Early morning Monday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Early morning Monday
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Mon, 07-08-2013 - 6:33am

Ugh.  I woke up at 4am this morning...it's gonna be a long day!  I am seriously thinking about HRT.  The hot flashes, achiness, moodiness, and other problems are plaguing my everyday living.  From what I have read, less than five years started before the age of 60 sounds pretty safe.  Do you have any thoughts/knowledge of it?  I got spooked because a friend of mine was"feeding" her breast cancer (un diagnosed) with it, unknowingly.  However, if I get regular mammogram screenings, I think I am fairly safe

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 6:47am

Whoops.  i hit post too soon.  I have work today, and I am guessing that I will be too tired to workout tonight.  I took dd on a photoshoot yesterday.  dh and I are fighting.  I am guessing that his avoidance management of conflicts (and mine) aren't working right about now.  :(. He refuses to seek counseling, and we get nowhere.  I am trying so hard, but the combined issues - ex dragging me back to court (yes, again), his father's death in the past year and all of the drama surrounding his family, me handling my mother's dementia, and both of our work issues is adding much fuel to the fire.  Big UGH.  C'est la vie.

. We go forward. I thought we had a great weekend, and then one item (I opened my mail two days after it came which was notice for court) set him off into an avalanche of "issues." Life is not a linear event, is it?! Perhaps I should make time for that workout!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 8:50am

FSN, I have a client in her mid 50's who was very averse to HRT for similar reasons you described but she finally decided to give it a shot.  She was like a different person - she seemed so much happier and she was sleeping so much better.  As far as hubby goes...  I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling.  My husband is not a therapy person either (although he will go if I insist) but it's my lifeline when things get tough.  You *can* go to therapy without him.  That is always an option.  

I have a light day today.  Just one client this afternoon and strength workout this morning.  DH came back a day early and while it was lovely to have him back for more of the weekend, I was a tiny bit disappointed because I was really enjoying my alone time.  

My mom's surgery is this week.  She goes in the hospital tomorrow for a test that requires anesthesia.  They're going to keep her overnight and all the important stuff happens Wednesday.  I am trying to stay calm but am still feeling anxious.  She told me over the weekend exactly what I'm supposed to do if she dies and where all of the jewelry is.  I suppose it's a good conversation to have but it's depressing and upsetting.    

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 9:13am

{{{hugs}}}.  My mother tells me stuff like that too, and it IS disturbing.  She even has a an area with files for ,"In my demise."  I am saying a prayer for you and your mom this week.

. As my mother always says, "Getting old is not for wimps!"
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 10:12am

I'm a big believer in quality of life and if breast cancer doesn't run in your family, you're careful and HRT helps, I'd consider it.  Do you get regular mammograms? I read that they don't recommend it until 50 now so have put it off, though many doctors still go by the old recs.  Since it doesn't run in my family, I'd rather avoid the xrays.  GR, my parents are going through that these days since they're really declining.  The frustrating thing is that my dad decided he's never asked us kids to do anything for him so this is the one thing he wants us to do for him. I do believe that anything post-life is for the survivors.  So, maybe it's for the better, especially since we're all pretty practical family. I'm not that sentimental and have no need for people to eulogize me but if it makes them feel better, I don't mind (as long as they don't curse me!).  

We brought my daughter to South Carolina this weekend, killer drive over July 4th weekend, on the way back. What should have been a 7 hour drive turned into over 10 hours and we got home close to midnight.  There's no way we could have planned it better, though. I had an early morning client and am ready for a nap.  I have been so burned out at work lately and having vacations is making me realize how nice it is not to work.  Coincidentally, they hired a new trainer and he's excited to work more so I'm going to try to back out of this.  My overtraining client really enjoyed working w/ him so I'm trying to work it so she changes over to him.  

I have barely been working out lately, too. I row three days a week but everything else is kind of hit or miss and I've barely run the past few months. I'm just so out of shape and I hate it!  I need to pick it up.






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Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 10:33am

Fresh, I have been taking HRT for 14 years now (surgical menopause at 35) and have been told as long as I get regular screenings I should be fine. I take the lowest dose combo available and will continue until I am at least 55 because I am at serious risk for Osteoporosis. 

It has finally stopped raining here for a day and we will be at the ball field all night. I am going to do a weight circuit today if I can fit it in.

Leftovers from hubby's b-day party for dinner. 

Karla
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 9:53pm
Gymrat, those conversations are hard, but I think having them a little at a time helps you be ready for what is a hard part of growing up, losing our parents. FSN, I think you would definitely benefit from therapy, I think you are struggling with relationships in all areas of your life...and therapy can help you change your perceptions of what is happening, which can help deal with it. I've done it at a few different time in my life, and it has helped me long after the sessions were done. Karla, your life must be busy these Fay's...enjoy the ball game. Jean, do you log your workouts? Because I think you do more thn you think...and for HRT, I passed through menopause without it, but I think it is worth trying to see if it helps...you can always stop if it dorsn't. My week on the Cape is over, and the temperature in Boston has dropped..I went to the gym and swam 100 laps tonight...I was not in the mood, but my scales were not giving me. Happy number this morning...once I was in the water, it was fine, and my goal of 60 went to 100, so yay me...
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 07-09-2013 - 7:20am

Good advice overall.  I've never been to therapy but think it's the best thing to get an objective point of view/way to work through things (I just use all of you for free).  

I think I do enough physically for fitness sakes but I'm feeling out of shape.  It was challenging running when I was in California and I was only running 10 min intervals.  I know my workouts aren't nearly as intense and they should be, eg. rowing is a lot of sitting around, RPE, on a scale of 1-10 might hit a 5 but barely.Aerial silks, when I get to it, and parkour, are quick 30 sec things and then I stand around for a few minutes.  I need a more sustained workout.  I went to an Insanity class last night. This used to be my "thing", the type of class that I loved/taught but now it seems pointless.  Working hard for the sake of working hard instead of for a purpose.  I used to teach a much tougher class and it's was fine but last night, it was challenging--that shows how much worst I am. OTOH, I have to say I could do more than most others in the class, except the high school boys.