New day on Wednesday

Community Leader
Registered: 09-25-2003
New day on Wednesday
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Wed, 05-15-2013 - 7:20am

I feel like a Dog licking her wounds today. My App is a trigger for me. At 6 foot seven, now overweight, loud argumentative voice, and a little slow on the intellectual side, it's very annoying for me to be around. Even his lawyer and the judge yelled at him. The bottom line is I have to pay child support for two years, until my son is 18. He is completely unreasonable, and it seems that he just want to go back to court over and over again argue that he is right I'm wrong. At one point, I told him to back off to go to another room. Even his lawyer was annoyed with him, and came out to meet me and my lawyer to complain about. c'est la vie.

My mother's decline continues, and I wonder how long it will be before she decides to go to assisted living. I hope I don't have to force her, but the memory loss is much more apparent now. I spent another hour on the phone trying to get her phone number back. It's a long story, but she changed carriers twice, and they're having trouble porting the number back. What is also sad is that she cannot remember a new phone number. So I have spent at least four hours on hold, being disconnected, being transferred, with three representatives from Comcast told me that they will call me back, and then just blowing me off. Hopefully, persistence will pay off this time. Lots of work today, and possibly a yoga class tonight. Either that, world take the dog on a long walk. I should really book travel for my daughter and I to go to Seattle for a week this summer, as well. My niece is getting married so that should be a happy event. I don't look forward to seeing my diss own brother, who is getting back together with his ex wife. I brother is also abusive which is why my mother and I both sound. It's funny, but my other brother wanted me to be the bad guy in saying that the disowned brother was not allowed to go to the wedding. Really?! I told the "good "brother that it was his choice since it was his daughter getting married. G, I think it sort of a week of lots of conflict for me. It must be the eclipse. ;) It's all good. I've got my health, my immediate family my health, my dogs, and a job life is good.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 8:15am

FSN, since there was an outcome in court, does that mean you're done with the ex?  Or will he find new and improved reasons to take you to court? My parents had a very ugly and bitter divorce and I remember it was just one thing after another...   

I got a good night's sleep last night and it's just amazing what it can do for one's outlook.  I'm going to do some type of cardio this morning and I have a client this afternoon.  I've got a fair amount to do around the house (much of it organizing which has a strange calming effect on me) so it'll be nice to be home most of the day.  Tonight, we've got a camp friend in from CA so we're doing a dinner...  10 people at a restaurant with really good drinks.  Should be a good time.  

Community Leader
Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 10:51am

Fresh, I too was wondering if this means the end of the court appearances. And I have so been there on the phone thing. My father-in-law changed carriers several times without even realizing it. They'd call and say they were his phone company and he'd give out all the info they needed to change things. Finally, I got a hold of his original carrier and got things straightened out and was able to put some kind of lock on his account to where the carrier could not be changed without both of our permission.

You also may want to look into your mother's bank accounts and credit cards to make sure she isn't just giving out her info to anyone who calls. I had to close my fil's bank account when he gave out his account numbers and balance to two women at an apartment complex he thought he might like to live in. He didn't even know their names. He just happened to mention it to me as an afterthought. One of the women called me two days later to let me know that he had given out his information and she thought maybe someone needed to know what he was doing. I thanked her for her honesty. 

It is supposed to get to the 80's today so I am going to wrap things up inside and head to the park!

Karla
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 2:39pm

Sorry to hear about all you're going through.  Karla had good suggestions on ways to manage your mom's phone and such.  Is there any way to get her a paid companion?  She probably won't accept someone in her home, though. If you want to go to Seattle, check out the flights soon.  Prices are headed up I've heard.  I go to Kayak.com and put in a search and they email me when prices change.

I had early morning clients and then went to Zumba. I was showing a client the pull up, then leg raises and slowly straighten the arms to lower the body move and he made a comment about my arms being like Popeye's. Ummm, thanks?  I don't even lift weights, other than body weight (although that's quite a lot of weight...).  I just made chocolate chip cookies but have to start eating better.  I'm really feeling it in the waist.






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Registered: 05-08-2006
Wed, 05-15-2013 - 9:26pm
FSN -,your story makes me happy my parents worked hard to parent us together even after divorce. Of course, their story was a different one thn yours - my dad left and knew he caused a lot of pain, and my mother never really stopped loving him and didn't want to hurt him - but at least the money we didn't have didn't get spent on lawyers. The need to be 'right' is so non productive. I suggest tht your non-working daughter research the trip to Seattle..find the best flights and hotels...delegate, delegate....Gymrat, when I am very stressed, I feel the need to hang everything in my closet by color...or roll coins...Karla, glad you are enjoying summer! Jean, I think it was a compliment..muscular rms are in this year! I flew back from NJ mid day so I could lift with my trainer tonight. The flight takes 36 minutes, but it is a minimum 3.5 hours door to door. I can 'work' pretty much the whole time, and am only off the grid using the flight. I was on a conference call when I reached security, and all I did was take out the earphones and send the phone through baggage heck. Thy never even knew I was gone...I did 14 minutes on bike, lifting for chest/back, abs, and ran 2 miles in 26:43. Running is finally starting to feel good...not great, but good.
Community Leader
Registered: 04-05-2002
Thu, 05-16-2013 - 7:23am

That's a good suggestion to let fsn's daughter plan the trip.  I need to teach my kids how to do it so they know it doesn't all just happen. Darn, I need to teach my husband that, too!  I don't think I told you all that he gave me a book on Costa Rica for Mother's Day.  I already am reading two and making plans so I told the family their job was to read the new book and see what they want to do.  My son asked, "You mean, it's a gift that's an assignment?"  Yeah, that's exactly what it was.