can't wait for friday on Thursday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
can't wait for friday on Thursday
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Thu, 03-06-2014 - 7:32am

Funny, but I can't wait to go dancing tomorrow night.  You see, when I am dancing, I experience joy and nothing else.  It's as though all of the world disappears.  :D  I am lucky that I have something that I enjoy so much, and someone to do it with because I don't go to bars by myself...even if it's just for dancing.

A TON of work today, wash the dogs tonight.  I really should go to a gym class, but the legal paperwork (and reliving all the @#$% with my ex in preparation for court) has left me exhausted.  I think I need to have more "difficult conversations" with my manager, as his inappropriate comments leave me feeling down.  It doesn't help that he just fired one of my colleagues and that colleague feels completely betrayed because what the manager said to him vs. his behavior was quite to the contrary, according to him, aka, you can't trust him.  :(

Well, I do love what I do (teach my customers are physiology, disease state, and pharmaceuticals, insurance, etc.), so I will continue to do that as long as I am able and willing.  I have really made some wonderful "friendships" with some really good people.  I am blessed.,  I AM having fun when I am not working with my manager.  :D

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:00am

Good luck w/ all the lawyer stuff.  I was thinking how we get little clips of each others lives, we form ideas of the people we all are but I wonder how accurate it really is.  People tell me my life seems exciting/crazy but it's really pretty basic and boring but I must share enough of those adventures that it seems like my life is.  I'm a pretty boring SAHM who used to drive a minivan, colonial house in a suburb HOA, two kids, etc.  Anyway... my skating class was cancelled because I was the only one who signed up. What is w/ moms who don't participate in life?  It seems I go places, skiing, skating, amusement parks, etc.and dads do the activities w/ their kids but most moms tend to sit out. Is it lack of interest (which is fine)? Or is it something they've learned from society?  If I want to skate more seriously, I have to take private lessons, which might work out better because my schedule is so odd anyway.  But, my silks teacher just contacted me about starting lessons again since she found me a partner.  I've been away from that since I dislocated my finger at parkour a couple of months ago and it hurt to hold onto anything.  It's all going to add up to a lot of money, though, so I have to play it by ear.  Ski season should be coming to an end soon, unfortunately.  I just signed up for a four day clinic at Whiteface/Lake Placid for the end of the month w/some friends so I'm really excited! It's with the woman who wrote this book. She's awesome--I did it last year w/ her and it was four days of intense learning and nonstop laughter.  I highly recommend this book for anyone is doesn't do something because they're afraid.  

http://www.amazon.com/A-Conversation-Fear-Mermer-Blakeslee/dp/1617562726






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:21am

That sounds like a great book.  When I "arose" from my first marriage, the book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gary DeBecker (?) really helped me through some dark times. 

I agree with you in that it seems like most people sit on the sidelines.  YOU CERTAINLY DON'T!!! I found out that only five people signed up for the west coast swing class, and three of us are women.  :P  I don't know how that's gonna work because you need a partner for wcs!  Yes, private lessons are great but expensive.  When I had the dance instructor come to our house, dh and I learned much more quickly than if we were in class!  I wondered if I should take dance classes and compete so that it PUSHED me to a certain level of excellence.  :P 

And, yes, I wonder what it would be like to meet all of you in person.  Would it impair the connection we have envisioned on the board?  Or would it make it stronger?!  GR could blog about it.  :D  Something to consider?  You have to get those bucket list line items completed!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:23am

FSN, enjoy your dancing and good luck with court prep.  I'm glad you are recognizing that that is very stressful.  Be kind to yourself. 

Jean, I think the moms-sitting-out thing is representative of the fact that high school is never really over.  There is an extreme awareness that people are watching and judging you all the time and I'm guessing that's why the moms don't participate.  I also think people (not just moms) get "stuck" in their roles as adults.  They forget how to play.   

My morning is a bit hectic.  I've got to go get my allergy shot and magic injections and then I'm crossing town to see my doctor.  Their practice has five locations but he only works at two of them.  It would be nice if he worked at the location where I get my shots but ah well.  I should be getting the results of the CT scan.  I'm really curious to see what it says.  

