Looking forward to the next decade Friday!

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Looking forward to the next decade Friday!
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Fri, 02-07-2014 - 7:52am

I touched up my roots this morning because I didn't want to start my new decade gray.  So vain!  I'm feeling kind of down/stressed today.  For the past 2 1/2 years, my husband has been worried he's going to lose his job. It's like living w/ Eeyore, seriously.  A few months ago, they promoted him CIO which I thought would put that to rest but no, he was still worried. Last month, they promoted him to VP and gave him a big raise. Yesterday, he tells me he thinks they've hired his replacement.  I asked him why they'd bother promoting him and giving him a big raise (and bonus) if they were going to fire him and he had no reason. But, he's convinced they're going let him go. It's just draining living w/ that! I don't know if changing jobs would help but I'm thinking he's just a negative person and no matter what happens, he's going to expect the worst.  At the same time, if he's felt this way for the past couple of years, why hasn't he made an effort to move on?  Ugh. I think it's especially frustrating to me because I'm such an optimist and if things aren't working out, I just move on (which is why career path is all over the place).  

Anyway, I have a couple of clients today and am scheduled for a much needed massage.  I might head to the hotel tonight so I don't have to get up quite so early tomorrow but I need to repack if I do. I'll confess I never really unpack--my suitcase is in the corner of the room, I refill as needed and am ready to go.






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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 02-07-2014 - 8:33am

Lol.  Speaking as someone who has feared being fired (live survived five rounds of layoffs and seen many of my coworkers get fired,) I also know that many companies manage with fear.  They learned it from their own families, and, now, the world is blessed with them to pass it down from generation to generation.  it's a sick way tmotivate ate people, and the sad truth is that you can get better work out of positive reinforcement, buit that means that the manager has to trust his/her direct reports.  Additionally, I can speak personally as someone who was raise with fear, always encouraged to set up a contingency plan "Just in case."  That basis is probably one of the reasons I always over prepare, and those around me see that, and perhaps that is one reason why I have been so "lucky" to have weathered the last five rounds of layoffs?  Still, I know it is taxing on my family.  Even my daughter has come to "ignore" all of my worrying, always confident that I won't be laid off (they pre announce layoffs so that we can worry even more during that time period.  Lol)

im back.  I flew in late last night.  I am BEAT, waiting for a shipment for work, and then off to work I go to launch my new product.  I wish they would have given us today as a business planning day, but no, we are expected to do that on the weekend.  :(. Once again, I don't think they understand that they would get more loyalty if they would give us those types of "perks."  Gee, we were in meetings from 8am through 9pm on most nights (they tried to keep us out of trouble, although a few people are rumored to have gotten fired...thstats predicted at least five people would get fired for various stupid behavior.). The next three months are going to be jampackedbusy.  I would rather go to yoga, have a leisurely lunch,  then finalize my business plan, do my dministrative work, and be set for a great first week of a launch on Monday.  :(. Ok, I need some cheese to pair up with that whine.  :D. Make it a great day/weekend!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 02-07-2014 - 8:48am

Jean, have a wonderful birthday and enjoy yourself!  Your husband is in the military, right?  Miltary careers tend to be very long term so perhaps that's where his difficulty lies - it's hard to move on from what you know.  I sympathize.  I thought of FSN, my mom (when she was working) and my MIL (when she was working).  Same deal.  

FSN, reading your schedule is exhausting!  I certainly hope you get some time to regroup this weekend.  

I was out all day yesterday so I could be home today.  I'm going to do a workout of some kind (not sure what yet) and we're getting our bed today.  I'm washing all of the bedding and am going to take the opportunity to vaccum under the bed (I'm a little horrified about what I might find under there).  I've got a writing project that I need to start.  Not a lot of plans for the weekend which was intentional.  Best friend and her partner are coming over Saturday for movies and hanging out.  Bunch of us are going to a food thing on Sunday.  Hoping to have a relaxing weekend!  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Fri, 02-07-2014 - 12:08pm

Jean, I have spent the last two years listening to the same thing from my husband. Maybe it is an age thing where they suddenly feel scared to know that there is a possible younger or stronger person lurking around.... maybe that alpha-dog type thing. 

I am ready to pack up and move to Florida. Ice, ice, ice. Ugg. Ice belongs in a cold drink-not on the roads and walkways. :-)

I never got to the gym yesterday. I had some much needed housework to do so I will most likely get there today. We are expecting a couple more inches of snow this weekend so I think I am going to hang out at the gym for a few hours to boost my spirits if I can get there safely.

SJ, I see you are watching the Olympics. I hope to catch a little Olympic TV time this weekend. 

Karla
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Registered: 04-07-2008
Fri, 02-07-2014 - 12:09pm

Fresh, I have survived several rounds of layoffs and downsizes too. It is definitely hard on the ole nerves. :-)

Karla
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Fri, 02-07-2014 - 10:24pm
Jean - happy skiing Birthday! I have worked for 35 years and I have never been sure about keeping my job....despite knowing that I am good at what I do and have always received good reviews. I was laid off once, and honestly, it was the best thing for me...I was already looking for a job and found one quickly, so the severance money was a bonus, and the new job provided good opportunities...but I still expect to be fired any day...at this point, it would be a good thing because I could collect Unemployment and then retire. I think that corporate America sucks the life out of you while making you feel worthless....and yet, tons of incompetent people have jobs...go figure. I like everything works out for the best' as a mantra. Iam watching the Opening ceremonies in Socki....interesting Russian History lesson....I have to attend some work calls tomorrow but I hope to get to Zumba....or something. And go to the grocery store which seems to be the biggest adventure lately. Have a great weekend everyone!.