And, on to Thursday...

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
And, on to Thursday...
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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 8:46am

My boss is having surgery today and I think I'll be covering a lot of her hours while she's out.  It's fine but you all know I love my free time!  I ended up subbing out my step class so I could cover the advice client hours. I feel like I'm robbing Peter to pay Paul!  I am teaching dance conditioning tonight so will get in a workout then.  What are you all doing?  Any plans for the weekend?






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 10:20am

I had a heck of a time getting on this morning.  It kept timing out, forcing me to re-login and then some type of service error.  

I have a light day (again).  I've got one client this afternoon followed by a podiatrist appointment for new orthotics.  Planning to do a strength training workout shortly.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 12:36pm

I must be crazy or something. Yesterday I was only going to go the gym to do some walking because of my head cold and wound up doing a cross-fit class instead. I loved it. I felt so good afterwards. I guess there is something about doing burpees and squats that just makes a gal feel great. ;-)

Today I have to go do something very very unpleasant. I have an appointment with a funeral home to make arrangements. My FIL is still alive but it is not looking good. We are now dealing with dementia and it is so difficult. My husband and his brother are falling apart over the fact that one minute their father was a very healthy (and stubborn) old man and now he is hallucinating, hysterical, angry, combative, and everything else you can imagine. His mental decline seems to be progressing faster each day. The hospital staff says they can't tell us if this is going to improve or get worse. We are in limbo right now. 

So I hope everyone else is doing okay. I am trying to get myself prepared for this. I know in the end we will be glad we had something lined up should the worst happen anytime soon. 

Karla
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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 12:47pm
I'm so sorry, Karla. But yes, you're right. It's better to get this done so that when the end comes, you can feel your feelings and not have to worry about details. My thoughts are with you and your family. *hugs*
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 1:07pm

Sorry to hear about your FIL. I agree w/ Kel. It'll be such a relief to have plans in place.  My FIL did it years ago--it wasn't easy for my husband to bring him to sites, etc. but it's nice that that is done.  

Have you done cross fit before?  There are parts of it I like but some of it just seems crazy.






iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 6:07pm
Karla, my experience with final arrangements is that the people you work with are very good at dealing with greif and make the process as easy as possible. And for me,doing what needed to be done gave me some comfort. It is hard to lose a parent. My mother was ill for two years, and she had a hard life, so her death was not unexpected or sad. But with my dad, I know I will be devastated...which is odd, because I was really close to my mother and my dad is more peripheral to my life. I don't think there is an easy way...sudden death is hard. Prolonged suffering, especially when there is a loss of physical or mental capacity is hard. Take care of yourself. I am going to the Polish mountain area of Zakopana this weekend. I am not going skiing, but I think we will take a gondola ride up and then down a mountain. Everyone says 'you must go to. Zakopana. It is very beautiful tnere'. They all use those exact words...i'lllet you know if it is...I went to the gym tonight, ran for 20 minutes, then lifted for shoulders, bis, tris. I don't know if I will go tomorrow. I'lldecide in the morning.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 7:17pm
I hope it's not what I refer to as "The Grand Canyon Experience." Everyone said I must see it and my husband said "It's a hole." I went to see it and he was right. It was a hole. :) I suppose I'm glad I saw it in person but it was quite anti-climactic.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 7:21pm

Let us know if you go there and if it is beautiful.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 7:23pm

Yeah, once a place is as photographed and airbrushed as the Grand Canyon, real life can't really match the shots. It's like seeing a model in person.  Places that catch my eye are ones I've never heard of, the unexpected little places.  






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 8:00pm
Oh Karla, I am so terribly sorry for the trauma you and your family are going through. Aging is difficult, no matter what the situation. Your family is lucky to have you - you are being logical and moving forward. I think that each person deals with grief in a different way, and each person has to work through it in their own way. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 01-31-2013 - 8:06pm
Oh, yes, please share your thoughts on this zakopana trip! I feel like I am living, vicariously, through your "eyes." Re: losing your father, I heard from a doc (my cousin mentioned this to my brother) that the opposite sex parent is harder to lose. I was devastated when my dad died. My mom is deteriorating slowly. It's very sad to watch. I am going to my mom's in a month to help her through a surgery. :(. I am just glad I am able to help her...I feel like this is the most and best I can be when I am able to be of service to my loved ones when they need me.