Thoughts on Thursday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thoughts on Thursday
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Thu, 03-13-2014 - 7:31am

I am feeling reflective today, since I had an emotional meltdown yesterday.  My manager did not have enough respect for me to call me and tell me he was not going to work with me.  So I prepared, planned out my entire day around him.  Not hearing from him, as he had confirmed the previous day, I texted him, and he responded mid-day, "my meeting was changed to this afternoon and I won't be meeting up with you."  I found out he was informed at 5AM of the meeting change, and yet he didn't have the respect for me to let me know.  :(  I have expected far too much from this guy, and he has failed at common courtesy, among other items.  With all of the other "distractions," I went on a verbal rampage with a few of my co-workers.  I have decided to lower my expectations of 90% of the people around me, while focusing on all things positive...at least, I have to try.

It looks like a beautiful start to a sunrise this morning, with a deep blues, hints of oranges, pinks, and yellows on the horizon.  My dogs have eaten and are now lazily taking their first morning nap.  The house is still with dh leaving a half hour ago.  I have a ton of paperwork to attend to, regular work today, and a meeting with my lawyer this afternoon.  Perhaps I should treat dh to a nice early dinner tonight in the area of the lawyer's office.  He is such a good man to help me, this time, with my legal issues stemming from my ex.  It is an on-going source of aggravation for him, as it is for me.  Then, tonight, I should go to yoga and zen-out.

Positives in my life include my health, my family, my dogs, my friends, my worldly comforts, my outlets...I also have all of you to be thankful for.  This board helps me refocus, all of you have been a sounding board (pun intended), an outside perspective, and an inspiration with all of your positive inititatives.  Thank you!  That sunrise is really looking beautiful with all of those colors!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 9:42am

FSN, that's so awful about your manager.  I know there are lots of wonderful people in the world but things like that are the reason I don't really want to work with or for anyone.  How inconsiderate and rude of him.  If the timing works, I recommend going to dinner with DH after you see the lawyer.  That way, you can decompress, have a glass of wine and relax.  I applaud you for finding beauty around you in times of frustration and stress.  

The appointment with the new ENT went well.  I was pretty well convinced he would stick me in front of his scheduling coordinator and set me up for surgery post haste.  But instead, he's going to try an aggressive course of nasal irrigation with saline, antibiotics and steroids.  He wants to see how far that gets me in a month.  I do have an active sinus infection (as I suspected) but oral antibiotics aren't tending to much of it.  He was very thorough and so far, I like him.  He's one of those very serious people but I got him to crack a smile a few times.  

DH's little party was a success.  I had to stall DH while friends arrived at OP's and he got their cars parked in the backyard so they wouldn't be visible when we drove up.  He had no idea!  One friend brought up pupusas from a Salvadoran restaurant we like and I made him cinnamon rolls from a can because he loves them but never buys them because they're too expensive.  OP and I gave him a PS4 and he was very excited about that. We also gave him several "accessories" for the wedding dress pub crawl on Saturday.  It was a lovely evening.  

Nothing on the docket today except for working.  I may have to go pick up my special nasal rinse if it's ready (it has to be made at a specialty pharmacy).  I'm going to do some cardio today but nothing crazy.  I'm on day 4 of my short prednisone course and I haven't killed anyone yet but I'm noticing that DH and OP are walking wide berths around me.  Laughing

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 11:24am

"I haven't killed anyone yet "

I'm going to adopt this for my definition of a successful day.  I need all the pats on the back I can get!

Homemade cinnamon rolls, yum.  I've started making sticky rolls w/ Dorie Greenspan's brioche dough.  It's crazy decadent w/ a ton of butter and eggs. It taxes my professional model kitchen aid.







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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 11:59am

FSN, I like how you are choosing to find the positive today in the little things around you. It would be so easy to just snarl about your #$%^ manager. Good luck at the lawyer's appt, and hope you get to have a quiet dinner with your dh.

