Friday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
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Fri, 06-27-2014 - 8:36am

So much to do!  I have to "close-out" all things from my old company, complete all training for my new company, do my regular work, and then travel to take care of my mom.  My massage yesterday was vunderbaar, but the numbness in my fingers is back.  I am guessing it is stress related.  I think I should do some meditation this morning.

I was getting worried when dh wasn't home in time (and he didn't tell me he was going anywhere) last night, when he pulled up in a red sports car.  Really?!  C'est la vie.  He likes his toys.  I guess I shouldn't feel worried about buying my daughter a car.  :O  My frugal routines get blasted out of the water, once again.  I guess life is about enjoying, yes?!

What are you all up to?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 8:39am

FSN, like they say, you can't take it with you!  Cool

I'm doing strength training this morning, working and then headed out to grocery shop and get adjusted at the chiro.  OP is going camping this weekend so I'm staying at his place to watch the dogs.  Having a girls' night tonight with my bestie and then going to a clothing exchange party tomorrow.  Aside from those things, I'm looking forward to some relaxing alone time.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 8:53am

Wow, I have to say I'm far more controlling than you are!  My husband comes home w/ too many dog toys and I comment. And he makes the money!  I'm off the teach the final fitness class at the dance studio after 26 years and I'm doing a way outside the box class for most of them (I'm subbing this class). I thought it would be my last class ever but I'm subbing else where this month because I can't say no.  And it's supposed to be parkour conditioning but the regular instructor is apparently filming a commercial  for Metro( I assume it'll be parkour related) and I think the instructor who underestimates me will be teaching. I don't know if I can do an hour of nothing fitness.  Ooh, I'm so cynical. 

GR, have fun w/ your friend today.  Sounds like fun!






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 9:32am

lol, Jean, I didn't say that I didn't make some comments.  :P  But GR is right...you can't take it with you.  I'm always the worry-wart, frugal with money.  DH makes me loosen up, and enjoy life.  It causes me some anxiety, but I also get to enjoy it...

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 11:03am

I am not sure what I would do if my husband came home with a sports car. lol He doesn't go to the grocery without checking with me first, he's never even seen his paychecks and has no idea about our bank accounts, house payment, etc. He has a debit card and gets a little cash each week and that is the extent of his spending sprees. Since the day we moved in together we have had  joint bank accounts that he has never even looked at. 

Tomorrow is a big birthday bash for my grandson, Jackson. I can't believe he is already a year old!! He calls me Mom and it's so cute. His mother is Mama and I'm Mom. lol 

I've got big runs planned this weekend. Tomorrow morning very early I'm going with a group to run a practice run on a 10K course for a race we are all doing next weekend. Then I have a group run planned for 8-10 miles on Sunday. I think one of the things that keeps me motivated is the activity with other people. It's fun to plan and get together. I'm so glad I am doing this!

I saw this interesting news article this morning about a family that hired a nanny and then fired her when she refused to do her job. She now won't leave their house and the police won't help them get her out. http://www.whas11.com/news/national/Family-stumped-by-fired-live-in-nanny-who-wont-leave-264881861.html I know that I would never be as nice about it as the family is being. It seems like there has to be some way to get her out...like throw her stuff in the street and change the locks. ;-)

Have a good weekend everyone!

Karla
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 1:35pm

I just have to share...  I just finished the best workout I've had in a long time.  It felt good to work hard and I felt strong.  Man, I missed it!  :)  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 1:45pm

I am so frugal w/ money, too!  Yes, you can't take it w/ you but you also need to make sure you have enough. OTOH, on the few times I've seen Susie Orzman, the type of financial problems these people have make me think I should be more easy going.  I think it's about communication, though. If my husband and I discussed the car, it would be one thing. But to show up w/ such an expensive purchase would floor me!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 1:48pm

I can't believe it's your grandson's first birthday either! Happy birthday to him!

I wonder if that nanny has pulled something like that before. It reminds me of that movie in the 80's Pacific Heights, Did anyone see it?  Crazed tenant won't leave and terrorizes the family.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 1:51pm

GR, so glad you're able to work out hard!  It feels so good to do it.  I taught that last class today, really fun odd circuit obstacle class. They were so nice and gave me a card and gift certificate.  It was sad to leave. One asked what I was going to do and I said keep my advice job. She said it was just a waste of talent for me to sit behind a desk, which was so nice.

The parkour conditioning class was good, too. I gave the instructor a hard time about the class he made super easy and he was good natured about it.  He was the first to say it was really boring.  And, he did a great class, oddly enough similar format to what I tuaght. And it's unusual.  We both did one drill repeated, did another, etc.  Then we strung it together in an obstacle course like way. I had my people go for 5 minutes, though and he had us run through it.  Fun!






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 2:03pm

FSN, at least he didn't buy the car and try to convince you it was a present for you...I have never mixed money with anyone so I have no idea how to do it. I helped my mother with decisions, but it was more necessary to convince her to spend than to not...in fact, eventually, I took over her electric bill (she had electric heat) because I knew if she knew whst heat cost, she would never be warm again...my attitude about money has changed since I retired...I take the subway way more where I used to take taxis, and I really watch when I am eating out and stuff like manicures...I still do things, but I make sure I really 'want to' and it isn't just habit. Karla, you could be putting your husband or your children in a tough position if something happened to you and your husband really knows nothing about managing money...like what happens to a lot of women when their husband dies. My mother had an aunt and uncle who were 'better off' than the rest of the family...she 'came from money'. She and my grandmother entered nursing homes around the same time when they were in their eighties, and we went to visit her. This wan around 1975. She confided that her son was quite annoyed with her, because she hadn't balanced her check book since her husband died...in 1952...,on the other hand, my grandmother would write out a bunch of checks, then call the bank to find out her new balance...before she had mailed the checks...we were dealing with our own problems. And these ladies lived to old ages so I guess it all worked out. I always say 'I've been rich, and I've been poor, and rich is better'. But at some level, I am glad I know how to struggle because life holds any twists and turns...and it probably looks better from a red sports car. There is a big divide in our society, where there are people who think nothing of telling the world you are under house arrest, and others not being able to imagine how you manage on it. I think we (on this board) assume we wlill pay bills on time, keep a reasonably clean house, live a healthy and safe life, work hard and be rewarded fairly for our work. These are not universal values in our society...and social media provides a view into other worlds...(I am on the bus to the Cape, plenty of time for philosophy). I stayed up late last night watching the NBA draft..after a gym visit and went in early today...nearly identical 15 minute bike warmup, lifting, abs. I passed on stairs yesterday and running today. I could blame time, but motivation (or lack of) is the real reason. GR, a clothes swap sounds fun...although I need to do a 2 for 1 because I have a ridiculous amount of clothes and still. Wear the same favorite things over and over. Jean, be brave and tell the instructor you want to be challenged. I went yo a 'half speed' Zumba class last week. The instructor was sweet and I think the people in the class liked the low intensity, but the instructor said a few things about 'getting more people to come'. The popular Zumba class there is very intense nd I thought of saying something to her...but I am seldom open for class at that time and I decided her'regulars' probably liked what she did. Have great weekends everyone!

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: freshstartnow
Fri, 06-27-2014 - 2:21pm

Happy Birthday to your grandson, Karla.  Some happy celebration time for your family is a wonderful thing!  On the car front, dh bought a sports car last year, but took it back because the salesperson llied about some features.  He's been perusing  the internet for "deals," the money is coming from his college fund for his son (we keep our college expenses separate), and he claims that this was such a deal that he may even make money on it when he sells it back (he made money on the carmengia he bought earlier, too.  Blended families have so many nuances.  Back to work...

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