Fall Friday

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Fall Friday
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Fri, 11-22-2013 - 6:46am

Originally, I had only one advice client today and it was going to be an easy day.  But, I haven't seen one of my running friends in weeks so we're going for a walk this morning and then I had an unexpected client added on.  I'm annoyed at myself for not saying no because it's a hike and I made a point not to have clients this morning but this guy is a VIP and owns one of the NBA teams. I'm the one who brought him on but haven't trained him in a long time so kind of feel a responsibility. Plus, it thrills my husband.  Enough whining. I'm hoping my advice client cancels so I can go to parkour but they haven't been cancelling much lately.  What are you all doing this weekend?






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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 8:11am

Oy, Jean.  I feel your pain.  One of the things I've been loving about doing freelance writing is that I don't have to drive nearly as much.  

I've got a client this morning and I'm working on finishing the piece I was talking about yesterday.  Assuming I have enough energy, I'm going to try to get a cardio workout in.  It's rainy and cold here today so I just want to stay home and watch movies.  Wink

We're going to see Catching Fire tomorrow and then off to another birthday party.  So many November birthdays!  

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 9:31am

Ugh, dh and I have been fighting.  Dh has a bug up his a$$.  I think he is inse ure about my  going out so much, making comments about me seeing, "...your boyfriend."  I went Dogtraining Monday night, dinner with a friend who is visiting from the east coast Tuesday night, ballroom dance class Wednesday night, work dinner meeting Thursday night, and possibly Linedancing Friday.  I told him he is welcome at all of the events except for the work meeting.  he declined.  :(. He also mentioned that he found a current address for his birth mom...he wrote her 17 years ago, and got no response.  I told him that he needs to decide on whether he wants to try to open that Pandora's box or not, and then, let it go.  A LOT going on, considering the fact that he has pretty much divorced his entire adopted family after his dad's death a year ago, and I am dealing with Alzheimer's with my mom.  He refuses to seek marriage counseling.  I love him, but there is a limit when he won't take responsibility for his negative behavior towards me, citing its all my fault.  Such a male narcissistic viewpoint!  Ah, we'll, I continue to do things that bring me joy...Dogtraining and dance.  :D. Life goes forward.

possible Linedancing tonight unless my girlfriend is collecting for the Washington, IL tornado survivors.  In that case, perhaps I will go to yoga.  :). GR, BOO on the tenant problems. How annoying!  Jean, I hope you enjoy park our today!  Karla, I hope your blisters and sores heal fast!  SJ, enjoy your swimming...I think my swimming days are completely over.  :(

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Registered: 04-07-2008
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 12:24pm

Wow Jean-that is so cool I can say I know someone who trains the owner of an NBA team. LOL! 

I need to learn to say no too. The minute my schedule comes out and my kids find out I have any time off, I am asked to babysit. I love my grandchildren but I am getting frustrated with the kids being dropped off every free minute I have. It would be different if they were a bit older but it is all consuming to babysit infants. I can't get anything at all done. 

The lense fell out of my glasses today so I am using an older pair until I can get them fixed.  Ugg! It makes me realize how much worse my eyesight has gotten. 

I did a random weight/cardio class this morning instead of running (heavy rain) and had fun. I don't usually have time to do stuff like this but it worked out well. I may try to fit it in more often. It was very refreshing to do something that wasn't so intense as some of the other things I have been doing. 

Shopping and cleaning are top of my list this weekend. I have a long run planned for Sunday and it is going to be very cold (20s). Brrrr!

Hope everyone has a great weekend. 

Karla
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Registered: 04-07-2008
In reply to: karla1842
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 12:29pm

Fresh, I hate it when hubby and I go through rough spells. We have been living together for 30 years and you'd think it would get easier all around but in some areas, it doesn't. 

Good luck and I hope you find some peace this weekend. 

Karla
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WALKING
EXERCISE and HEALTHY LIVING

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Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 3:33pm

I'm guessing Catching Fire will be packed this weekend. My daughter was telling me her friends were going to the midnight showing last night. I'm not the cool mom so I never even opened that as an option.  First, it's a school night, second I need my sleep.  

Training was fine, the guy is super nice but it took me over an hour to get there and there was a mix up w/ messages and he never received the note that we were training in the morning.  I had to wait over half an hour for him. My boss helped set up his home gym and his stability ball is way too small.  Sorry, I'm just being a grump today.






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Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 3:37pm

Men, can't live with them, can't...  I'll leave that alone.  I think therapy should be mandatory for all married couples but my husband won't go either. My sister and her husband went, early on in their marriage. They were getting along fine but realized there were some sticking points that they kept coming across so they decided to figure out how to work through them. She said it was great.  They go on occasion now as a family in learning to deal w/ extended family, steps, etc. and it's been very helpful.  She was having problems w/ her stepdaughter and it turns out, from her stepdaughter's view everything she did for was wrong and she was down about it.  My sister learned to relax on some rules, compliment the good, etc. Finding a good therapist can be life changing!






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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: gymrat76
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 5:52pm

Amen to that!  I absolutely love my therapist and have learned so much from her.  DH and I have been together nearly 20 years and we hit those rough spots too.  We're currently in one but I think we're coming out of it.  He doesn't think he will learn anything in counseling but has been willing to go (and has gone on occasion).  When we're really stuck on something, I usually go to my therapist by myself, bring home her advice and suggestions and we process it goether.  

Long term relationships are awesome but they can be very trying as well.  My husband and I are so in tune on so many things and then there are others that we worlds away from each other.  

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Registered: 05-08-2006
In reply to: jeanwl
Fri, 11-22-2013 - 11:07pm
Well, again you ladies make me feel good about being single...no one thinks I go out too much...I know I miss out on the good stuff but it's nice for me to know its not all good... I am a big fan of therapy - an unbiased opinion can be so helpful. No gym today, but Zumba tomorrow. It is supposed to be freezing here on Sunday so I am planning to hibernate, cook and watch football all day. I think all of you are too young to remember where you were 50 years ago today, but I am not...when I was with my dad this weekend, we watched some of the coverage of the anniversary. One of my memories is that it was the first time I saw my father cry, and I was struck by the number of people interviewed who feared up....hardened news reporters and retired secret device agents. I taped some of the programs from today, and I am looking forward to watching it tomorrow.
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Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Sat, 11-23-2013 - 8:58am

It's great that you found one you love.  I've heard that's the hardest part.  The problem for me is that changing behavior is hard.  I'm working on it but I'll bet finding a good therapist would help.






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Registered: 04-05-2002
In reply to: jeanwl
Sat, 11-23-2013 - 9:03am

I just read an article about the guy who shot the footage that we all see of the assassination and the nightmares it's given him.  He said he knew immediately that JKF had died, before it was reported.  We've probably gotten far enough along that those of us who weren't alive outnumber those who were. I remember that being a defining time between "old" and "young" when I was much younger.

There are ups and downs w/ every relationship but there are times I wonder what it would be like to be single and have complete quiet and my life to myself. But, I'm happy w/ my life. I am lucky that my husband is supportive of all that I do and encourages me to do my crazy stuff.  He has no problems w/ my leaving for my ski trips alone and leaving him w/ the family. Those are the things I take for granted until my friends can't go because their husbands don't want them to leave.  It is a lot to ask someone to be a working single parent while the other plays! Mental health breaks are important.






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