I did cardio this morning and will need to spend the afternoon working.  I've got one resume finished, one in revision, one I just started and three I haven't touched.  Lots of work!  My client cancelled yesterday so I had some extra time to work on things.  DH is leaving tomorrow morning for a backpacking trip.  I'm looking forward to some time alone at home.  I'm going to a music festival with a couple friends on Friday night to see a band I really like.  Saturday, I'm doing a sweat lodge with a group of friends.  Best friend's partner is Native American and he has arranged for us to do a lodge on the reservation.  I think it's going to be interesting.  Sunday, OP is having another work party for the noodle forest.  I am reserving commitment on that until Sunday.  I might be exhausted and not want to see people.  Also, a former friend somehow invited herself to the work party and I don't know if I feel like dealing with that.  She's become very buddy-buddy with my MIL so the whole thing is just awkward and weird.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:24am

The Gift of Fear is a great book, FSN.  

Yes, it would be odd to meet all of you but it would neat too.  I think you all might say "She seemed more adult online."  Tongue Out

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 1:11pm

I am still alive but struggling to breathe; I have bronchitis. Ugg. Being sick does not fit into my plans for life. I am too busy and want to do too much to get sidelined. 

Fresh, that is just bad news about your manager. Be careful. 

Jean, I think a lot of women/mothers sit it out because they are just too tired. They know they need to make cuts somewhere in their lives as do-it-alls and so they stay out of the "extras" in life. 

Gym, I don't know how you are a resume writer. I worked on mine yesterday and I just hate it. Ugg. Maybe it is easier if you are working on someone elses?!

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 2:31pm

That's an interesting thought about being stuck in high school mentality. I had a hs friend on FB who said she didn't go to a party she wanted to because she felt fat.  I think forgetting how to play is a big part of it.  They hang out and have wine but I don't think they play.  There are plenty of times where I sit out so I don't think it's wrong but it is sad that some want to do it and don't.  I sit out when the activity doesn't interest me, eg tennis w/ my son. But yesterday when I was skating, as I left a mom told me I looked good out there. Both her daughters were skating and her husband (flailing but he was there).  I asked why she didn't and she said she wanted to but jusdt shrugged and said maybe later.  I hear that at parkour, silks and skiing, too. My SIL has three grown kids and she has never done anything w/ them other than shopping.  OTOH, I rarely shop w/ my kids so they might be wondering why I sit out!

What are you doing for cardio these days? I feel like I've been sitting out on that, too, lately.  I move but don't really work out.

As meeting up goes, I've met Jen from this board. She's even more awesome in person than she was on the board. I've met up w/ Running Women for a couple of races, again super fun.  These short meetings are great.  If we all lived in the same area all the time, it might be different.  But, it's been a great experience. And, yeah, GR, I wonder if you'd all think I was kind of inappropriate for someone my age. I feel like the two of us are reliving our childhood that we missed as kids since we were so responsible then.  






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 2:33pm

Sorry to hear about the bronchitis!  Bad winter for health.  You have a point about being too tired. The women who I know who are involved work out and are in shape so it's not a big deal. But, I guess skiing and stuff like that would be tiring for someone who doesn't.  






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 7:23pm

Jean, you are so right.  Definitely making up for lost time.. and if you ask me, playing as an adult is way more fun than playing as a kid.  Wink

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:00pm
Not a mother,so I don't really see them 'sitting out' but I am afraid of breaking something...which in my case is not unreasonable. Even in high school, I was way more likely to be sitting with a book than playing a sport. I am way. More active now...and. I care way less what anyone else thinks but I was always 'different' and ok with that. The beauty of online relationships is. That you can be both more and less honest and open...we both tell our most interesting stories and reveal secrets we might not share in 'real life'. I love both how different we are, and how much the same. Karla, I think our bodies. Know when we need to rest..try to listen to yours. FSN, my advice about your manager is advice my mother often gave me 'all you have to do is wait'. It is hard advice to follow, but she was always right. Jean, you are the ONLY one who will be sorry to see winter end! Gymrat, the noodle forest sounds even more intriguing than the noodle project....I had so much fun at the Celtics last night - the game was awful but we laughed a lot...went to the gym today - 5 minutes on bike, lifting for. Shoulders, bis, tris, abs, 10 minutes on stairs..no treadmills were available and stairs gives the most calories per hour...I think I might add it to Thursday instead of the running I usually skip because it is time efficient!
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:13pm

" if you ask me, playing as an adult is way more fun than playing as a kid."

Because we're legal.Wink






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