GR, have you ever had a sinus lavage? I used to work for an ENT and a couple of times he performed it as an office procedure on patients that did not respond to antibiotics etc.

Jean, for how much longer will ski season last? You will probably feel like a woman of leisure when it stops.

Karla, it sounds like your foot/achilles injury is resolved? And your bronchitis? I hope that is the end of your health issues.

Probably no workout today. Housework, yardwork, deskwork, errands. Ds is arriving tonight. He's going jeeping in the desert with friends but will stay with us tonight and again on Sunday night. On Friday a.m. I will probably hang out with him instead of going to the track, I can always walk after he leaves for the desert. Dh is going to a different part of the desert on Friday afternoon in advance of his 50K on Saturday so the cat and I will have the house to ourselves Friday night...popcorn for dinner?! Its supposed to be hot here this weekend and even hotter in the desert, poor guys. I got in a good ride yesterday.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 12:30pm

Elc, I had to look up sinus lavage...  never heard that term before and it's the same thing as nasal irrigation.  I actually do my own sinus irrigation at home twice a day.  My new course of action is to use a pre-mixed solution of saline, antibiotic, and steroids.  

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Community Leader
Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 2:14pm

GR, the difference with the office procedure lavage is that it is invasive and must be sterile...and is not for the faint of heart. Warning to the squeamish, stop reading here! The doc used a short needle with a very large lumen and tapped it into the gum above the front teeth (roughly above the incisor). He then attached a large syringe filled with warm sterile saline solution and slowly injected it into the sinus cavity. The patient was seated bending slightly forward while I held a basin under her face. As the doc injected the fluid it forced out the contents of her sinuses on that side, through her nose and mouth---think neti pot on steroids lol. Copious amounts of "green gunk". Continue injecting the saline until the discharge runs clear, then repeat on the other side. She probably had to take more antibiotics until the punctures in her gums healed. I recall that this was a long time patient who really suffered from sinus pain and allergies. She took allergy shots, many courses of antibiotics, I think she had adopted the dietary changes that this doctor recommended (yeast free), all without clearing up her problems so the sterile lavage was a last resort measure. Sorry that I don't remember if that permanently solved her problems but I remember she felt much better right after the procedure. This doc also performed a lot of repairs for deviated septums which made a big difference for some, but not all patients.

This was about 28 years ago and that doctor was already an older guy, I don't know if today's doctors know or would perform this procedure anymore but it might be worth asking your new ENT about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 2:27pm

Thanks for the info!  And it sounds awful, but in kind of a good way.  Having the sinus problems I do, I get a little obsessive about getting all that stuff out.  I'll ask him about it next time I see him. 

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 2:30pm

Ew, the thought of rinsing green junk out of a nose sounds horrifying. {{gag}}{{gag}}

Fresh-that is terrible that the manager treated you like that. I would agree that it is very thoughtless and disrespectful.

Elc, my bronchitis is better. I am still coughing but do not have the body aches and chills. I typically get bronchitis at least once a year but it usually in the summer. And I am still having a little soreness in my achilles but nothing like it was. I am not sure if it is because I have started running more outside again or what but I am trying to take it a little easier on myself, so I am only running 4 days a week to make sure I give it rest. 

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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 6:27pm

GR, a surprise party!?  How much fun!  Was it hard to hide it from dh?  Jean, what kind of dance class do you teach...conditioning?  What do you do?  ELC, eeeeewwww on lavage, but I bet it felt better for that patient!  Karla, how is your body feeling after the running?  And how is your granddaughter doing?

I feel like a train hit me.  I got bad news from  my lawyer.  The last four lawyers I had did/wrote things badly so I have to return a boatload of money from the QDRO.  :(  I am SOL.  I welled up in tears multiple times, as, once again, it seems that the abuser gets to abuse more in the court system, by stalling, evading, not "approving" documents, etc.  C'est la vie.  We go forward.

Work tomorrow, and travel to see my mom for the weekend.  I am going to see a string quartet Saturday morning.  :)