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Registered: 04-05-2002
Ready to tackle Monday
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Mon, 05-05-2014 - 7:29am

Whew, I had one crazy weekend!  Saturday was the grand re-opening of the parkour gym which moved to a much bigger location so I spent almost the whole day there, hanging out and did 3 1/2 hours of class. It was work!  I started w/ trapeze, did a regular parkour class, a 35+ parkour class and then yoga.  Last week was such a breakthrough for me in parkour!  I learned those two vaults on Wednesday and then Saturday did the underbar.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_zcAUG-Gi8

The vault we jumped over we up to my chest. It was to everyone else's hips but I'm that short.  The class was packed and what helped was there were other women in the class who did it. Otherwise, I normally don't try moves like that. So, as my son has been telling me all along, I have the ability to do it but I have been choosing not to try. I thought I'd run yesterday but decided my body needed the rest. Today I'm going to zumba for the first time since November and then aerial silks at night.  They have this quote painted on the wall at the parkour gym and the owner said she thinks of me when she reads the quote. "We don't stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing." It's so true!  What I loved about hanging out in the gym was all the people just playing. They were jumping over vaults, into the foam pit, climbing on the rails.  It's people moving the way we're supposed to be moving!






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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 8:27am

"I don't wanna work.  I wanna bang on the drums all day..."  Todd Rundgren

Jean, you should have a picture taken of you next to that sign.  I have to admit, though, on perusing the parkour video posted, I kept thinking of the injuries that must have occurred when those people were learning those moves.  :P  Ouch!

That's what comes to mind this morning!  My hamstrings are screaming because I let five days go before returning to yoga.  It's incredible how quickly I can lose the muscle strength!  On top of that, I think my hormones need adjusting because the hotflashes are BAD again.  :(  I am having anxiety because I have a possible courtdate with my ex on Thursday (I am supposed to hear from my new lawyer today), AND I have to work with my manager in a week.  Why do I give him power over me to define my value?  I guess it's because I know he can fire me for no reason.  Still, I have always been fearful of my manager, regardless of their level of intellect.  :P  I need to change this mentality.  I think I need to go see a mentor/customer and ask his advice on this.

Work today, painting class tonight, and I reallly need to do my expense report!  I am being a procrastinator, too, because Maui is less than a month away, and I still have not scheduled all of our activities.  I am dragging my feet for some reason.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 11:11am

Jean, I totally think you need to take a picture of yourself next to that quote and make that your FB profile pic.  And incidentally, that is sort of a personal mantra for me (which I'm sure, is shocking to all of you).    

FSN, re: stressing over working with your manager and knowing he can fire you at any moment...  remember that you have a husband/partner in life who would support you should that happen.  And... I'll bet if it did happen, you would be able to get a job super quick with all of the contacts you've made.  And maybe... just maybe...  it would be a blessing in disguise.  

Got back late yesterday afternoon.  It is REALLY good to be home.  I had a good time but about Saturday, I was ready to leave.  Brazil is still here but his flight leaves tonight.  We're going to take him out to a late lunch and then off to the airport.  Not doing much in the way of work today...  just catching up and dealing with email.  I feel emotionally exhausted so I'm going to take it easy today.  Presently, I have a super happy kitty in my lap purring furiously.  I missed him heaps.  There were tons of dogs at the event and while I enjoyed them immensely, it made me miss my kitties and OP's dogs.  OP's noodle forest project was a huge hit.  He and his co-lead got about two thirds of it up and it was extremeluy popular.  Kids were playing hide and seek in it.  Dogs were running through it.  Some friends did an "under the sea" parade through it.  It was really neat to see people enjoy it so much.  

Missed you guys!  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 2:55pm
Glad you had a great break but it's even better when you're happy to come back. Missed having you around! If I ever apply for American Ninja Warrior, I'm going to shoot my video starting at that wall w/ the quote. The other thing I love that they have up is this: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-have-fun-like-children-15-joyful-tips/





Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 2:58pm

Given all the craziness your ex has put you through, it's understandable that you've got anxiety with just the thought of dealing with him. And, I don't think it's that you let your boss put value on you because you have enough self confidence that I don't think he does. What he does have, unfortunately, is the power to put value on your in the eyes of your company and that's the sucky part about having a bad boss.  I always wonder if these people know how they are perceived and if they'd care either way. Maybe on their death bed when it's too late.






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 3:50pm
FSN, could your manager really fire you 'on the spot' unless you were insubordinate? Most companies have two or three step processes where there have to be warnings, verbal and written, and bad performance reviews. Of course, there are layoffs, and there is some 'targeting' there, but they are not usually a surprise nor are they 'personal'. I think you are (saying this gently) spending a lot of energy catestophising things,,,the worst your ex can take from you is money...he can't take your self worth, your value as a person, your self esteem. He may be a better liar than you are a truth teller, but that is all it is. And eventually, your children will pass a certain age, and. He will never be able to get to you again. The worst your boss can do is put you into the job market. I think you should sign up on Monster for them to send you jobs each week via email...not just jobs like what you want, but give them the details of your dream job. You might find you want to move on...and at least you will know what your options are. You are personalizing money based issues (and don't get me wrong, I've been 'rich' and I've been 'poor' and 'rich' is definitely better. Money can't buy happiness, but a nice mani pedi can make a bad day better....but find your truth and live by it....(((hugs)))
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 5:16pm

Hey girls, I'm stil alive. Whew I had a busy weekend with family! My granddaughter that has all the health issues is doing really good. She is up on her feet running around and is back to school a few days a week. 

