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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
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Tue, 06-10-2014 - 8:17am

I was kind of holding off but are you also, fsn? BTW, welcome back!  Tell us about your trip. I've enjoyed seeing your pictures.

So I've become painfully aware of how often I use exclamation points so I'm cutting back.  I feel like it's hard to exhibit excitement w/out them, though. I had a couple of awesome parkour and silks classes yesterday. Silks is do-able but real parkour classes (vs the safe 401pk that I normally do) used to intimidate me. When I first started going to this one class, it was just me, a friend (who is so fit she puts me to shame--she easily climbs the ropes w/ no feet, legs straight out in front), a young high school girl and an overweight guy who wasn't very fit. It was a safe comfortable group but last night, it was just me and a bunch of young hot shot guys. Not hot shot in a bad way but fearless and would try anything. I'm at such a disadvantage being short!  We had to swing on a bar and jump but I couldn't reach the bar so each time I had to climb a pole to get to the bar.  And, we did these moves where you pull yourself up on a bar--easy for the guys because it was head level but I had to jump up, grab the bar and do a full push up from hanging each time. OTOH, there was one move where you went below two bars and it was super easy for me and the guys were getting stuck.  Anyway, my life when I refuse to grow up.

I'm trying a hula hoop class today that my friend is teaching. It's going to be two hours long. I can't imagine hula hooping for two hours!






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Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 9:05am

YOU are starting the journal, silly.  lol.  Yeah, I was waiting...

What is going on with this editor?  My posts are getting eaten up today.  :(

Vacation was paradise.  The Haleakala bikeride and surf lesson were to proclaimed favorites.  As expected, dh complained for the entire one hour ride to one of my restaurant selections.  This, despite his agreeing to it weeks before the trip.  Also expected (but I was nervous that he would be mad), he proclaimed how worth the drive was AFTER we ate.  How annoying that was to me!  And I recommended that we leave the rental unlocked with no valuables inside as the author of, "Maui Revealed," recommended to reduce the risk of a broken window, only to have dh scoff at the idea...and, of course, our rental was broken into.  DD told me I shouldn't have said, "I told you so," but really?!  Why doesn't anyone listen to me?!  We are tourists with an SUV, so we stick out with a big, "L" on our forehead.  :P  I guess at year 8 of our marriage, we are working through this "7 year itch," and I am finding that dh has grumpy-old-man-tendencies.  I find that I am out and about, dong my thang, having fun, while he hangs back, doing what seems to me to be sulking, although perhaps I am reading into that and it's just his way of being.  Don't get me wrong, I love him, and he is a good man, but I am feeling a grumpy undercurrent from him, and, frankly, it's not my problem and I can't help him with it.  I think he is trying to find happiness THROUGH me, and he doesn't understand that happiness comes from within.  Yes, I need to see a counselor to help me maneuver through this.  Yet another task on my long list of TO-DOs.  I am also in the process of selecting/editing/deleting through 500+ photos for a scrabook I will make for each child.  I want them to have this remembrance for the rest of their lives.  I think it was one of those "once in a lifetime" vacations, now that we are perusing the credit card bill.  :O

Now, back to reality.  The only constant is change, and my early morning yoga class is "no more."  :(  I was all ready to go this morning, and luckily, I checked the schedule because it was cancelled due to low turnout.  Boo.  So I only have linedancing tonight.  My balance is all off, though, due to jetlag and allergies.  I'm a bit nauseous this morning.  :(  C'est la vie. 

And, I am, again, reminded that each day is a blessing.  My cousin died the day before we left for vacation.  He was the really warm-hearted, wise-owl type of guy.  At only 63, he  built up a devoted patient base (he was a physician) and left a wife and two children, one of which is a physician and the other a physical therapist.  The physiican daughter took care of him at home through hospice.  My heart is so heavy right now.  I am grateful that I had dinner with him last August.  Another reminder to MAKE IT A GREAT DAY!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 9:19am

Jean, I love that you refuse to grow up.  That is one of my favorite things about you.  

FSN, you are a better woman than I for tolerating the complaining prior and the  praising after.  Perhaps in the future, you should make a rule to only schedule things for yourself.  Attend other things the rest of the family wants to schedule but don't be responsible for making it happen.  This sounds like one of those all important boundary issues.  Is it possible your DH has some depression?  That grumpy undercurrent could easily be depression.  

Karla, are you flesh colored yet?  Tongue Out

Happy, just from things you've posted here, I have a feeling a lot more people enjoy your company than you realize.  I have to echo what Jean said about being somewhere on the autism spectrum.  The more we learn about that, the more I think much of the population falls somewhere on it.  

Working this morning and have to go out this afternoon for my magic shots.  The ENT was supposed to call in a new script to the compounding pharmacy (which is near the allergy lab) but he didn't do it Friday which means I won't be able to pick it up today which means ANOTHER trip out to get it later this week.  Oy.  

