Fall is in the air Monday

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fall is in the air Monday
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Mon, 10-14-2013 - 10:14am

It's a sunny, "crisp" morning, with the leaves changing into beautiful colors!  Dh and ss both ran the marathon yesterday while I prepared the three layers of my quilt to sew together.  I also have completed my 21 day cleanse, cheating once for a client dinner. am the one past of the cleanse I am not "sold" on is giving up all animal protein.  I am looking forward to eating a nice fish filet.  I am also not a fan of beans, and I seem to have allergies to soy.  Dh thinks I just need to add more cardio into my weekly workouts.  Perhaps he is right.  I had SO MUCH FUN Linedancing on Friday night!  I think they are going to do couplyou ballroom lessons, too, but I think you need a partner.  :(. Work today, Dogtraining tonight...one of the dog owners said we walked two miles during training, so that will be a low cardio workout feveryone how was everyone else's weekend?

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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 11:36am

It's a semi-holiday for us but I had an early morning client. It's happening more and more lately. The problem w/ corporate fitness is the clients are early morning. I don't want to do the 6-7am so I end up w/ the one or two after that.  I have these two clients who only want to work w/ me and when one is out of town, it leaves me w/ one. They do NOT like this new trainer which I think is the problem.  Anyway, I came home, popped croissants in the oven (love Trader Joe's--I learned to make croissants from scratch but these are so much better than I can make) and am ready for a nap.  

As the teen girl drama goes, I've learned to take myself out of the equation. It's not at all about me but about the feeling down and hating yourself time of life.  I thought, in my naivity, that if I were a good mom, it wouldn't happen. I know there are some girls who get through unscathed but most just have a terrible time of it. I could never do that again and it's hard to see your child go through it. My son, OTOH, and I were talking about how he just sailed through high school w/ no problems.  Granted, he had a lot lower expectations and did well w/out trying academicaly. Girls seem to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders and hate themselves for every little thing.  






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 12:03pm

FSN, you could try more cardio and see if it makes a difference.  

Jean, when I was in college, I worked on a youth self esteem study.  The premise was essentially that around the age of 12, girls self esteem absolutey plummets without any obvious reason.  That drop seems to persist through the teen years.  When I joined the study, it had been going on for a couple of years and was still going on when I graduated.  I don't know if the professor ever came to a conclusion.  But whatever "it" is, I think it explains a lot about the teen girl years (aside from hormonal tornadoes). 

I did cardio intervals this morning.  I've got one client this afternoon.  I'm working on writing stuff this morning. 

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 12:38pm

I would love to find out more about that study.  Even girls who should sail through puberty have problems. My sister was the valedictorian, three sports all state athlete, almost on the home coming queen court (the thing about that is that she never played the HC games or wore make up or anything) and she talked about how miserable high school was.  I wish girls at that age knew how hard it is for everyone. I think it might let them not feel as alone.  

How much cardio do you all do a week?  How long? I used to be meticulous, about an hour almost every day.  Other than running and zumba, I don't get much in these days. I'm not convinced I should do more but there is something nice about being in much stronger cardio shape. I can still do crazy intervals but long term steady state? Not so much any more.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 1:47pm

I have a very peaceful weekend. I didn't get much in the way of housework done but no one other than me will notice. 

Fresh, why does your husband think you need to increase cardio? Congrats to him and your son for their marathon. I've never done one and I am not sure if I ever want to do one. My sister wants me to give some thought to doing one next fall just so we can say we did one. Yowza!

Fall is definitely in the air here too. They are calling for drastic weather changes this weekend. I am hoping the real cold will hold off a few more days as I've signed up to do a 5K on Saturday and I don't really want to run in freezing weather just yet. I want to ease myself into the cold a few minutes at a time. 

Starting today my granddaughter can't be around other children or in public places because of her surgery next week. We are all starting to get nervous as we get nearer to the date. 

I'm heading out this afternoon to do a practice run on the 5K course with the group just so we all know where we are going. I struggle to keep up right now but I am having fun being part of a group.

Supper will be soup/salad tonight at my sister's house. She's having a send off party for her son who leaves for basic training early Wednesday morning. 

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 2:37pm

Hope all goes well w/ your granddaughter!

