Picking up the pace, Monday

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Picking up the pace, Monday
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Mon, 05-12-2014 - 7:29am

Yikes, too much celebrating my son coming home from college and I've put on all the weight I lost during ski season. So, time to pick it up again. I'm heading for my gym since I only have a couple of weeks left there. The thing is it's beautiful out. I should be running and not sitting in a confined space on a spinning bike! I might go to silks tonight but will play it by ear.  How were your Mothers Days/weekeds?  Oh, tell me if I should be insulted or not... my husband gave me a fitbit for MD.  Given that it's really designed for sedentary people who aren't motivated to work out but to add more movement to their every day living and don't want to work w/ a trainer and that it's what I do for a living, I can't figure out why he gave it to me.  He has given me other fitness gifts for beginners before.  I've told him that I don't give him golf gifts because I know nothing about it but he doesn't seem to get it.  And, what I really want is a pull up bar to be installed and thought it was an obvious hint but I guess not.






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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 7:55am

Jean, if that's what you want, I think you should just buy it yourself and install it or have it installed!  I think the gift is a reflection on him and not you...don't be insulted.  It sounds like your husband is just not a great gift giver.  We each have our strengths, and that is not his.

Mother's Day was pleasant...dinner with mom and daughter.  Ballroom dancing with my mom was a blast!  And the owner of the dance venue recommended that I just take private lessons from a pro so that I learn "the correct way to dance."  He noted that the guys that I was dancing with don't use proper technique  which makes it difficult for me to learn the correct form.  Although that can be quite expensive, I am certainly not getting any younger, sitting here, and YOLO.  I have always wanted to learn to dance!

I think dh and I are going through the "7 year itch" and we need to find something new together.  Do any of you with SOs find that you need activities-in-common to keep it fresh?  DH are finding that we really don't have activities we like to do together.  And with my injuries, we don't even have fitness activities in common.  :P  What activities do you do with your dh?  As we approach empty-nest syndrome, I am wanting to find something we do together that we both enjoy.

Work today, art class tonight.  I work with my manager tomorrow.  I am hoping to go linedancing tomorrow night...I need some dance!  I should also start scheduling all of these medical appointments...LCSW, orthopedic, GI, PC, and dentist...

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 8:54am

To give my husband a break, I am a terrible give receiver and acknowledge it.  I've told them that I really don't want stuff but it's their thinking of me that counts. My daughter matted a picture she had taken of our puppy for me and that was incredibly thoughtful. My son put up w/ me for a day at Kings Dominion to make me happy, although I like to think he enjoyed it, too, but he would have done it even if he hadn't.  It's making an effort that means something to me. OTOH, I do have to acknowledge that while it's the thought that counts for me, for my husband it's about how much you spend. He doesn't want to spend the effort when he can just spend money.  So I probably come off as a cheapskate to him (although my gifts to him are more extravagant cost wise, too...) because I think my baking a time consuming cake that is his favorite is a good gift.  

As for doing things together, the biggest thing we have in common is food. We love exploring new food, cooking, etc. to an extreme.  We took up rowing last year and he's been to parkour a couple of times. I have to say I prefer going to parkour on my own, though.  Would your husband do ballroom dance w/ you?  You could do private lessons and that would be fun, especially if you do something like salsa that's more of a workout?  My husband and I did it but we did a big class and you have to change partners. I don't want to change partners!  Plus, there were women who did it together as friends so when we switched, I had to do the guys part sometimes. It's hard enough to get one part, I had so much trouble switching leads!  And, there are some guys who are just really bad.  My poor feet.  But, if you took private lessons, it could be something you could do together.  When you come down to it, I do all the planning so my husband just comes along. Do you do groupon or Living Social? You might find something fun there.






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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 9:19am

Jean, I don't think you should be insulted.  Sure, some sedentary people use a Fitbit but my best friend has one (she's very active) and my remaining client wants one (she's very active too).  My best friend LOVES all the information and data she gets from it because she's very much a numbers person.  Perhaps that was in his mind when he purchased it for you.  

FSN, DH and I do not share a tremendous amount in activities.  The things we do enjoy together (generally TV, going to movies and going out to dinner), we do often.  Same goes for OP.  How about a cooking class?  Or something that requires teamwork like a double kayak?  

