Picking up the pace, Monday

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Picking up the pace, Monday
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Mon, 05-12-2014 - 7:29am

Yikes, too much celebrating my son coming home from college and I've put on all the weight I lost during ski season. So, time to pick it up again. I'm heading for my gym since I only have a couple of weeks left there. The thing is it's beautiful out. I should be running and not sitting in a confined space on a spinning bike! I might go to silks tonight but will play it by ear.  How were your Mothers Days/weekeds?  Oh, tell me if I should be insulted or not... my husband gave me a fitbit for MD.  Given that it's really designed for sedentary people who aren't motivated to work out but to add more movement to their every day living and don't want to work w/ a trainer and that it's what I do for a living, I can't figure out why he gave it to me.  He has given me other fitness gifts for beginners before.  I've told him that I don't give him golf gifts because I know nothing about it but he doesn't seem to get it.  And, what I really want is a pull up bar to be installed and thought it was an obvious hint but I guess not.






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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 3:35pm

There's always more than one way to look at something.  If he were to give you PT sessions, I could see a husband (this would be generic husband thinking) saying "I'll bet it would be a nice break for her to have someone structure her workouts and not have to make it up herself."  That's a reasonable assumption and not at all diminishing to your abilities as a trainer.  

The lung spot was pneumonia so at this point, I'm recovering from pneumonia.  I did really good this morning - even did a 20 minute elliptical workout.  Then we had lunch and I just hit a wall.  I feel like a truck hit me.  So, so tired.  Have to go out and train in a bit.  I'm hoping it wakes me up.  That and the 5-hour-energy I just took.  Best friend tells me this is part of pneumonia recovery.  Yay.  

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 8:31pm

Sorry to hear it's pneumonia but at least they can treat it now.  I'll refrain from making jokes about rockin' it.

Good point. I just have a chip on my shoulders w/ this issue because he dismisses anything I say but listens to his buddies who know nothing. I always come back to the wedge salad:

http://watching-tv.ew.com/2011/02/24/modern-family-wedge-salad/






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Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 8:37pm

Marriage is so easy in the early days when you're in love and that's it.  But, it gets complicated.  I complain a lot but it works.  But, given that I'm an introvert and like my own space, I sometimes think it would work for me to have a life partner but not necessarily in the same household 24/7.  Overall, since i'm the planner, he goes along w/ what I want to do so I always have someone to do things with if I want.  OTOH, it would be nce not to have to plan everything!

I think my feeling w/ the fitbit for me is that I'm active enough for me. I don't care to measure it. I used to get caught up in numbers when I was running but now I just go out and run. I have no idea how far/fast. It's freeing. I don't want to know how much I move or don't. I'm not an electronics person and my phone is so old I can't even download the information to it. He gave me a garmin a few years ago (which I had said I didn't want) and it's sitting in my drawer and I never use it. So, I have thousands of dollars of gifts sitting around that I've never opened. All because he tunes me out when I say what I don't like.  Oooh, this is better than therapy!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-12-2014 - 8:39pm

Have we had this discussion on turning 50?  I feel like I have it often but it's always different groups of women.  Do you have anything special planned for the year? I turned 50 a few months ago and decided to make the year a big celebration.  So, life as usual.Wink






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 05-13-2014 - 7:12am

" I turned 50 a few months ago and decided to make the year a big celebration.  So, life as usual.Wink"  LOVE IT!  So, doesn't it seem coincidental that three of us have this monumental birthday this year?!  Life SHOULD be a big celebration!  SJ, what do you love about France?  I am contemplating a winter trip there with dd.  Jean, our dh's are similar...dh was looking at fancy schmancy cars last night, insisting that he wants to buy one for me.  Did I share that he (temporarily) bought a convertible for me last year, but he returned it after two weeks because it didn't have the blue tooth that the salesman said it had.  I think that he and the neighbors drove it more than I did.  Do I really want one of those cars?!  No, but dh insists that it was for me.  What?!  And he continues to talk about this one home he wants to buy...he said we could just sell the one we are in now, and then, make an offer on it.  The proposed house has a private pond, two gated entrances, but is a fixer upper on the inside, and has been on the market for over two years.  Do I want a grander house?  No, but dh wants it.  The reason I like it is because it is closer to my art and dance classes.  Who knows?!  Maybe I will have moved in another year.  :P  Maybe moving into new homes is something dh and I share together - we are both rolling stones who gather little moss.  :O

I guess it's just wishful thinking for dh and I to have activities-in-common.  It's just that I see so many men who enjoy ballroom dancing, and I see that there is something magical that those couples share.  Oh well, I love dh, and I am an introvert, too, so I will continue with my yoga, dance, art, photography, and quilting without him.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 05-13-2014 - 7:39am

That's right, you're turning 50, too. That's what I mean by knowing so many people who are this year.  In my ski group of 16, over half of us are turning 50.  In my running group, there are three of us that I know of (out of 6-7).  A few of us at parkour are.  It's just really unexpected!

I was wondering what happened to that convertible your husband gave you.  I wonder if extravagant gifts is the result of how they were brought up. My husband grew up w/ a big family and not a lot of money so they had to be frugal. The people I know who grew up w/ money rarely spend money on presents. It's not that they're cheap; it's that it doesn't mean much to spend money for them.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 05-13-2014 - 1:06pm

I don't really have anything planned for turning 50. My sister and I were planning to do a half-marathon on our 50th but we only have two to choose from so we haven't registered yet.

 Dh and I don't ever really give each other extravagant gifts. Maybe we should. We are going to the beach this year and spending money on a little nicer hotel because we both feel like we deserve it. lol

I can't believe I was 20 when I met DH. It's amazing to think that I have been with him almost my entire adult life. 

And it's kind of funny that both Jean and Fresh are introverts. I am definitely an extrovert. 

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