A fresh start for freshstartnow on Tuesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
A fresh start for freshstartnow on Tuesday
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Tue, 05-06-2014 - 7:25am

Time for an attitude adjustment!  Afterall, it's just a shift in thinking correct?!  Jean, I really hope you DO make the video!  You are an inspiration to others, and you ARE strong.  You should definitely put some aerial silks, in addition to the parkour in it!  I would love to see it!

Early morning yoga, work, and then, if I get the confirmation call, I will go to an alzheimer's group showing videos of what the patients are going through.  I really believe that my mom has dementia caused my several small TIAs, and not alzheimer's, but the clinicians seem to lump it all into one category.  I should also hear from my lawyer today...hopefully court will be postponed to give him a chance to review my case since he is new, which then means that I can have lunch with a "long lost girlfriend" on Thursday instead of seeing my ex.  :P

I have doubled up on my HRT, so I am hoping that will help me, as the lack of hormones seems to be associated with much anxiety, in addition to the negative effects of sleep deprivation.  :O

Three new things I am grateful for - the beautiful purple-blue color of the hydrangeas (why do colors make me feel so happy?!), the warmth of the sun as it shines through my sunroom windows, and my dh who is my rock of support throughout the past 10 years of my life turmoils...we will have been married for 8 years next month!  I cannot believe how time flies!!!  MAKE IT A GREAT DAY, EVERYONE!!!

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 05-07-2014 - 9:31am

Thank you, SJ.  I am doing exactly what you recommended.  "Life is too short..."

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 05-07-2014 - 7:27am

A glass of wine would be a great addition to the salon appointment!  There was something in the paper about Maryland passing a law that you could do it--apparently some salons were doing it but it wasn't legal because the businesses weren't authorized to serve alcohol. Rob Glick does a vinyasa and vino class that sounds great, too!

Those were really good ideas your stepmother gave you on job hunting. I had a client say that everyone should meet with at least three acquaintenances every month, ones who would be able to help them network in case they need a job.  That way, your network is up to date and you're not having to call someone you haven't talked to in years. I think it's a great idea. Much better to be proactive than to worry excessively and not take action.






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 10:03pm
I like my 'hair person' but I loved the person she bought the shop from....Claire would frequently ask if I wanted a glass of wine while my color set....probably not legal, but nice. My doctor looks about 14...ten years ago he looked 12....Karla, glad your granddaughter is going better, and that you are sensibly healing...do you have a place you can swim? I find that low impact and yet good cardio. Jean, I think you should finish your video making a mile high lemon decadence cake while speaking Italian....she can bring home the bacon...heck, she can rassle the pig....Gymrat, are you able to go to Burning Man this year? I know last year there were ticket issues and I think you had cat issues...is everything good for this year? FSN, I have probably told this story before, but 20 years ago when I worked for a dysfunctional person who had me convinced I would never find a good job if/when I were laid off, my wonderful stepmother slapped me upside the head with this advice. ' Get the Sunday paper and choose ten jobs you are willing to do. You don't have to be qualified for them, they just have to be something you would do. Send them a resume'. Today, substitute Monster or Inspire for newspaper. The idea is that you see that there are jobs out there, and for jobs you would like but aren't qualified for, you find out what you need to do. It helps you think about your skills and how to frame them for a different job....things like sales skills, presentation, organization fit a lot of things. Another thing to do is to take a set of index cards and write one thing you do on each card...not just work things, life things, fun things...then say, if I never had to do some of these things, which would they be...take those out of your pile. Then say, if I couldn't do these things, that would be ok. Take those out of your pile. Then say I couldn't live if I couldn't do these things. Those are your priorities, and the discards from that round are your nice to haves. Some of my 'musts' are the gym, cooking, time with my family, writing, organizing things...that is how I am settling into retirement, but it also would guide me in a job search...one of my job ones was 'walk to work'. Even on the most annoying days, I would remember that at that job, I could walk to work...some days it was all there was...but it was something....I am back in Boston after a beautiful weekend on the Cape. I think I. Might have found a good volunteer opportunity...the Historical Society was bequeathed a home and gift shop by someone who was a collector on the edge of hoarding....maybe compulsive...they want to determine what to do with the gift...running the gift shop, which is combination of antiques/collectible sand some new things, but packed with stuff, and the house which has tons of stuff, some unexplored, much of it beautiful. They need help setting direction, cataloging the collection, and physical labor to just figure out what they have. Many of their members are older, and many are committed to other projects, so I am hopeful that this might be a good fit for my abilities and interests. It did make me think I should never by another 'thing'. I went to the gym to lift (chest/back), abs, and swam 60 laps.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 3:18pm

Yes we do have a rowing machine at my gym and I had forgotten about it. I will have to add that to my routine. I'm really wanting to get my heart rate up and sustain it for a while without adding stress to my lower leg and that would be the perfect solution. 

