Living your best life

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Living your best life
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Thu, 03-06-2014 - 7:44am

I just posted this in the Living your best life board, but thought I might get more responses here...I am finding that my bullet points are changing as I age.  Perhaps I am growing up.  :P

I am just curious.  I need to stay laser-focused on the positives, as I tend to get distracted with the negatives, and that is not working for me.  So, what is YOUR best life?!  Here is a "stab" at mine:

1.  Loving, healthy relationships with family members

2.  Living with integrity and character

3.  Taking time out to care about others, help others

4.  Fun pursuits - yoga, dance, quilting, photography, dogtraining, vacationing

5.  Living in the "moment," addressing issues AS they arise, letting go of the future "what if's"

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 7:51am

There is a living your best life board?  For me, it's about doing, not about wishing or hoping. I hear too many women say they want to xxxx, but they can't. For us, it's about putting ourselves first once in a while.  I started this book about mother daughter relationships and the first chapter was about how none of the moms could talk about things they do that make themselves happy. Even the Tiger mom said she and her older daughter don't enjoy life or know how to enjoy like.  I would rather do what I want and not what society says is "success."  No big house, no fancy cars.  I will also add that financial independence, just enough to survive, is the biggest part of that and I'm incredibly lucky that that part isn't an issue.  I think too many people are caught up in bigger and better and I'm off that track, thankfully.






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:11am

My "best life" is whatever is right for me at the time but there are a few absolutes...  

1. The ability to accept myself and feel beautiful. (Still working on this.) 

2. Treating others and myself with dignity and respect.  I want to look back on my interactions and be proud of them.  

3. Trying and experiencing new things.  

4. Not giving up on problems that need solving (my health, for example).  

5. Mental stimulation be that in the form of work, relationships, movies or books.  

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 03-06-2014 - 8:22pm
This is an awesome question. I am thinking about quality of life and what I need to be happy a lot lately as I work towards retirement. I think the financial part is first for me - feeling that I have enough money to do what I want, including being generous to others. Next comes living with honesty and integrity. After that, having meaningful and challenging work - maybe not paid work, but a way to use my time so that it makes a difference. Time to spend with my family. Being healthy and strong enough to be active - formal working out but other things like walking too. People to laugh with, and to love.
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 03-07-2014 - 7:05am

Thanks, everyone.  It's good to "hear" your thoughts on this, as it helps me to refine my own.  I learned, long ago, that "it is the journey and not the destination" that is so important.  As I have seen people whose lives were cut shorter than anticipated when they "work-work-worked" fo that infamous "day" or whatever, I realized that each day, each moment, we have an opportunity for happiness, because happiness is a choice.  Life is good.  :D

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Fri, 03-07-2014 - 7:39am

It's ironic that the financial part really is most important because we need enough to do what we want. But, it's also the financial part that is a killer for most people who already just want more and they work themselves to death for more than they need.  It's really about making the choice of what is "enough" for us, in everything really. As I tell my clients, we have a healthy weight and an ideal weight. How crazy do you want to make yourself to get to your ideal weight?  Same w/ finances--how much do you want to kill yourself for a Mercedes and McMansion? Or would a healthy lifestyle be a Toyota and a smaller house?






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 03-07-2014 - 8:03am

LOL.  Your analogy reminds me of the story my mother used to tell of the man, floating on his back in the water, approaching a drawbridge, saying, "Raise the drawbridge!" to make room for his you-know-what-manhood.  :)

I just read some advice on another board to a angy/hurt ex spouse, saying that, "The best revenge is to live a happy, fulfilling life," but I think some people take that to the extreme.  I think my husband is one of them, and I get to experience the product of his extreme, although I share your feelings that a Toyota would be fine.  I am thinking that a used Camry may be what I buy my daughter.  Is that still safe?!  lol again.  Pehaps the mercedes and mcmansion is what still fuels my ex in taking me back to court.