My pulled muscle is doing better but not where I'd like to be right now. I went and got some KT tape to try it out. I watched the videos several times so I hope I got it right. The pull seems to be most like shin splints but to the side a bit. I'm not sure I got this tape on right because it doesn't look there is any way this will stay on for a few days. 

The weather is great here. It's warm and sunny and feels almost like summer. It is not supposed to rain until Saturday so I am just going to bask in the sunshine for a while. 

Karla
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 7:03pm
Jean, you should definitely make the tape....even if you don't submit it, you should preserve this time in your life for future generations....Gymrat, glad you had fun, and that the noodle project was well received. I wrote a long post about this, but couldn't get it to post...I had odd gym experiences this weekend...the 'that's my spot' confrontation on Saturday followed by an instructor (who I think is also the owner) going off on us at Zumba....evidently there is controversy over her deciding to split the class with another instructor...which is what they were doing last summer...but she said things like 'people say. Talk too much so I won't talk' and 'not cuing is way easier than cuing'. At the end of. Lass (only 8 people and there were 35 plus on Saturday) she went off again on the controversy and tpbegan berated those of us wearing running shoes...if she had addresses the need to be careful during or before class, that would be ok...but I was left not sure if I am 'forbidden' from doing Zumba in running shoes..I know cross trainers might be better, but I think it is my choice...anyway, I pay as I go at this gym so I might look at other options. I went too Pilates today and she was the topic of discussion before class...I guess she harangued the yoga class too...so weird....I ran 2 miles on the road on this beautiful spring day...Karla, hope you are doing ok.
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 7:12pm

Wow.  I really love you guys!  Thanks for your kind words!!!  I guess that when it comes to "authority," I always look at the glass as being half empty.  In other parts of my life, I feel the opposite way...that's a little bipolar, yes?!  You are right.  I am so blessed.  I already have a plan of action in place if my manager tried to push me out.  I live in an "at-will" state, so, yes, I could be fired for any or no reason, although the company won't follow that line of posturing.  I tire of incompetency and arrogance of managers who are really bad at managing...so many of them ACT like they are all-knowing when, in fact, they don't know any more than anyone else.  And yes, even if I lost my job, I have funds available, I have my husband, and I have my family.  Perhaps I WILL start seeing what else is out there, but I just don't know what I want to do when I grow up.  :P

It was a good day.  I doubled my HRT (I was on a 1/4 dose but I have gained 5 pounds due to an insatiable appetite and my hot flashes are back to waking me up 4 -5 times a night.)  Dang those hormones!!!  Still, it was a good day.  The sun is shining, I have a wonderful support network on iVillage, and I have the power to choose my life direction!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-05-2014 - 8:50pm

Wow, sj, talk about hitting the hammer on the head with this response.  It's GR-worthy and I say that in the best possible way.  I've told my husband since he's the same way that it's like living with Eeyore sometimes.  Sometimes it does pay to look at the worst that can happen and realize it's not that bad; and in some cases, eg. getting a new job, it can be better.  I am considering making the tape and I'll be completely honest that it would be an ego thing. As I've said before, I've been the last picked in class, the heavy one, uncoordinated, etc. so it would feel good to see what I've been able to accomplish.  I hate gym drama and it seems especially bad w/ some dive zumba instructors. It's one thing to talk about the safety about running shoes but to berate a class and treat them like children is another.

Karla, good to hear that your granddaughter is better. Could you find a physical therapist, athletic trainer or someone who can show you how to tape? It could make all the difference.

FSN, it seems like your job is incredibly stressful w/ changes you don't want and it's been going on for years. What do you gain from loyalty to people who wouldn't hesitate to let you go at a minute's notice? Have you considered trying to cut back so you don't need your salary? You could find another job but it is freeing to know you can walk away and not worry.






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 7:15am

SJ, you ARE quite wise!  Jean, the economy is really bad right now, such that jobs are somewhat difficult to come by.  Employers are getting up to a 1,000 resumes for good jobs.  I think it's time for me to get back to seeing the glass as half full - I have an incredibly great job where I really have minimal exposure to my manager compared to other jobs.  After 11 years  (my current employer "gave" me my seniority since we were acquired) gives me  SOMETHING in that if I was laid off, I should get 2 weeks for every year and, if I am lucky, a severance package.  Those are my "golden handcuffs."  Overall, it really is a great job...perhaps I am focusing on the worst part of it, and I need to readjust that.  Three things I will do to start trying are:

1.  Every time my manager starts lecturing me, I will try to find some truth that could truly help me be better.

2.  Every time my manager starts lecturing me, I will have empathy that his low self esteem causes him to berate me so that he feels better about him self...how sad!

3.  I will complement him on something that he does that IS of value.  This will help him to sincerely feel good about himself.

4.  Be prepared for my own plan of action, should he try to start the firing process (he just fired one of my counterparts who said that he has never felt so betrayed and so lied to in all of his 60 year life!)

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