Tuesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Tuesday
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Tue, 03-18-2014 - 8:01am

I took some pictures of bright object that could be a planet in the sky. I'm hoping to zoom in on the picture with my software because it looks really odd. It was far in the East. Did anyone else see it?

I have been working on my expense report since last night. The software is so slow that it takes me up to three hours to get it done because it literally takes up to 30 seconds to advance through different fields. I will not miss the system when we move onto my new employers software. Shoot! I forgot to go to my yoga class this morning. I am so busy with administrative work that I just started working at five this morning. C'est la vie. Lots of work today, I am going to deliver a baby gift to one of the ladies in an office that I call on, and I have legal preparation for a second opinion that I'm getting tomorrow, and I have a big dinner program tomorrow night."No rest for the weary. "What shaken in your neck of the woods?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: freshstartnow
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 8:13am

It's crazy windy here this morning!  My windows are rattling.  

FSN, I hope you're remembering to schedule in downtime or you're gonna get sick again.  And to answer your question from yesterday, yes...  freelancing is anything but a sure thing.  It's both freedom and instability.  

I've got work to do today and then I'm going over to OP's.  We're hosting a fundraiser for his art project next weekend and I was going to work on it with him next week but then I remembered that my mom is visiting.  So, we'll be working on that today.  Exercise of some kind but I don't know what yet...  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
In reply to: freshstartnow
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 12:53pm

I don't know but could that bright object have been the sun? It was almost visible here yesterday. ;-)

Woa, woa and woa again on the busybody woman in the running group. I took everyone's advice and told her exactly what Gym told me to say. I was not at all prepared for the reaction. I was expecting some nasty comment or being ignored but instead I got a sob like explanation about how running is all she has in life. She and her husband don't talk and her kids don't have time for her. She says she has worked really hard to get where she with her running and she is worried because my sister and I just "popped" on the scene and are "too" close to her already. She loves being considered "the runner". She also is obsessed over her weight (which I suspected since she looks anorexic to me) and doesn't get along with other women. Umm..yeah. Oooookay. I told her that first of all I didn't just pop onto the fitness scene and my ability to run as I do now is from a lifetime of exercise and fitness. Secondly, I do this as a fun thing. It does not define me nor is it the focus of my life. We ended the conversation vowing to become friends. 

It was just weird. 

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: gymrat76
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 2:37pm

Holy Pete, Karla.  It just goes to show you that so, so often in life, people's behavior is about themselves rather than us.  She feels like you're threatening her identity and her interrogation of your running info allow her to see just how close you're getting.  

It sounds like it went well even if it went in a completely unexpected direction.  I'm proud of you for speaking up!  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
In reply to: karla1842
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 4:02pm

lol Gym, I kept thinking about it and decided I have too much stress in my life as it is and don't need someone putting pressure on me over something I am enjoying so I went ahead and nipped it in the bud. 

Now that I know what the problem is, I find it weirder and weirder the more I think about it. She must be mentally ill. For instance,She has been oddly sick a lot lately and having weird muscle pain and everyone keeps telling her she might need to take in more calories but she thinks people who tell her that are "jealous" of how thin she is. She complained to me about how all the heavy people want her to gain weight and she made a comment about how long distance runners are really thin. Now, there is no one in our group I would consider heavy. Most of us are older (late 40s to early 50s) and have know each other and worked out in our gym together for many years. Everyone is really in pretty darn good shape. Two days ago it was a gorgeous day and the group went out to do long runs. People in the group were going from 6-12 miles depending on where they are at in their training. She had to stop and walk twice and barely made 4 miles which is highly unusual for her. She went out the next day and tried it again and this time didn't make it two miles. Everyone is genuinely concerned for her. I am willing to bet she will go out again today and attempt to run further than the longest run on Saturday. That makes sense as to why she was so worried I did 7 miles. She is 5'9 inches and weighs 106 lbs this week. I am 5'10 inches and weigh 136 lbs. I am only about an inch and a half taller but 30 lbs heavier than this woman now. I am by no means "heavy". I think she is starving herself. 

