Fun on Friday

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fun on Friday
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Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:04am

I am  not sure why, but I feel unusually happy this morning!  After posting yesterday morning, I saw that I had a meeting which prevented me from early morning yoga.  :(  I have multiple computers with multiple calendars...it's a long story on why I have multiple calendars, but suffice it to say that I opted for a massage after work yesterday .  This masseuse also does Reiki, and although it sounded "hokey" to me, this is my second Reiki session (after the massage), and I do feel better.  :D

I have an early morning computer meeting, as a manager put me on a national committee to evaluate some technology something-or-other.  While that is going on, I will (finally) be getting snow tires.  Did I mention that my poor little car spins tires to get up small inclines in the snow, and we are expecting 8-10 inches this weekend?!  I work today, then travel to see my mother.  Tonight we go ballroom dancing, and tomorrow night, I see some baroque Viennese orchestra something.  It's so interesting because mom's friend is a retired music professor who explains the history and concepts of the music before we go.  It makes the event much more interesting.  I wasn't supposed to see my mom until next weekend, but I found a West Coast Swing class and intensive yoga class next weekend that I want to go to, so...  I also called the director of the indpendent living facility and he expressed concern over mom's memory lapses.  I got him to agree to go forward, and that we will take it "day by day."  The good news is that she is second on the waitlist, and if waitlist #1 rejects the unit, mom can take possession in two weeks.  I am hopeful, since she forgot where her tax attorney was located and had to come home (aka, I think she got lost.)  SJ, I keep trying to take over, but she refuses the help.  I appreciate your comments, as your sentiment is similar to what I am hearing from multiple sources (e.g., you will KNOW when it is time...)

So, I get to see my mom and daughter this weekend.  I am truly blessed.  I specificaly chose this job to have flexibility, and it helps that I can do this job AND take care of my family.  THAT is what is so important to me!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:25am

FSN, good luck with your mom and enjoy your girl time this weekend!  Also, that's really cool about the music professor!  

Jean, I think it's good for you to talk to people.  Feedback and perspective are valuable.  I do however think you have to be conscious of what you share and with whom you share it.  As far as growing a spine, I totally understand.  In certain situations, I am very assertive and in others, I am not.  I am working on being assertive all the time.  

Happy, good luck with the contest but I think it sucks you have to pay taxes on any of it.  My best friend wears a Fitbit and uses it religiously.  

On a whim, I applied for a job with a resume company.  There was a test and sample resume I had to create...  I pulled out my best 50 cent words and hoped for the best.  They liked me and want to hire me.  It's freelance which is my preference anyway.  Seems like the kind of thing where I could work as much or as little as I want.  I have to watch a training video and do a Q&A call this morning.  It could be a good supplement to everything else.  I am not finding much spiritual satisfaction in content creation.  So much revolves around SEO (search engine optimization) and people are want things "longer" when there really isn't anything else to say.  I am finding that challenging.  

I'm planning to do some type of workout today but I don't know what yet.  There are also a zillion things I want to get done around the house so after my call, I'm planning to abandon my laptop and go get all of those little things done.  We're doing a family trip tomorrow to an animal park.  This is our xmas gift that is from DH, OP, MIL and myself.  Unfortunately, it's supposed to rain all day.  But, we're going anyway.  It should be interesting.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:27am

LOL, I knew this would happen because you'd already posted this morning and it took me so long to post my thread.  I'll copy and paste my thread here. So glad that you're feeling good, fsn. Maybe that Reiki massage did the trick!  I've had big ups and downs lately but that's life.

Being a skier, I should love this weather but I actually hate the cold.  It's in the 20's again here and it's normally never that cold. Dealing w/ teen drama drains me.  Really, dealing with any drama drains me.  So I rarely make resolutions but have had a couple of things this go on this week that make me realize I need to change. One, the issue w/ my daughter. I need to stop talking about people. I don't do it in a bad way (or so I think) but do find myself doing it.  Mostly, it's matter of fact and I honestly wouldln't mind if people said things like that behind my back, as long as it wasn't catty.  But, as I said about treating others the way they'd want to be treated not the way I want to be treated, others might not feel this way. So, I'm going to shut up. Two, speak up if I think something is wrong. I think I'm going to start a thread about this above. I team taught w/ this guy last weekend. He decided on his own that the kids would go down a slope that was way too steep for them. I commented about it but should have put my foot down. I'm so afraid of being considered the b!tch. I talked to a couple of instructors i respect about it and they gave me good feedback but we all agreed I need to grow a spine.  I don't have to be liked if it means doing the right thing.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:27am

LOL, I knew this would happen because you'd already posted this morning and it took me so long to post my thread.  I'll copy and paste my thread here. So glad that you're feeling good, fsn. Maybe that Reiki massage did the trick!  I've had big ups and downs lately but that's life.