My injuries take a lot longer too than they ever used to. I never used to soak or ice or wrap or anything but these days I find if l don't do all the right things then my injuries could linger on and on. Thankfully I've never had anything too serious to have to deal with; just a lot of irritating minor issues. I usually find that changing my routine or just plain ole rest does a world of good. lol 

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 3:01pm

Is there a rowing machine at your gym?  It's a great low impact workout and you can emphasize your upper body more.  My injuries take forever to heal. I was complaining about it to the parkour instructor about getting old and he said, "Or maybe it's about being active?"  Yeah.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 1:34pm

Jean, I too think everyone looks so young these days. I see young couples with babies and can't help think to myself that they look way to young to be parents. 

My leg is healing but not as fast as I'd like. I wanted to be out on the road again this week so I could do a few runs before the 5K but I don't think that is going to happen. It is at the point now that I could just suck it up and tough it out but after dealing with the achilles injury for so long I am trying to play this one smart. I don't want to get re-injured or have to deal with a nagging ache so I am not going out on the road again until I am 100% painfree. I've been hanging out at the gym lifting weights and using the eliptical and it's been a nice workout week for me so I really shouldn't complain. 

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 1:05pm

My new hair person was good. She's super young, like could easily be my daughter and was talking about graduating from high school.  I just have to suck it up that I'm at the age where everyone is going to be young, not just the parkour and silks crowd. What is it about bad dreams that are so wearing?  If we could figure out a way to control our dreams, we'd be millionaires!

Karla, hope your leg feels better soon! Is it getting better?






Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 11:27am

Living in a small town, I have a hair person. And a teeth person, and a just-about-everything-else person. I can't go get my hair done without gossipping about other people we both know and same with teeth, etc. It's just one of those things. 

SJ, you are very thoughtful and inspiring. You should write a book or start an advice column. lol

Jean-make the video! That is so totally cool!!

Gym, I hate having bad dreams. I have totally weird dreams all the time so I'm pretty used to it but when something is bad enough that I don't want to go back to sleep then it is usually really bad and sticks with me for days. I hope you can shake it. 

I got out and voted this morning. Our school system wants to raise property taxes to renovate the high school here to the tune of $40,000,000. It will increase every's taxes by at least 265 a year for the next several decades. The population of this town is shrinking and so is school enrollment so it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to spend that kind of money on a school that is perfectly fine as is. The majority of my property taxes (and everyone elses) already goes to the schools so I just do not get this. 

I have been babying my leg to try to get my pulled muscle healed so I can at least participate somehow, whether walking or running, in a local 5K this Saturday but now it is looking like it's going to thunderstorm all Saturday morning so it may not even be an issue after all. 

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 9:18am

Jean, I relate to not having a hair person you like.  I think it just takes time.  I don't really like to chat that much when I get my hair done so I usually whip out my Kindle or a magazine so they don't force me to socialize.  I have a person now who does a good job but she's quite young so I feel like an old fart when I see her.  

FSN, good for you for the attitude change.  One of the most valuable things I learned in therapy is something you touched on - when people behave in ways that are inappropriate, it helps to remind myself that they do this because at some point in their past, it worked for them and that's why they continue to do it.  Does it change the situation?  No.  But it can help my attitude towards them and I find it's much more comfortable for me to feel sorry for them rather than be angry at them.  (Adding on here - as I read my response before posting, it reminded me to do this with an issue I'm facing in my own life.  HA!)    

Had a bad dream last night so I woke up early not wanting to go back to sleep.  Still feeling a bit weary from the weekend.  We took my friend to the airport yesterday afternoon.  It was sad saying goodbye but hopefully, he'll come visit after Burning Man.  I have lots of work to do today and I have a massage.