As doing a marathon goes, I'm sure everyone hear who saw me through mine is sick of hearing about it but it is worth doing, if you're considering. It has nothing to do w/ the marathon itself, which is, to me, incidental. The challenging part is the training for it and it's really good for your self-confidence to be able to get through it and know how tough you can be. I've always felt I gave up on things too easily but I did the whole training, every long run, every short run for months. It was hard thinking every week that I had to run a certain number of miles, farther than I'd ever gone before.  But, when I finished, every single time, I felt this amazing sense of accomplishment.  I still feel that way, all these years later and still talk about it because it means that much to me.  I have no doubt you can do it. The only question is whether you want to or not.






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Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 8:18pm

Jean, I remember your marathon training a few years back and I don't get sick of hearing about things like that. I find it absolutely fascinating!

Years ago I started training for a marathon but got into the really high mileage and stopped. It involved far more of my life than what I was willing to give it at the time. So the training is what I am not sure I want to commit too. I have a couple of half-marathons that I am looking at but I'm not sure where things are going with the granddaughter so I don't want to  make any kind of plans at this point.

But it is really weird... It seems everywhere I go people are telling me stories about the marathon they ran and I feel like it's some kind of sign that maybe a marathon out there is calling my name. LOL! (Didn't we recently have a conversation about this very thing?!)

Karla
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 9:27pm
The girl self esteem issue is so interesting....I've read a lot about how school is really set up for girls to sucres...sit still, pay attention, play nice...and yet when girls reach puberty, that early success seems to evaporate and be replaced by feelings of failure...if you read between our lines, we are not satisfied with all we do, all we have achieved...we are always looking to be better, thinner, stronger, kinder...do more...and yet I know we are amazed by how the women on this board balance the hard parts of life...I had a very dificult time in high school - was bullied in a way that makes me still not trust people. - and I know now that I am one of many with that experience, yet I am somehow still ashamed that it happened to me....I seldom tell people, and I cannot disuss it without crying, 4o plus years later (and yes, I've been to therapy)...outwardly, I did well in school, was part of student government and editor of the year book, but I could hardly wait to graduate and go someplace where no one knew me....and start over. I have a very strong sense of who I am and what I have achieved, but that sad little girl still lives inside me....and I bet we might all say that we felt like we were 'outsiders' in school...it is true that if we knew then what we know now, life would have been easier. One of my mantras is 'the way it is now is not he way it will be forever'. FSN, I wonder if the cleanse is decreasing your metabolism? I answered Jean's 150 minute question above (abnd Ivillage doesn't let me make paragraphs, I do know how!). I do a lot of cardio, and I like how hard it is....swimming is meditative, and running is just a giant challenge...but Karla, I will never run a marathon...maybe you should do the half and see how it goes. My brother ran Boston, his first marathon, on his 54th birthday...and a year later, ran it again, when he was still 54...turned 55 the next day...but he has been running since high school...it was a beautiful day here - I stayed at my dad's last night and the train ride home was lovely...I have determined I can pretty much work from anywhere, including the train...we had two exciting last second sports victories yesterday - Patriots and Red Sox...late night though so I am planning on bed soon. Typical gym Monday -5 minutes on bike, lifting for chest, back, abs, then ran 2 miles.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 11:04pm

Thank you for sharing your experience.  I have similar stories and honestly, sometimes it really pisses me off that I am still affected by things that happened to me when I was a kid.  I think it's almost impossible to really understand what "formative years" are until you're well past them.  I too have trust issues with people and I am always, always suspicious.  I sometimes get admonished for that but it's a self preservation thing.  Old habits die hard.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 10-15-2013 - 7:17am

Yeah, the marathon traiing is intense.  I think, especially since it was my only/first, I was extreme on the discilpline. I didn't want to be untrained for it or have a terrible experience.  A half is much more doable.  It doesn't consume your life.  And, it's still a great accomplishment!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Tue, 10-15-2013 - 7:26am

We had very similar high school experiences.  I wasn't bullied, luckily, but I hung out w/ people who didn't want me around.  Or, so I thought.  I felt really lonely and, as you were saying, like a failure.  I think you should give yourself credit, sj, for getting through high school and being bullied.  The irony is that we can look back and see what we did well but couldn't see it back then.  I was #4 in a class of over 500, editor of the school paper, played volleyball, secretary of the student council (which was an elected position), all state orchestra,etc. so why did I feel like such a loser?  And, the odd part is what I remember most is being friendless. But, with Facebook, I'm surprised at the number of people who have friended me, speak of great times we had in the past that I don't remember at all.  There are people who will talk about specific examples of things we all did together and I don't remember them.  It's too bad I didn't appreciate it at the time.  I wonder if this is common in the world, or just in the US/first world privilege. I'm guessing the latter.






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