Being a skier, I should love this weather but I actually hate the cold.  It's in the 20's again here and it's normally never that cold. Dealing w/ teen drama drains me.  Really, dealing with any drama drains me.  So I rarely make resolutions but have had a couple of things this go on this week that make me realize I need to change. One, the issue w/ my daughter. I need to stop talking about people. I don't do it in a bad way (or so I think) but do find myself doing it.  Mostly, it's matter of fact and I honestly wouldln't mind if people said things like that behind my back, as long as it wasn't catty.  But, as I said about treating others the way they'd want to be treated not the way I want to be treated, others might not feel this way. So, I'm going to shut up. Two, speak up if I think something is wrong. I think I'm going to start a thread about this above. I team taught w/ this guy last weekend. He decided on his own that the kids would go down a slope that was way too steep for them. I commented about it but should have put my foot down. I'm so afraid of being considered the b!tch. I talked to a couple of instructors i respect about it and they gave me good feedback but we all agreed I need to grow a spine.  I don't have to be liked if it means doing the right thing.






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:32am

Ugh, when I saw your post, I copied and pasted my post onto yours, and then, when I was about to delete my post, your posts showed up.  Ok, I am done trying to correct it.

Jean, you and I must be on the "same page."  I just read a book, "Difficult Conversations" and have been employing this new-found activity.  I am loving it.  Being quiet does not serve me well anymore.  It's not easy, and it takes a lot of practice, but it is working for me much better.  I don't know if it's my age, or perhaps I am unlearning what was taught to me as a child, but I am liking it.  I feel much "freer."

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:33am

Congrats on your new job!  I really admire how you 've been able to jump into this and do so well.  It's so easy to accept status quo. 

I'm just such a chatterer and my life is an open book. I have to stop assuming others are like that. My SIL gets annoyed that I've told people her son played tennis w/ mine at a racquet club. My father got really angry at my aunt for telling someone my sister got engaged.  To them, any talk is bad. I'm all about sharing news. I have to shut up.  The assertiveness is a work in progress. I'm going to take it in baby steps if I can. The irony is that I'm so blunt in my family that I hurt feelings.  So I know I have it in me, I just have to find the right line.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 8:35am

LOL, we need some sort of signal on starting a thread!  So, it is ironic that I'm learning to shut up and to speak up at the same time.  I wonder if I have some form of asperger's where I can't quite find that right social cue.  It wouldn't surprise me.






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 11:05am

FSN and Jean, do you think that's an Asian thing?  Maybe some leftover "training" from your parents?  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 12:45pm

Fresh, I am glad you get to see your mom and daughter this weekend. I am irritated with my mother again. She invited a friend over to MY house for lunch. She keeps doing this and when I ask her why, she says because my house is clean. BOLOGNA! She just wants me to have to do the cooking and cleaning. Grrrr. I know I should be thankful she has friends and can still get out and about but...GRRRRR

Gym how interesting on the job and congrats! I recently had my resume graded by a company. I found it funny that one of the things they suggested was that I include more employment history. Hmmmm, if I had more employment history I would. I was a SAHM for 18 years. 

We have a winter storm watch for this weekend. They are saying we are going to get possibly the worst ice storm yet this winter. Ugg. Just awful! I am not sure what I'll be doing this weekend; it all depends on the weather. 

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 2:44pm

The lack of back bone thing?  The need to be approved of? I think it's possible it's a result of an asian upbrining but the trait itself isn't. Raised to think no matter what you do isn't good enough, no approval for any accomplishment, can probably make someone crave approval.  My kids are more likely to speak up, eg my daughter confronting me about the post she read and I didn't raise them w/ the tiger mom mentality so they don't have to seek approval all the time. I would never have confronted my mom but think it's good that she did.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 02-28-2014 - 2:45pm

Does your mom do that often?  What about clearing out of the house from 10-2 and telling her that you'd like the house the way she found it?






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