately - let this be one of them.  

Despite not feeling awesome, I worked like a demon yesterday to get everything squared away from being gone.  Got the trailer completely clean and it now sits ready for DH to go to BM.  Got all of my crap put away and a significant amount of laundry done.  I also finished a contract for a client who was very pleased (always a nice feeling).  

I worked so hard yesterday partly so I could take it easy today.  I've got an appointment with my allergist this evening so I'm going to leave a few hours early to do "adult" things...  pick up prescriptions, go to the chiropractor, get emissions tested on my car.  WHEN DID MY LIFE BECOME SO EXCITING?  Tongue Out  

Those things aside, I'm going to call my mom and rest.  Probably do a little bit of work.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 12:24pm

WOOOO I had to turn on the AC yesterday and thought of Gym. lol It was so nice to be hot. I had a pork butt in the crockpot simmering in bbq sauce and it just felt so summerish. 

Fresh, I too worry about dementia in myself. It is rampant in my family and I know if it's caught earlier enough they have some treatments available to slow it down. I had to get a new family doctor recently and I made sure she knew about it just in case. She said she will start screening me every year to look for signs. 

My pulled muscle is feeling better and I am considering going for a light jog today. If I can't do it then I am going to volunteer to help out at the 5K this Saturday rather than run it. At least I will get to be part of it. 

Karla
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Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 3:27pm

One of my real life friends sent me the funniest picture today and I just have to share it with you girls. You know my mom lives across the street from me and I have many problems with that. Just last week she called me to come over three times to help her "fix" her TV. All three times she had pushed the wrong buttons on the remote and turned her TV on the wrong channel so her cable wasn't showing properly. I was ready to take her remote away! LOL

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Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 3:28pm

GR, yeah, my husband had to do what I normally do in the evenings while I was skiing, except I had to plan everything, get rides for my daughter, get the dog walkers, etc.  But, coming home from a year of college is a big deal (and all the assorted stuff) and the play is a big deal and they didn't happen when I was gone, nor was it close to Father's Day! I honestly have no problems w/ his golfing/guy vacations. It's just the timing for this one.  I think one of the things about moms' functions is that we plan for when we go away. Dads just go.

FSN, has the therapy helped you?  Not that I'd write it off if it hadn't because it could be a matter of finding the right one. If all the guys in your life are telling you that, it makes you think either you're picking the wrong guys or there might be something they need to share in therapy with you!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 3:29pm

Hahaha, I so need that!  I don't get why there are so many control buttons when fewer would be better.  Who needs four remotes???






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 3:34pm
FSN, I have to say that I loved therapy...I did it at two different points in my life and I still go back to coping skills I learned. It helped me understand that people perceived things differently than I did, and also that my feelings were valid. My sister in law also had counseling, and one of the things she learned was about 'magical thinking' when your idea of a good/likely outcome was so far from what would ever be possible that you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Also that no one put us in charge of the world, and a lot of what we think is 'our responsibility' is something we self assigned and actually have no right to be in charge of...we both go back to those concepts, and can ask each other if we are engaging in the behavior when we see the other one slipping....Jean, how do the people who attend the class feel about it being cancelled? I would think they are not too happy....Gymrat, I am pretty sure you will find something more fun than running errands soon. Karla, good idea to volunteer...there will be other races....I went to Zumba today and am going to hear one of my cousin's kids sing tonight...the group performed the Messiah at Christmas and it was an excellent performance - tonight is 'The Four Seasons'.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 4:41pm

Yeah, I love that too.  I sent it to my mom.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 4:58pm

That's interesting what your sister learned about "magical outcomes." It reminds me of a study I'd read that the people who are least happy in life have an idea how people should respond or what they should be doing. It reminds me of my mom and to some respect my husband. Both will tell me, "Well, I would have xxxx but you didn't."  Sorry to disappoint what's in your head?

The people in the class are upset that they're closing the fitness classes but they understand. It's been operating at a loss (and a headache) for the studio for years.  A long time ago, they were super popular classes, especially in the evenings when moms would bring their children to the studio and then do a class.  I heard it was so popular that getting a step was hard.  So, the studio kept it going out of loyalty to the few women who come and it was nice of them but we always knew this would come.  They've asked if they could pay more to keep it going but I think it's gotten to be a headache for the studio between dealing w/ cancelling classes for the weather, finding subs, etc.  It's sad because some have been coming for 25 years!






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 05-08-2014 - 10:10pm
Karla, I confess that I have called the place I bought my tv for help unscrambling what I did with my remotes....we had an early color TV with a remote (purchased in 1962) and it had a remote...it only got VHF Channels ( which is all there were in 1962). After we got a puppy, we found out that the squeak of some of his toys was enough to change the tv channels...my dad would holler 'stop playing with the dog, I'm trying to watch the news'.

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