OP's house deal is dead.  The owner remains completely delusional and refuses to negotiate at all.  So, OP is most likely moving again.  The three of us are going to look at houses tomorrow.  He really doesn't want to move but I've encouraged him to do it now because his lease is up at the end of August (in the middle of BM) so if he doesn't make plans, he'll need to sign another lease and I have a feeling that the owner is going to try to raise his rent on him.  And, you get better prices in the summer because nobody wants to movie in Arizona in July.  And, I think he's going to be wasted after BM and not want to move.  DH and I are fans of just getting things done simply to be done with it. OP is not so much that way but he's coming around.  Wink

Trying strength training today.  Cardio went fairly well yesterday.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 9:36am

FSN, it's like we're in the same marriage.  There is so much in your vacation and marriage description that fits mine.  I can't resist "I told you so", even if I say it to myself to let it go.  And I always joke about  his being grumpy old man.  I feel like he sits out on life and our family unless he needs to be involved. Even last night, we sat down to dinner and he went with his to the family room. I'm wondering if part of it is I think he's lost some of his hearing and he's not following us as much and that builds on itself so he's out of the loop even more.  OTOH, we're past the 7 year itch and have been married over 21 years.  

Sorry to hear about your cousin. It's nice that his family was able to help care for him. That must have been a comfort to him (and to them).






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 9:39am

Good luck with the magic shots.  At least they're helping if not solving the problem completely. Sorry about OPs house but as much as that's a headache, it's temporary and once he gets settled, it'll be such a sigh of relief and you'll forget it all happened.  Had you ever considered getting a duplex and living near each other? Or would that be too much closeness?






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 10:54am

Yeah, we've talked about that but it might be too much closeness.  OP has two large dogs whom I love dearly but would stress the heck out of my cats if they were next door.  And where we live, there aren't a whole lot of houses so options are limited.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 11:45am

Gosh you girls have been busy typing already today. 

SJ, I'd love to meet you all in real life. I don't have in person friends, just acquaintences. My lifestyle choices have sort of kept me out of mainstream social groups. My sister is pretty much my only friend and we hang out often. We have both been told we intimidate people and together people find us to be overwhelming. I am not shy and I tend to speak loudly. I have been told I appear to be very confident and I am a very emotional person so when I get excited or angry it really shows. My sister is the same so I'm guessing that has something to do with why people feel intimidated by us especially when together. lol

Gym, an allergist once told me that allergy symptoms can mimmick almost any disease or condition known to man. The older I get the more I believe that. 

Jean, the older I get the more I am afraid to try various athletic feats. I don't know if it is fear of getting hurt or wisdom in action. 

Fresh, I saw the pics of your vacation and it looked incredible. 

Today is a rest day for me. I ran 5 miles in just over 46 minutes yesterday (9:07 pace) on the road and was so pleased with how I felt. My feet are finally cleared up and I just felt good. I think the combo of the antiperspirant (Right Guard Men's Sport spray on) and Underarmour dri-weave socks have really helped. I feel like a runner again instead of an old lady with sore feet pretending to be a runner. See...I'm not as confident as people think I am. ;-) 

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 2:24pm

Yeah, I get that.  Sometimes I wonder if marriages might work better that way, too. No minor annoyances to get in the way of a relationship.  Just pack a bag if you want to spend more time together.Wink






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 2:28pm

You're so fast!  I could see that you might intimidate people because you do everything so well and seem to have everything in order.  Let people get to know you and I think you'll make friends.  It's awesome that you and your sister are so close.  My sister and I are close but we live so far away.  I definitely think there's something about message boards that bring people together who are introverts, like others but want their own space.  So glad I met you all!






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 3:49pm
Jean, I love thinking of you flying around with your parkour boys! FSN, welcome back. Glad you had a great trip! (Jean, I too love the exclamation point but I am not planning to reform!). Karla, I am load and appear confident too...I think I am 'bossy' and so sometimes I hold back...until I can't. In some ways, I trained myself to not care what others think, but I am realizing I want more 'community' than I have. GR, moving is a pain....hope you find a place you and OP love. My best relationships were (to me) with guys who lived in other states...we had to plan the visits and focus, and the rest of the time, all I needed to do was spend some time on the phone to keep up my part! I realized last night when I was with family speaking Swedish (in an Italian restaurant where the serving staff spoke Italian) that I was saying thank you in Polish...it happened multiple times...the brain is a funny thing....I went to the gym early today..ran almost 2 miles and then lifted for chest/back, then did abs. I think I am addicted to lifting...I felt calmer and calmer the more I lifted...now I am headed back to the Cape for reunion parts 2 and 3....
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 06-10-2014 - 7:23pm

I find I mix up my learned languages and want to pull one out when others are speaking a different language. And oddly, sometimes it's sign language! Have a great time at the cape!  






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