Making it a trifecta "tired" with Thursday

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Registered: 04-05-2002
Making it a trifecta "tired" with Thursday
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Thu, 04-25-2013 - 7:50am

I don't know why I'm so tired! It's not physically tired but I just want to sleep.  I think I'm sleeping better these days, too, but w/ my early morning work schedule, I'm waking up early every day, even when I don't have to work.  I'm thinking I might give up part of my job come summer. Oh, did I tell you all we might go to Costa Rica this summer?  I'd love to do an extended trip w/ the family before my son goes off to school, added to which he's going to UVa and it won't cost us anything so we don't have to worry about paying for a private school for four years...and it also means we can legitimately tell our daughter to go to a state school, too.  

I'm teaching step this morning, doing aerial silks this afternoon, teaching dancer conditioning this evening.  Oh, I think I have a new semi-private silks partner, too.  The young model like partner is going another time to join the 'performance" level students.  My new partner for now is this cute young Brazilian samba/salsa/ballroom instructor guy. Yeah....






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Registered: 04-07-2008

I would absolutely love to go to Costa Rica. With a new HVAC and two grandchildren coming, I seriously doubt we will go anywhere this year. Waaaaaa!

The sun is shining today and it looks so beautiful out (though it is very cold). It is so hard to believe May is just around the corner. Mine and hubby's 27th anniversary is Sunday. What a ride it has been!!

I didn't make it to the gym last night. My daughter and her husband came over so we had pizza and visited with them. I am going to try to get in a weight circuit this evening.

I'd probably better have some veggies today. I think I'll throw some chicken on the grill too. 

Karla
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Registered: 03-15-2004
FSN - Saw your post from yesterday about your meeting today. Are you this person's superior? If not (and I didn't get the impression that you are), her supervisor should be confronting her. As a peer, that puts you in a really awkward position. (Aside from the fact that such conversations are never fun. Possibly rewarding but never fun.) Jean - A Costa Rica trip sounds wonderful. Three of my friends went in January and loved it. And I'm SO SORRY to hear about your silks partner... You poor thing. Try and cope, okay? (And maybe snap a few covert pictures with your phone... "So I can show my kids what I'm doing".... Riiiight. Not for the dirty old ladies on a message board.) I'm on an upswing, I think. I don't think I'll feel better in terms of sinus/allergy stuff until we hit 100 degrees and stay there. I need life around me to die before I feel better. Mentally though, I'm in a better place. Yay therapy. I spent an hour doing yoga yesterday and another 30 minutes rolling my muscles with my roller and also my rolling pin (because I'm a masochist like that). I'm kind of sore but my knees actually feel better today. I was suspecting that my leg/glute/hips were so tight, they were pulling on my knees and making them ache. I confirmed with my massage therapist that this is actually possible and it is. I'm going to do cardio this morning and then spend some more quality time with my rolling devices. Two clients today - one this morning and one this afternoon. And then I'm done for the week. Woo. DH and OP leave for the regional next week and while I'm bummed that I'm not going, I am starting to really look forward to the time by myself. I left a message on Monday for a tattoo artist that I'm interested in working with and am hoping she contacts me soon so we can get started.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002

The more corrective exercise/postural stuff I do, the more I roll.  I've been told a softball or lacrosse ball works great but my foam roller is painful enough.  Defintely tight glutes can cause knee problems. We learn about the whole chain of movement in the CES course.  The problem is, as they say, people come in and say they want to lose weight. No one goes to a trainer and says, "My tight plantaar fascia is causing my TMJ, can you fix it?"  So, it's about balance in getting it in a session.