My sister and I sat and looked all through her running history and discovered she never put in as many miles as she has been doing lately until around this past October. Hmmm, that is when we joined the club. Coincidence? My husband got mad at me and said I was doing the same thing the woman was doing by digging through her history. lol I think he is right so I am just going to stop looking at her runs and if she asks again I will tell her I think she needs to see a doctor and have some tests run. Maybe a professional can give her some advice about her weight. 

Karla
Community Leader
WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: gymrat76
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 5:13pm

This is armchair psychology but I would guess based on her comments about husband/kids not paying attention to her, her food intake/exercise is the one thing she can control in her life and is doing so.  She very seriously sounds like she needs professional help but in my experience, those are some of the toughest nuts to crack.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
In reply to: freshstartnow
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 6:25pm
Hi everyone,..greetings from Florida. Ahhh, sunshine...usually we do nothing when I visit but for this trip, we seem to be busy every day...I need to go home so I can rest! Karla, I think you are handling the over zealous runner well. FSN, I am with GR, you need to focus on you. Jean, that is great about the skiing..I think you need the affirmation moving to the next level will give you. Gymrat, I am interested in your fundraiser...is it noodle oriented? I have done nothing exercise wise for a week, and sadly, my hips and shoulders still hurt..I was hoping they would rest and feel great...but no such luck...I hope to get him in time tomorrow to lift...
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: freshstartnow
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 6:58pm

Aaaahhh, SJ, FL sounds vunderbaar!  Enjoy!  Thanks, everyone, for the affirmations to take care of myself.  I don't have time!  I have a dinner program tomorrow night with several snaffus that arose at the 11th hour.  Then, I have to manage the dinner program I have next week.  My family will be gone in FL next week, so it will be quiet, here on the homefront.  I will have to fit in some DANCING!  Karla, kudos to you for taking care of the issue with the overzealous woman.  GR hit the nail on the head - her eating/weight is the only thing she can control, so she is strangling that "issue" to death, literally.  Good thing you addressed it!  And you can't make a horse drink the water, so just focus on YOU and your behavior.  GR, I would love to see noodle pics!  You lead such a fun life filled with art and off-beat adventures...so much FUN!  I can hardly wait for June and Maui!  Anyone have any must-do's in Maui?  I just bought a book on the path less travelled in Maui that I have yet to read.  It seems, these days, I do everything "Just - In - Time."  There is not enough time for any other way.  Life is great...go for it! :D

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 8:48pm

Wow, that's quite a confession and not at all what I would have expected.  You really have to feel bad for someone like that.  It's hard to deal w/ because it is something for a professional.  Her BMI is 15.7% so it's dangerously low but I don't think there is a way to convince her of that.  I wouldn't be surprised if the group has already discussed it and tried to figure something out.  GR always has good thoughts on emotional topics. I can't even try to give advice--I would be a terrible advice columnist.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 8:51pm

FSN, your trip will be a blast!  I don't think they allow bike rides from Haleakala anymore but that was something I wish we had done. We did the crazy drive to Hana, need a 4 wheel drive which we didn't have but what beautiful scenery, waterfalls.  I have to laugh at a book about less travelled paths because once the book is written and out, they're going to become well travelled.  Similarly, I like those Lonely Planet books but we keep running into Americans who are using that book.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: freshstartnow
Tue, 03-18-2014 - 8:54pm

Whew, whirlwind of an awesome day!  It was just really fun at the mountain, slushy skiing but it's feeling really good, despite the conditions. The crazy hot/cold weather we're havng is wreaking havoc on the roads.  About a dozen cars got flat tires from potholes on the beltway. My normal 1 1/2 hour commute took close to 3 hours, plus the snow yesterday caused some accidents and more delats.  But we all realize it's coming to an end pretty quickly so really appreciate being there.  The instructors are just a great crowd!