Heat wave on Wednesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Heat wave on Wednesday
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Wed, 07-17-2013 - 10:27am

It feels like an oven outside! Work today, either elliptical/yoga or Linedancing tonight. Since my daughter is on vacation with her father this week, there has been no drama...YEA! Only, I have to prepare an "options sheet" for her. Ugh. I have also started to plan our Seattle itinerary for vacation next month. yEA! Fun! My niece is getting married so dd and I are making a week of fun. I am sure there will be plenty of family drama along with the fun, but I will try to stay outside of that stuff...I could always leave them and go play in the wind tunnel by myself. :D I am back to healthy/clean eating. I want my numbers DOWN!!!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 1:13pm

FSN, an "options sheet", eh?  Listing her "areas of opportunity"?  Tongue Out  Corporate-ese always cracks me up. 

I did an hour on the elliptical this morning.  Have to run around a bunch this afternoon - pick up a script, return pants, pick up orthotics, buy veggies and get a massage.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 1:34pm

Haha! Yesterday I said I had a zillion things to do and had expected to get a half-zillion done by dinner. I didn't get one thing done because we had a BABY! My granddaughter, Milan, was born weighing in at a whopping 5lbs 3oz. She is small but healthy and we do expect her to go home on Friday. Her mom went for a check up and they sent her straight to labor and deliver to get a c-section because the baby wasn't moving. Everything turned out fine and all the horrible predictions and warnings about all that would be wrong with her were wrong.

So I am exhausted but happy. I have to work tonight so won't have a chance to get to the gym. :-)

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 1:45pm

Congrats, Karla! How exciting!  It alls puts into perspective the stuff we HAVE to do vs the stuff we think we have to do/  Enjoy the new granddaughter!






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 1:49pm

Yeah, what is an "options sheet"? Is it about what she wants to do next year? What about having her put together what she wants and you can discuss it?  Let her take the lead?

I went to turbokick and then stayed for zumba. I posted this thing on FB about running and demons recently. One thing that stuck w/ me was the stupid synchronicity of gym classes. Having done that for the most part of my life, it makes me chuckle.  It is really odd having everyone in the room doing the exact same thing at the same time.  






iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 4:21pm

Congrats Karla! 

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 6:53pm
Karla, a big congratulations to you. Enjoy every moment with those grandbabies. :D. Ladies, perhaps the "options sheet "is to corporate? So far, the options I envision our that one, she goes back to school and sucks it up, two, she goes to junior college locally and lives by my horrific house rules, or three, she goes and lives with her father and does what she wants. I really do not have control of the latter option, and she knows it is an available option, so I may as well spell it out. I really feel badly that her self-esteem so low that she would actually put her studies the side and her academic options besides just so she can stay local and be with her boyfriend. But, it is her life and if I force her to go back to school, I can't force her to study and get good grades which would mean I'm wasting a boatload of money. . So many issues. I'm in a fight with my husband right now because his son did not even tell him that a friend was coming over to our house today. His son did ask me, and my husband's response was that he asked me because I am the one that has an issue and my husband has no issue with anyone coming over. I told him that was irresponsible because of our states, parents are responsible for everything that goes on in the house, and some parents have even gone to jail because of what their children's friends were doing in the house. When I asked my husband if he knew anything about this boy, all he could say was that he goes to the same church that the sun goes two, which means he's a good kid. I told him that going to church this not make someone good, and that we need to know more about who is in the house when we are not there. My husband lets his sons slide on everything, and he does not let my children slide on anything. It's very annoying to be in a blended family. I'm going to line dancing and leaving the "boys "to be on their own tonight.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 7:47pm

Did you ask your daugher what her plans are? Maybe you and she could discuss it, instead of giving her a list of options?  Maybe what she wants doesn't fall into that?  I haven't been there but it seems like discussion is better than ultimatums, especially if her self esteem is low and she seems lost.  

Do you expect your kids to ask both of you when they want to do something? Mine tend to ask me and my husband goes along with it, which it what it sounds like happened with you? What did you tell your son when he asked you?  How frustrating that your husband has a double standard as the kids go! It must be especially hard for them because they do see it, too!  Have you talked to him about it?






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Wed, 07-17-2013 - 9:45pm
FSN, I have no kids, and I've supported myself, including putting myself through college, since I was 18...so my perspective on this is skewed by that...but I would think the choices are...you go to school, and Mom supports you, or you figure out a way to support yourself...I think, (said gently) you are enabling her...she is an adult....stop being Mommy...(and this is why I have no kids)....Karla, congratulations! I am so glad everything went well..despite not wanting to be a mother, I am sorry to not be a grandmother...Jean, I like the synchronicity of Classes...especially if I happen to be going in the right direction in Zumba...Gymrat, you reminded me that I need a massage. I wn't to a foam rolling session tonight. My trainer is teaching it, and do I wn't to support him. It was surprisingly painful, which I guess means I need to o it more. Five minute bike warm up, lifting or legs, abs, swam 30 laps in the big pool...I love summer...it is jot here and it stays light late, so I could really enjoy the pool...
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 07-18-2013 - 8:26am
The problem with my daughter is that she has an EXTReMELY hard time making decisions AND she is superb at procrastinating...unfortunately, my ex and I have a court order mandating that we pay for four years of college, so there is a legal element I don't want to "play around with." And, I don't want to waste my money if she won't/doesn't get good grades. I can't tell if she is depressed or if she is just rebelling, but I also don't want to take a chance if she truly is depressed. She told me there was a two week period where she didn't go to classes...felt paralyzed. :(. She is currently seeing a therapist (that I found for her,) and perhaps I should call her directly...I dunno. "Calgon, take me away..."
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 07-18-2013 - 12:00pm

I love the synchronicity of a good advanced step class, and most dancy classes. My sister is an outdoor mountain biker and tried spinning and she said it all seemed so oddly meaningless, doing the exact same thing at the same time as the person next to you, especially sitting that close in a dark room. I think she has a point and I used to be a certified instructor!






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