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 04-25-2013 - 10:24pm
Hieveryone...some of my colleagues from Krakow are in town, and I have been out every night..lfun but not my normal life. Iam not that tired, but I am very busy in my dreams...not sure what I am doing, but I wake up thinking about being busy...Jean,we must all struggle for our art, even if that means literally hanging with well built Brazilians....be brave. FSN - I am with Gymrat - sounds like inappropriate delegation to me. Karla, you and DH should grab a wEekend away....Gymrat, enjoy alone time....I went to the guy tonight..no warmup because I was late (i walk to the gym, so I am warmed up when I arrive). Lifting for legs, abs, ran 1.75 miles in 24:35.
Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
Ugh. The meeting went well and not so well at the same time. It turned out that there were actually two people that are my peers that made some passive aggressive disparaging remarks. Since I have a very strong fight or flight reaction, i did not have all my logical wits about me. I tried to compose myself and make a rebottle, but they were rude and seemed to simply dismiss my comments. On the other hand, my one coworker backed down about a specific issue, although it seems that she lied to cover herself. I am documenting the issues to my manager, and from this point forward, I will minimize my contact and activity with those two coworkers who are NOT team players. It's really a shame that my company can't see the forest through the trees. I now work in an extremely hostile non- team environment. It's ironic, the new motto is "lead is one". HAH! I have to stay focused on the positive things about my job because the two individuals are making it very difficult as I feel like I'm cleaning up their mess. It's ironic, though, because they think they are cleaning up my mess. Despite the fact that I had one of the leading territories for two years in a row, they Honestly believe that I am horrible at what I do in my job. Ego-driven, narcissistic, abusive personalities tend to throw good people Under a bus, so now I have to watch my back. (Sigh)
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Registered: 03-15-2004

It's interesting...  As it's been a long time since I worked in a "group environment" and my relationship skills have improved, I've had an interesting "bird's eye" view of things when friends vent to me about the type of issues you're having.  

I've concluded that most people aren't usually hateful, spiteful people.  If you can truly put yourself in their shoes (which is nearly impossible to do if you're on the other side and impassioned about the subject), you can start to see the breakdown between the two people. 

If you can focus on their intentions and their skills (or lack thereof), it can help to understand their position and "soften" your feelings a bit.  Even if no resolution can happen between the two people, I find it more comfortable (and frankly, healthy) if I can feel sorry for someone's lack of skills rather than believing they wake up with the intention of making  my life miserable.  

Hope that helps.  

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003

Gym rat, thank you so much for your words. Yes, that actually does help a great deal. My company, which is very large, bought their company, which was very small. As you might guess, their company culture was significantly different than our company culture. My impression is that they are being extremely aggressive towards me, not only because they were hired to be aggressive, but also because they are, in some ways, having a temper tantrum about having to try to adjust to these changes. Since I am not a manager, and more of a peer, they are bullying me. They know that they are more at risk of losing their jobs if a realignment were to occur, however, they feel that they are much superior to all of the employees at my company, including me. And, as true to my nature, I always want everyone to be nice to each other and to just get along. And it doesn't help that they have very abusive behavior, yet another trigger for me given my experience with my Ex-husband.

And part of the irony of the situation is that because they weren't able to impact sales with their products very effectively the owners of their Company sold out our company. And still these people think that they know better even thofails hey failed.

Anyways, thanks for your comments and I'll try to think more about their position.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 04-26-2013 - 12:22pm
Based on what you've just written, I think it's pretty clear they're feeling extremely defensive. And given the situation, I think that's understandable. Now, it doesn't excuse their behavior and in a perfect world, they'd wake up and say "Oh! I've been behaving very defensively. I need to work on that." But... since that rarely happens, it might be something for you to keep in mind when they're getting your hackles up. Also, keep in mind that people do what works (regardless of how unhealthy it may be). So, perhaps behaving defensively (or bullying or whatever) got them ahead with the last company. Keeping these things in mind doesn't fix the situation but I find that it does wonders to improve my attitude. (And good for you for recognizing that they're setting off a trigger.)
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002

How fun that they are visiting! Have they been here before?






Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002

Nice insight.  It's appropriate for all situations when dealing w/ unpleasant people. It'll be hard to keep that in mind when I'm annoyed but I will try!