fresh start on Monday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
fresh start on Monday
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Mon, 08-26-2013 - 8:55am

So much drama over the weekend!   

As expected, my daughter's father was late in loading up her belongings. So, they didn't get down to her apartment until 10 hours past the expected time of arrival. Not only did my mother not get to see my daughter, I was unable to help her. Her father did not leave until after I left on Sunday, which may have been a passive aggressive move on his part. My daughter, learning from her fathers controlling behavior, called me to come over after I had already left. And, she was upset with ME for not helping her, claiming no responsibility or accountability for the snafus that occurred. It was so hard for me to not go to her apartment to help her, but I set strong boundaries around the timing of my Availability, and she and her father would not respect my time (the plan was that he would be gone by early Saturday afternoon. Additionally, I had offered to take Friday off to move her in a day early, but she chose to have her father move her in, "...because he will do everything for me." Oh well, I remembered Gymrat's comments on the fact that this is her path, her life to live, and I know that I cannot be codependent with her anymore. On the positive side, I got to go ballroom dancing with my mom, spend some quality time with her, and enjoy her company. I also appreciate my husband for listening to me, supporting me, and giving his advice. I think this is bringing the two of us closer together, although it annoys me to no end that he will not accept the reciprocation for his son. Blended family issues are very difficult. Lots of work today, yoga tonight. I am also thinking of doing the quantum wellness cleanse again starting in late September. Or, perhaps, I should just started on my own. The nutritionists and yoga instructor at my gym is running the cleanse, and it's nice to have a support group to do it with because it's hard giving up all of those food groups. However, my cholesterol and glucose and blood pressure are all on the rise, and I would like to stay away from drugs to counteract those numbers for long as possible. What are you all up to today? I heard that around 60,000 people are arriving in Nevada for burning man. I have fond hopes and appreciation for Gymrat!
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 11:46am

Whew, I thought I had a challenging weekend just leaving my son at college but at least I didn't have all the drama you had!  I've been bipolar the past couple of days, alternating between feeling fine and then teary.  I've been busy--did silks and parkour on Saturday (record turn out in the 401pk class of 15 some people!) and then running, capoeira and going out w/ friends on Sunday. We went to see Blue Jasmine. I'm just out of it as movies go and had never heard of it.  It was good to get out, though. I caught zumba this morning and need to get down to study. I've been dragging my feet and it's not good. I think my problem w/ this new cert is that I'm not convinced I need it and am considering switching what I do.  






Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 12:06pm

Fresh, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter drama. I don't know how people deal with ex spouses when it comes to children. It all seems so horribly frustrating.

I am dealing with a dental nightmare. One of the teeth I had bonded last Monday got worse not better. I can't even drink coffee or sip water because of the pain in my face. I went back in today to get xrays and apparently when fixing the crack, pressure was put on the pulp and it is damaged. I now need a root canal and because it is a molar I have to see an endodontist. The soonest anyone can get me in is middle of next week and I have to drive to another city to have it done. In the mean time every meal (even oatmeal!) is painful and my face is throbbing. Half of me is thinking about grabbing a pair of pliers and having at my tooth. Grrr Have I ever mentioned how much I HATE going to the dentist?!

My sister and niece want me to do a warrior dash with them in October and I am thinking about doing it. It is quite a drive but I am thinking it might be really fun. I don't like to run but add in the obstacles and it sounds very interesting. Has anyone ever done one?

I am going to try to get 5 miles in later today. I did weights yesterday so today is just walking/jogging.

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 2:24pm

Sorry about your tooth! The hardest part of a root canal for me is the TMJ but other than that, it's like a long cavity being filled. Why can't we have laughing gas???

I'm signed up for a diva dash 5k next month. It seems like a toned down version of the warrior dash. There are too many of those obstacle course races that involve intentional pain, eg. electrical shocks, people batting you w/ foam batons, etc. I want to challenge myself but I don't want pain! I'm also wondering about logisitics--I don't want to be getting into my car when I'm all wet and muddy!






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-26-2013 - 7:14pm
Ugh, ugh, and more ugh on the tooth pain! Sorry to hear about your plight! I HATE tooth pain. Dn't feel shy about asking for stronger meds. There is no reason for you to. Be in agony...especially when you have to wait to we the Endo. Also, many endos DO have the gas, which significantly reduces the anxiety AND pain. I searched for the only Endo in my area who uses a combination of three numbing agents, and has gas on hand in case you need it. He is the ONLY clinician who has gotten me numb the first time when working on my teeth. I pay the extra money to see him just because he gets me numb.