Moving towards spring on Monday...

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Moving towards spring on Monday...
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Mon, 02-17-2014 - 8:08am

or is that just wishful thinking?!  OMG, is it really going to melt (and, thus, flood) this week?  I could not believe that we got more snow on Friday! 

How was everyone's weekend?  I visited with my mom and daughter, which was lovely.  I cleaned my mom's townhome, did various errands for her, brought dd a care package and bought her groceries, drove them both everywhere they wanted to go, had some nice talks, and drove home.  Phew!  Back to work today.  I can't tell if I need a root canal or my crown changed my bite, as I have been in throbbing pain for the last week.  I'm too scscscscared to go to the endodontist to find out.  I HATE root canals and the pain that ensues.

I just learned that my new work partner has the stomach flu, so I will be taking extra vitamin C and netipotting more frequently, as this means it's "going around."  Yuck.  I really need to go bac k to ballroom dance, but, frankly, I am too tired at the end of the evening to drive the extra hour for that class!  I am teaching my girlfriend/customer linedancing on Wednesday since she is now recoverred from her foot surgery and bronchitis.  At least that will be some dance for me this week.  And, I have early morning yoga to look forward to tomorrow.  :D

My daughter informed me that my son did not get into the college he applied to (where dd goes, where I and ds's dad went to undergrad, and where my parents both taught.)  Perhaps that is his first major, negative consequence for not following my "life rules," as I would have researched which college for him to apply to, had him talk to an admissions officer BEFORE he applied, to ensure that he got in.  Or maybe he doesn't see it that way.  <sigh.>  I will always love ds, even though he has poor behavior.  It's been over two years since he communicated with me, despite the text messages and presents I have given him over those two years.  Do you think I should try to go to his highschool graduation?  I dunno.  It breaks my heart, but I cannot enable poor behavior.  For now, I will choose to focus my energy on my daughter who is doing quite well, and is choosing positive behavior.  My son is definitely his father's child.  Speaking of which, dd informed me that my ex is taking me back to court.  Ugh.  He must want more money.  I just hired my new lawyer last week, so we shall see what comes of this...  Oh, I also learned that dss also did not get accepted into the college that dd goes to.  It's one of the top colleges in the country for engineering...  What a blow to both boys....aaahhhh, well, they are both learning the consequences of not listening to their parents and studying more...plus, dss is not my child, and refused my help, so, what can I do?!  Enough venting.  Make it a great day, everyone!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 8:48pm
FSN, you know I don't have kids, so maybe not qualified to give advice, but I think you should consider going to your son's graduation. Just go, sit in an inconspicuous place and be there. He seems like a very troubled person, and maybe it won't mean anything to him...but maybe it will. I think you must have some hope of mending your relationship with him. Why not make this gesture? Karla, you are brave to run outside in the cold...yay you for living up to your goals. Gymrt, I am so not up on current music so I don't know Imagine Dragon, but I hope you enjoy! It is NOT Spring here...very cold and more snow oming tomorrow. I had a good gym weekend - went to ZumbavSaturday and swam 100 laps yesterday. Today was typical Monday - 5 minutes on bike, lifting or chest/back, abs, ran two miles in 27:18...I had a massage yesterday and it left me exhausted...I has three naps..thus I am doing laundry tonight....I had really wierd dreams last night. I sometimes think I am so tired that I don't dream and then when I catch up on keep, the wierd and vivid dreams come.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 11:38am

I am sooooooooooo ready for spring too! lol My sister and I braved the elements yesterday and got in a great outdoor run. It turns out that they keep the road around the hospital very clear and it is fairly flat and easy to run. There is a wind tunnel on the back side near the cliffs so it is pretty darn cold when the wind blows. They said it was going to warm up and rain today but it has yet to go above freezing. My area has a chance of severe storms (wind,etc) on Thursday then it is going to go back to more snow. Ugg!

Fresh, I just don't know what to say about your son's graduation. I wasn't invited to my oldest son's wedding but I went anyways. My whole family went. As I walked in the door and he saw me I knew I had done the right thing. Years later he said that the minute he saw me he knew he was making a mistake but he didn't have the courage to back out and was so thankful to have his dad and I there. He said he thanks me more than I will ever understand for sticking it out with him while he made the worst decision of his life. So you know your son better than anyone else and if he will appreciate seeing you or not. 

Gym, my sister loved your comment on my FB about the air conditioning. She called me and said who is that girl that commented to your photo and where on earth does she live. lol I can't wait until I am having to make a decision as to whether or not to turn on the AC!

Karla
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 10:12am

Ya know, this may not be a popular view but I completely do not believe in the old "blood is thicker than water" adage.  If you're a toxic person, you're a toxic person and any blood/familial relationship isn't going to change that.  In the end, the only person I'm responsible for is myself and I have to do whatever is necessary to create an environment where I can thrive.  That's how I see things.  I am estranged from half of my family for this very reason.  

I am SO excited about the concert as I positively love them.  I'll post about it tomorrow.  Cool

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 9:58am

Thanks, GR.  I feel relieved that you have "given me permission" to not attend.  I feel so guilty from an emotional standpoint, but from a logical standpoint, I know that I did the "right" thing.  Dang those emotions!

How fun to see Imagine Dragons!  I love hearing about your life!  :D

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 02-17-2014 - 9:47am

FSN, sounds like you got some good girl time with your mom and daughter.  As far as attending your son's graduation, I think I would recommend against it.  Perhaps send a congrats card?  I fear that going to his graduation is going to reopen old wounds.  

I've maybe got a client this morning.  We are scheduled but she is having a dental emergency and may end up canceling.  Aside from that, I'm going to do some cardio and then I'm going to get my allergy shots, meet best friend for dinner and then we're going to the Imagine Dragons concert.  Can't wait!