It was a quiet but lovely weekend.  Best friend came over Friday night and we hashed out some issues so I'm feeling much better about that.  DH, OP and I went to a play on Saturday and out to dinner.  Lot of good "family" time and I think it did wonders for my soul.  I also think the med change is helping.  I'm feeling healthier and my energy is picking up.  I think.  

I have a busy day but not too much running around.  I'm planning to finish an article that is due tomorrow and I've got resumes to start.  Seeing my remaining client this afternoon at her place.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 11:08am

Jean, my husband gives strange gifts too. I just try to go with it. lol Maybe you can use your FitBit as an accessory for training. Let your clients see you using it and maybe they will want to get one. It might help encourage someone. 

Fresh, me and my husband have almost no activities in common anymore. We try to stay interested in each other's activities but over the years we have both developed seperate interests. I know the experts say it's not good for a marriage but honestly, I like having my own things to do. Like Gym, we do have some things we do together on a regular basis but don't share a lot of common interests. 

I spoke with a physical therapist at the 5K on Saturday about my leg and she said it looks like I have a mild sprain. She suggested I stay off of it for another week or so and if it isn't healed enough to take a good walk without tape then I should see a doctor for xrays. I should probably not have run on Saturday but I did it and I feel great about it although my leg is really sore. lol I can't believe I went under 8 minutes for a mile. My sister ran a 24:20 and we are usually right beside each other so it is very encouraging to know once I am healed up and practice a little more I could go 24 or possibly lower by the time the next community run happens in the fall. 

I wish my older daughter could have been at the run but she was working. My daughter has a body image problem (she thinks she is giant) and I would have loved for her to have seen the winner of the older women. There was a woman in my age group (this was her first run as a 40 or over) about as tall as me but much heavier (probably had a good 30 pounds on me) and she burned up the road. She passed me on mile 2 and I tried to hang with her for a short while and realized I couldn't. She passed my sister and the other couple of gals in our age group who were leading like they were standing still. Everyone was cheering her on and she finished just under 24 minutes. It was amazing to see such a big gal blow everyone away. Not that big gals can't run, but you don't usually see that especially with older women. She was so strong and everyone was awed by her. lol I am glad that I only have one more run scheduled before I hit the 50+ group. :-)

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:21pm

Yeah, I need to let it go as the gift goes. He probably doesn't mean harm but I think it's subconscious on my part that he's saying to me, by giving me beginning training type gifts and all, that he has no faith in my ability as a trainer.  But, if he ever gives me personal training sessions, I might be really offended and I can see his doing that.  

How are you feeling these days? Any news on the lung spot?






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:22pm

Do you turn 50 soon? What day is your birthday? I can't get over how many women I know this year who are turning 50, from all my groups!






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:28pm
Jean, I love my fitbit....to see how much I do move plus on days when I feel a little lazy it gets me off the couch...It is interesting that you all feel like you don't do a lot with your husbands...I think that the reality of marriage is a mystery to me....and I think a lot of single women want someone who shares their interests and that is far from reality. I would like someone to go to dinner with and travel with but not enough to make any effort to meet someone...and I think of the work that it takes for a good relationship and I just think it is too hard for me...I am going to France with my brother, his family, and one of his West Point classmate's and his family...I pulled out my college French textbooks this morning, and tucked in one were some letters (in French) from a guy I was with for a long time..I think we wrote to each other in French in preparation for a trip to France. I had totally forgotten them, but it brought back a lot of feelings and memories. We didn't so much break up as grow apart...there was a big age difference and we reached a point where we wanted different things. But it was a great relationship while it lasted....I haven't been to the gym yet but I will be lifting and running soon....
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:43pm

Jean, I will be 50 in August.

I have a Color Run schedule for June, but that is not timed or anything so no age groups, and then a 10K on the 4th of July as a 40-49, then my next run (5K) will be August 16 which is right after my birthday. ;-)

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:45pm

LOL SJ, I talked to her AFTER the run. She asked why my leg was taped and I showed her my injury and explained what happened. 

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 2:53pm

Oh, and Karla, were you RUNNING the race when you asked the physical therapist about your leg? 'quick, before I pass you, what should I do about my broken leg?' Congrats on your great time.:)

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