it's only Wenesday?!

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
it's only Wenesday?!
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Wed, 10-24-2012 - 9:29am

It feels like Friday.  I feel like someone beat me up.  I'm exhausted.  My hormones are raging, such that I am so dizzy, as if I have the worst hangover, but I didn't drink anything.  :O

Work today, my one linedance appointment got cancelled, so I will either go linedancing with another friend or dh has a neighborhood softball end-of-season party that I should go to, but I just don't feel like going to.  :(  I don't feel like pretending that I am in a good mood and want to have idle chit chat with everyone.  I feel like being anti-social.

Work today, I dunno on a workout tonight.  I'm wishy washy.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 11:06am

Hey Fresh,

I'm so sorry you are feeling so yucky. I think stress will do that to you. 

I spent last night working on hubby's resume and tonight we are going to tweak it and start sending it off. This is so not easy. Ugg. 

I am hoping to hit the gym today to get in some weight lifting. My workouts have been so sporadic. I keep telling myself that things will calm down and I'll just have to create a new "normal". 

Karla
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 1:26pm

I "hear ya", Karla.  I helped my dh with his resume and professional accomplishments book (aka "brag book") for him after he took a 20 year hiaitus from interviewing.  Everything changed from 20 years ago, and he felt like a fish out of water!  Luckily, he was so persistent, that he landed quickly, but it was a challenging process for him!

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Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 1:54pm

Fresh, it's awful. He hasn't applied for a job in 26 years. I consulted with a professional resume writer who gave me some ideas and made suggestions. We're looking over interview tips for men his age. Everything has changed so much it is amazing. 

We are thinking of a complete career change for him but don't know where to begin. How did your hubby decide what to apply for?

Karla
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Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 1:59pm

Is the dizziness hormonal?  I wake up some mornings and feel like I had too much to drink the night before, only I didn't have anything.  It's not a bad hangover feeling but just dizzy.

Our trainer who did the early morning clients quit (she had a full time job and doing both wiped her out--she lasted far longer than I thought she would with those hours) so I've been given the early morning clients, starting at 6am.  I'm not sure how happy I am about it but it is part of the job and when I get to work, there are already a number of people there who do it every day so I should probably just suck it up for three days a week.  I have to be thankful that they had a trainer who was willing to get there early for one or two clients, before heading off to a full time job.

Anyway, I need a day off so I'm taking a rest day.  I have a webinar tonight on posturally safe bicep and tricep exercises. I'm thinking they're going to tell us no tricep dips. I've never done a webinar before. I hope it's okay if I fall asleep because I'm already tired!






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Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 2:01pm

My husband did that a few years ago when he retired from the military.  He'd never done a real resume before. When you come down to it, jobs aren't given based on resumes as much as who you know.  The resume is a formality.  Honestly, my husband's was terrible, even though I tried to help him.






Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 4:35pm

My dh went for a job doing the same thing but in a different industy.  Because jobs are so hard to get these days, he went for jobs below what he was doing. He contacted every person he could think of, and let them know he was interested in finding work.  He got on Linked In and networked there, had former coworkers and managers write recommendations for him.  He was on the phone a LOT, selling himself to his network, AND he looked online (e.g., hotjobs.com,etc.) for openings.  He took every interview he could (phone screens and in-person) which was excellent practice for the job he finally got.  It was a gruelling process of multiple days and multiple hours of interviews with many setbacks, but, finally, a job.  Because he was willing to take a job below his experience level, he got a job within a couple months.  He worked his butt off, and got a promotion within a year, but that is almost unheard of these days.  Some of his peers were out of work for over a year because they refused to investigate jobs below their existing "level", but with this economy, I don't think that is realistic.

Has your dh thought about a career/life coach?  That might help him to find what he is "passionate" about and "marry" his skills set with something he enjoys.  Just a thought.  I dunno. I view my job as a paycheck, and try to find things that I like that stem from the job (meeting new people, learning about their lives, conflict resolution,etc.)  I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up....if I decide to grow up.  Regardless, the resume should have just enough information to get him into the interview,loaded with actual achievements that can be backed up with results.

Jean is right, though, and there is some insance percent like 80% of jobs are through your network.  Since I never used my network, I missed out on a LOT of opportunities, and I guess I pushed my square peg in round holes all my life.  :(

Anyways, I coached dh on the interview process based on what I learned 10 years ago, when I re-entered the workforce.  Luckily, he was open to my opinions and not too stubborn to be a "know-it-all" on that front.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 4:40pm

Yeah...menopause. The ladies who have been through it tell me, "one day, that will be over..." Ugh.

Your schedule is exhausting me.  Will you cut it out?  I feel like a slacker.  lol.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 6:00pm
I can still only quick reply and see the original post... FSN - If you don't feel like be social, don't. Being social when I'd rather be alone just makes me that much more miserable. No workout today and just one client.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 10-24-2012 - 8:07pm

Hmmm, I've never heard about a career/life coach. Where do you find one? I think he could use some advice other than from me. It sounds like a good idea and probably might help him land something that he likes and is interesting.

Thankfully he isn't in a desperate situation. He is in good standing and doesn't "have" to leave if he doesn't find anything he likes.  

Karla
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