It's a new start on Monday

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Registered: 09-25-2003
It's a new start on Monday
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Mon, 05-06-2013 - 8:41am

I had a refreshing weekend. How about everyone else? I worked through all of my lawyer's notes, and responded with my questions, in preparation for court next week. Go forward. I didn't awesome yoga class on Saturday, and my upper back is screaming. My attention to my upper back from the physical therapist is why, and I am already feeling less pain in the thoracic area. I  Am ecstatic that I finally found someone with a noninvasive solutions my pain. Plus, I found someone to give me a massage, and have a covered by insurance. I go visit my mom this weekend, and I think it's time for some difficult conversations. She has been having more "issues."And I'm afraid for her safety. I hope to speak with your doctor, as well. Depending on how I feel, I may go to late night two hours of yoga tonight. What is everyone else up to?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 9:54am

Yay! I clicked on "reply" and it took me to the correct spot without having to log in multiple times.  

My weekend was mostly quite nice.  I had a massage and spent some time with my best friend.  Also, watched a bunch of movies, journaled and had time to myself.  

The not-so-nice part of my weekend is that I found out someone close to me is doing something that I believe is highly unethical.  This is not something I would have ever expected from her and I am really struggling to reconcile this behavior with the person that I've known for such a long time.  

Doing strength training this morning and possibly more journaling.  I've got one client this afternoon.  DH is home and I'm happy to see him.  We had a lovely evening last night.  

Breakfast: Jimmy Dean sandwich 

Snack: protein shake 

Lunch: veggie wheatberry salad 

Snack: turkey pepperoni 

Dinner: broccoli, black rice and quinoa salad 

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 10:19am

Fresh, I am so glad to hear you finally had a relaxing weekend. I totally know how difficult the situation is with your mother. We grew more and more concerned with my fil's safety and our fears became reality when he fell and was unable to get back up by himself and couldn't even call for help because he forgot everyone's phone number.

Gym, that is sad about your friend. Have you tried talking to her about her behavior?

It rained all weekend here so I got a lot of stuff done. lol It's crazy we have to have a continual downpour for me to stay put long enough to do housework. 

Karla
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 12:06pm

Karla, I have and she knows how I feel about it.  She's justifying it and the way she's justifying it is astounding and disturbing to me that I wonder if she hasn't just convinced herself this is okay because it what she wants.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 2:49pm

It's hard when someone acts so out of (your idea of their) character. Hopefully, one day she'll look back and realize that she did try to justify it wrongly.  It's really hard for me to overlook ethical flaws.  Not that I'm perfect or anywhere close...






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 2:53pm

Sorry to hear about your mom.  You're such a definite plan of action person--what are you going to do?

I went to a wine and food festival on Saturday at the National Harbor. The festival was lame but I had a good times w/ friends and the weather was beautiful. I took my daughter and her friends to do aerial silks yesterday. I finally had a good night sleep last night--this is really stupid but I finally unclogged my ear and it made all the difference. You'd think having clogged ears would let me sleep better!

I had early morning clients this morning and think I'm just taking today as a rest day. I'm feeling bleah and think it's TOM stuff. As I get nearer menopause (or so I hope), it wipes me out more and more. I seriously can't wait for it to happen.






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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 3:48pm
. As for my mom, I'm hoping that the doctor can run a simple test, which is mostly verbal questions, and make some notations. That way, at least, documents some of the issues. I've already read through her Long-term care insurance policy to find out what the requirements are so that she can take advantage of the insurance that she's paid into for most of her working life. It is sad, but when my dad started his decline, he always felt comfort in knowing that he had the long-term care insurance. But, my mother did not follow the policy guidelines, so she was unable to benefit from that insurance policy, despite the fact that he had paid into it for over 50 years. That just made me sick. Anyways, I think it's time for me to have a direct heart-to-heart talk with my mom. It won't be easy. And I fear that she is going to get very angry. But, I fear for her safety. In the meantime, my allergies are at its peak. I feel miserable, similar to how you feel when you have the flu. I am so tempted to have a nice cup of coffee, but after three weeks of no caffeine, I don't want to blow my new healthy diet. Gym, I hate when you find out something like that about a friend. I've had a couple very close friends who I thought I knew, but after certain things reveal themselves to me, I realize my perception and the reality were two very different things. I had to back off of our friendship for a while, while I settled into the new reality. Once I was clear about the new reality, I was able to continue the friendship. Karla, how was your wrist doing? Wasn't that really bothering you last year? I vaguely recall you went to a specialist. Is that resolved? Jean, a wine festival sounds phenomenal at this moment. By the way, your daughter and her friends are awesome at the aerial silks.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 4:19pm
FSN, yeah, that's where I'm at. Needing space to adjust to a "new reality." Unfortunately, there's a lot of social things coming up so it's going to be weird.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 4:34pm
I feel the same way. If you do something unethical and realize it's a mistake, that's forgivable. But to defend unethical behavior... Yeesh. Tough.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 5:46pm

I'm not going to say anything you haven't thought of but her getting angry at the expense of her future is an easy choice.  Maybe the talk w/ your mom should be done along w/ the doctor.  Have you read Still Alice? I think we talked about it here.






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 5:47pm

I'd honestly have problems continuing a friendship where the person was unethical, even if she thought it was excusable. Well, it does depend on what the area is.  






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