Wilting on Wednesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wilting on Wednesday
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Wed, 07-16-2014 - 7:36am

OMG - HOT FLASH.  In general, the HFs are much less, but every so often...PHEW!  It's a gorgeous day.  DH and I are going to look at this house that he wants to flip.  This executive that he works with told him about it, and I think that dh is so caught up in trying to look good to him, that he has his blinders on with regard to this house.  So I did some basic research, and find that it is not the house for us.  I also do not want to live anywhere near this coworker.  I think he is a user, and dh is playing the suck-up game.  I think the guy has bad character and uses his position to get perks.  When dh told me I am so critical and this is why I don't have friends, I asked him to give me ONE person I have ever been wrong about, and he couldn't come up with one.  I told him that very few people follow through with their words matching their actions/behavior.  We all know what to say but only a small proportion of people follow through with their actions.  I hate how he tries to impress people.  But, he is my husband and I will support him...to a point.

Ok, work today, houses shop at lunch, more work later.  I passed up linedancing last night because I just felt BLAH, and although my trapezius is locking up again, I am going to swim laps tonight.  I have a massage tomorrow night, so I expect to be lectured on how I overdid it again.  It's back to foam rolling, but I HAVE to workout and I am too bored with walking and spin.  Maybe I will go back to green smoothies, too, as the weight is coming back on.  I think my daughter is correct in that I stress-eat.  :(

Jean, I think it is GREAT that you have a social parkour network!  Erring on the side of caution is the correct side to be on!  Karla, enjoy your vacation...it is well deserved!  And good luck on that 1000 mile mark.  Has that been a longterm goal for your upcoming birthday?  GR, I am sorry about your big fight with dh, but if you two didn't care for each other, you would never fight.  BUT, I hate the stress of fighting!  SJ, good grief, your glasses incident sounds horrendous.  I am glad you are ok - especially just before your vacation.  That winding road sounds scarey!

Ok, back to work...What are you all up to?

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 8:23am

Is this a flip house that you'd move into?  Or one you'd renovate from afar?  It might be helpful to get a realtor's opinion on it rather than second guessing each other--plus it'll make this objective.  This might be overstepping my bounds but what was the lack of friends comment about???  It seems like you go out often and do things w/ friends. And even if that weren't the case, it seems like a low blow.  I think sometimes guys just don't know what to say or not to say. 

Have you tried different workouts besides walking and spinning to see if they're do-able for your shoulder?  Is it possible to bike outside or have you tried running like doing a run/walk?  Roller blading?

I'm going to parkour today and might go back for silks tonight but I'm planning on doing silks tomorrow. I'm not sure if that's enough strength training that I need a day break in between.  I don't think I've talked about this here but my private silks teacher used to teach at my parkour gym. I don't konw what happened and don't want to know but there was a messy break up and she' no longer there.  I've been doing silks at the parkour gyym and like the new instructor but taking semi-private lssons w/ her when I have time. The thing is she's so expensive now--$45 per session and I can do the silks at my parkour gym, included in the mmthly membership.  I'm not sure whether it's worth the extra to see her (plus it's much farther) but she is excellent.  Anyway, I might go back tonight to do silks, or my daughter wants to. I could do parkour instead.  Sigh, my life is full of tough decisions.;-) (I'm being completely sarcastic).






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 10:41am

FSN, I'm in agreement with Jean...  it certainly seems like you have a lots of friends you see.  I too dislike the whole political ladder climbing.  It's exhausting and I think I'm too to do it or be around it. Grateful to be working at home for myself... 

Jean, fitness break-ups can definitely be messy.  Bummer that your favorite instructor is so expensive now!  

I did cardio this morning and then I need to get in the shower and finish packing.  DH is making a pancake breafast for OP and I and then OP will take me to the airport.  So looking forward to getting away.  I arrive in vegas this afternoon and friend and I are headed to the MJ Cirque show tonight.  Probably won't be here the rest of the week.  Enjoy the rest of your week guys!  

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 11:13am

Nah, I have friends.  I am finding that dh is human afterall, and that includes poor conflict resolution skills.  That was a hit below the belt, and he hates it when I ask who I have ever been wrong about.  I think he has a real need to be loved, and, therefore, he is always trusting people before they should be trusted.  Yes, he gets burned a LOT, but it doesn't seem to deter him.  You know that saying, "love like you have never been hurt?!"  Well, he takes it a bit too far.  This executive is a user.  I can see that very clearly.  He even went as far as to offer that he would buy this house, and my husband could do all the work and get a cut.  Really?!  The paid houseboy?!  DH bought him a wedding present years ago, and this slimeball has never reciprocated any present.  To me, that's a telltale sign that he is a user.  In all the years of parties, anniversaries, dsss's highschool graduation, etc., this guy has never given dh a present "back."  Plus, I can feel his slimey energy everytime we are at a company function.  He makes the appearances, and says the right things.  Ok, can you tell I am jaded?  I have a SEVERE dislike for ungenuine people.

No, I already researched the house and told dh "no."  He was so adamant about it, that I told him we would have to divorce and split our finances if he purchases the house...too many things wrong...but, now, this executive and his wife are coming to see the house, too.  They live inthe same neighborhood.  Great.  :(  I am "making the appearances" for dh's political standing at his company, and that is where it stops.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 5:04pm

Have fun in Vegas! I want to hear about Cirque. I've heard it's much better in Vegas.  Maybe the silks will get you to want to try it!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 5:08pm

I have to say I have a soft spot for someone who is willing to put his heart out there because that takes a lot of courage.  But, not if it's costing you a house!  That's trying to buy good will, not just trusting.  I think there are just givers and takers. I'm a terrible taker.  Is it possible he's just clueless about social etiquette?  It's hard to separate work and social life--and terrible when one gets messy.






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Wed, 07-16-2014 - 10:56pm
I think I have done everything I am supposed to do for my trip...I had a few moments of panic yesterday that iwould forget something or not be able to print what I needed to (I miss having tech support on call). But I think I am in good shape. Now just to wait. FSN, flipping a house seems so risky to me...unless you can do a lot of work yourself and really know construction, it seems scary...to all of you ladies with husbands, I know they add a lot to your lives, but when I read your stories, I think I am better off alone...GR, have fun in Vegas...see if they have a job for Jean at Cirque....Jean, I was thinking your silk class sounded expensive until I thought about whst I pay for training...if you learn a lot, I think it is worth it...I went to the gym twice today - bike and lifting this morning, foam rolling and running tonight. The run was bad...after one mile, I stopped, wiped down my treadmill, and went to the bathroom...I was thinking I could run a second mile tomorrow, but I made myself go back and finish. It is very humid here, and the gym is warm...don't know if that was my problem...but my two miles are DONE...I think I can catch Zumba after lifting tomorrow, then a little time at the pool before the airport and take off...
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 07-17-2014 - 8:36am

So exciting that your trip is just around the corner!  As long as you have your passport, you can almost buy anything else.  I can't wait to hear about your trip.

I'm back and forth on what i'm learning at the silks private for the cost. She is an excellent instructor but I need her to have a plan rather than this haphazard, "what shall I teach you today" when she shows up.  I'm sharing w/ a woman who is also an instructor and they've been together for a while so I feel like a third wheel.  So, all in all, I'm going to see how this one goes and decide whether i want to continue.