a blanket of clouds on Thursday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
a blanket of clouds on Thursday
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Thu, 08-28-2014 - 7:37am

The clouds are moving through here this morning.  It's beautiful the way the sun is hitting them.  :)  My feet ache as I continue to break in my new boots.  I danced for most of the night (3 hours?), and had a blast.  THAT was my cardio.  I have a private dance lesson at lunchtime, and a massage scheduled for tonight.  I think I am going back to every 2 weeks for a massage, as my knots seem to be held at bay...at least, pain wise.

I have gone out two times this week, and am thinking one more time, as well, for dogtraining tonight.  Actually, I might be too tired, but we shall see this afternoon.  I am taking a client/friend out for lunch tomorrow to a place that serves extravagantly made hot dogs (some with fois gras) and french fries fried in duck fat.  :O  It won't be good for my cholesterol, but, hey, you only live once.  :P  I feel sort of guilty for doing so many fun things for myself...but I am really enjoying it, too!  My husband stays home, watching tv and doing various house things.  Since I know that he would like me to stay home with him, that is why I feel a little guilty.  I once read that when a man retires, he stays homes after going out most of his young life, while when a woman retires, she goes out a lot because she stayed at home most of her young life.

Life is grand!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 8:17am

FSN, who do you go dancing with?  Have you asked your husband to go out w/ you to dinner or a movie or something? I'm out most nights at the parkour gym but it doesn't bother my husband. I think that he likes having a wife who's off the walls, literally.  That's an interesting quote. How does that fit most of you here? When I was younger, I went out all the time.  Now I only go out to go to the gym. My husband, OTOH, would rarely go out. He's always been happy in front of the TV and now he golfs.  But, in the winter, I'm skiing and don't go out at night, although most of the ski crowd does. I just don't have the energy and age isn't an excuse because everyone is about my age.  

So at parkour yesterday during the day, I had no energy. I was that person who couldn't be quiet and that's normally my thing.  I drove home exhausted but my daughter wanted to go to silks at 8.  So, since the guys have been working so hard w/ teaching at the gym w/ a new transition, I baked cookies for them (I'm such a mom) and went to silks. So glad I went. I had no energy in the beginning of class but picked up and it was so fun.  LOL, we did this one conditioning move where the silks are between our legs and we slowly lower our upper bodies down. It was really painful and having no filter, I exclaimed, "Ow, burning between the legs!" After it came out, I realized what I'd said, in front of all these young girls. Oops. I'm going to asked to leave class one day.  I've already had to be rescued twice by the instructor who had to pick me up and extricate me from the silks.






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 10:05am

lmao at burning between the legs!  I think you are a great inspiration to doing whatever you want at any age...not that you are old.  Hah.  I am older than you!  Still, so many people at our age are not active...even younger people are not that active.  This country is too sedentary and that is why we have so much obesity, diabetes, and cardiovascular disease!

Re: dh, I think dinner and a move are so boring and sedentary.  I suppose if I am active throughout the day, I would like to be sedentary at night.  Perhaps I can work on that.  Plus, dh is always invited to go to the dance venue with me, but he doesn't want to go.  So I go with my girlfriend(s).  I think he is imagining that I am dancing with men all night, but that is not the case.  It's mostly linedancing, and I am only there to dance!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 10:25am

Can you find an activity that you'd both enjoy? Or one that you might not LOVE doing but can do to do something w/ your husband? My husband has no interest in aerial silks or parkour so I wouldn't expect him to come but we do go out to eat and find things we can do, even if it's not my first choice of activity. I'm hanging out w/ all the young guy instructors and guys at parkour but my husband doesn't mind.  It wouldn't bother me if he were golfing with women, either, because I have absolutely no interest in that.  To be honest, I don't want to do every activity I do w/ my husband. We just find a few that we do together.  Mostly, we eat out and cook.;-)  It's all about the food.






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 2:46pm
As an always single person, the husband discussions always fascinate me...I don't know har GR ,a ages with DH and OP...I could never manage one guy! I don't wish for a man in my life as much as I think it would be nice if I wanted one...I would occasionally like someone to cuddle on the couch, eat snacks and watch football or basketball with...and then go home...maybe the occasional Saturday night sleepover for Sunday morning Bloody Marys and brunch...even in the best relationship I had, I always felt a little off balance, like I didn't meet expectations...for me, alne is more managable. I am in the 'a woman needs a mam like a fish needs a bicycle' group...of course, I could never figure out if I had kids, who would take care of them either....so I am best as is....I am back on the bus....lots of traffic as the long weekend approaches...I've been to the gym - my usual 20 minute bike warmup, lifting for shoulders, bis, tris, and then abs.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 5:45pm

Hahaha, sometimes I feel like that woman/man/fish/bike analogy!  But overall I'm happy with being married, just as I think I'd be happy being single. I think it's like having kids, too. I'm happy that I have kids but I think my life would be just as full without.  The biggest thing right now, other than emotional support/drive me crazy non-support, is that it allows me to be lazy at times--we share in the household chores like meals, taking care of the house, etc. He will do his share of laundry.  it's extra nice because I only work part time and he doesn't mind. When the kids were young, it was one thing because he did understand how hard it was raising babies and toddlers but as we only have one teen in the house, I really don't have an excuse, other than being too busy playing. And, he doesn't mind that.  So gotta appreciate what I have, too!  We have our own lives and have enough in common that we do do things together. I'm w/ you on GR, though--I can manage one but not sure about two!  But, hey the guy was really hot... just kidding.






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 08-28-2014 - 5:55pm

Jean, I love the fact that you have no filter.  I think you and I could empty out a group exercise class in about five minutes flat. Wink

FSN, don't feel guilty for the sake of feeling guilty!  If going out and doing things makes you happy, by all means!  

It can be tough to manage the go out/stay in thing.  I have more a "regular" social life and have several friends I see on a regular basis.  OP has one or two he'll see on his own.  DH mostly hangs out with his brother or OP.  DH tends to "binge" on social stuff more whereas after three or four hours of a party, OP and I are done.  As to how I handle two men...  umm.  Alcohol?  Tongue Out  

It's been a hectic day.  As an anniversary gift since we're not together this week, I took OP's dogs to get groomed.  Guys keep their dogs like they keep their homes - "it's not that bad."  But these ladies needed some serious grooming.  So, I took 'em in, picked 'em up a few hours later, got them hamburgers from McDonald's and we all snuggled and hung out at OP's for a bit.  They are fairly large size dogs (akita mix and husky mix) and handling the two of them is like handling about five toddlers on meth (not that I've ever seen a toddler on meth but I'm guessing).  They are a handful and have exhausted me.  Wink

I made good progress on one of my projects yesterday and will likely be working through the weekend so I'm taking today off.  I decided today would be doggie/Kel time.  I started a pedicure earlier and now that I'm home for good, I'm gonna finish it.  Planning to relax and chill the rest of the day with movies, reading and finishing the pedicure.  Manicure will happen sometime this weekend. No workout today as I decided to do a rest day.  I turned to grab my washcloth in the shower yesterday and had a nasty back spasm.  Of course, I'd gotten through working out and stretching just fine....  It's feeling much better but the fact that such discomfort can come from a small innocuous movement is disturbing. 

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 08-29-2014 - 8:15am

Managing two large dogs, especially when you don't do it all the time, sounds exhausting. My one little dog is enough for me. Glad you took the rest of the day for yourself!  Are you prone to back spasms?  Have you been evaluated posturally?  Things like that happen to me and I know what is causing it. I just can't be bothered to do all the rehab exercises to fix it.